dumpedandsore Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 This was from my previous posting http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t310885/?highlight=dumpedandsore I need to have an ultimatium now, do i continue searching for mr right or to give it up altogether? This is after 7 years of continuous rejection, hi-bye meetings from net guys, snubbed and ignored by guys in speed dating/social events/meet-ups with friends and friendzoned instantly by guys. I have done all i can, praying,self-improvement, brushing and improving my social and conversational skills, improve my physical appearances and dressing, stay positive and hopeful. Apparently, i have tried all means but it is not working at all.. So does that mean I have to give up?
cdm369 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 This was from my previous posting http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t310885/?highlight=dumpedandsore I need to have an ultimatium now, do i continue searching for mr right or to give it up altogether? This is after 7 years of continuous rejection, hi-bye meetings from net guys, snubbed and ignored by guys in speed dating/social events/meet-ups with friends and friendzoned instantly by guys. I have done all i can, praying,self-improvement, brushing and improving my social and conversational skills, improve my physical appearances and dressing, stay positive and hopeful. Apparently, i have tried all means but it is not working at all.. So does that mean I have to give up. First of all dating sites and speed dating....these things aren't good. I tried internet dating and had several problems. The main one I figured out is that people on these sites get addicted to it and want to continue using the site even after finding someone. Not all but most. Changing to find someone isn't good either. Be who you are. Not saying don't take care of yourself....but be real. I've had bad luck myself....picking the wrong ones....trying to find the right one. This time im going to sit back and wait and see what happens. Maybe that way I will find someone who is just as interested in me as I am her. I've had several people to tell me to quit looking so hard and it will find me when I least expect it. So im going to concentrate on other aspects of my life and see what happens. Maybe it could work for you. Good luck.
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 For a number of years I thought of myself as an ugly person. I didn't think my face was handsome enough for a while. I never used to get jealous when girls would tell me how much they thought other guys were hot, but deep down I was concerned that I was not. I lost weight and got slimmer, cut my hair regularly and in style and wore nicer clothes. I still didn't feel any better. The key was the last hurdle, the place where you are at. The place where mentally you no longer feel unattractive. You've done all the external stuff to ensure you don't appear ugly but you still feel like that. It's this hurdle that I had to overcome and it is the hardest. You pretty much have to tell yourself you're attractive. Sounds easy but trying to condition your mind will take a while. It took me years before one day I got up and looked in the mirror and smiled at myself and for the first time I thought to myself "Good GAWD, I'm a sexy bastard!!" LOL. You have to remind yourself that you're not ugly and you are capable of being highly attractive. Trust me, keep at it mentally and it will all fall into place.
FitChick Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Unless I am confusing OP with someone else, didn't she admit she was overweight? She might have better luck with dating websites similar to this one that cater to men seeking heavy women.
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