RockGuy87 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 We broke up on Tuesday. We both were WAY to stressed out with things that were out of our control. I picked my things up yesterday and we had a good talk. I acted cool and told her I was fine with it and I had realized akt after getting out of the situation. She asked everything I had realized. She cried and made it out that she wanted to work but just couldn't. We ended it off by joking about some things and smiling. She likes my favorite football team and she told me she was for sure going to try and watch and if not would check the score and root for them. We smiled and laughed and I said thanks for the talk and getting my stuff back and she just said welcome and said have a good day. It's just the look on her face and the way she said all of that that really stuck out to me. Anyways so to the point. Today would be our one year anniversary and I'm wondering if I say something and if so. What do I say. Sure I wish she would just reach out but as of now she hasn't and i don't think she will. She is one that if she even wanted to she still would make herself not to because of the situation. So what do I do? It hasn't even been a week since the break up and I miss her.
Author RockGuy87 Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 Could really use some quick advice
Pens55 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Personally, I wouldnt. The relationship has ended, which kind of negates any anniversary. I understand where you are coming from, but I dont think its going to have the positive outcome you are looking for. What if she says "huh?" or "we are broken up"...itll sting. Might be better to heal a little longer and contact when another opportunity presents itself. Just my opinion...
Cmac Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Agree with the previous reply. Don't see much good coming from it.
CaliBabe Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 No, don't. It will look like you aren't letting go.
Exit Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Don't. Sharing affection and words about an anniversary is something saved for the boundaries of being in a relationship. If you're still going to talk about an anniversary even when you guys aren't together, then it's like there are no consequences for being apart. It's a perfect example of someone having their cake and eating it too. If she wants to have someone congratulate her on the event of an anniversary, then she would need to commit to a relationship long enough to have one. And you say "We broke up", but I inferred from the way you worded the rest of your post that it was mainly her wanting to end the relationship, in which case you definitely don't need to be wishing her a happy anything. If she reaches out and says something that's one thing, but it doesn't need to come from you. Falling a few days short of an anniversary doesn't call for a celebration, a team who falls a few games short of winning the SuperBowl don't call each other on that day and congratulate each other.
M2155 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Agree with everyone else. That's celebrating something that didn't work... You're not going to call on the annivesary of the day you broke up either. If you ever have any type of relationship or comminication in the future it should be starting fresh anyway, not highlighting the past.
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