edwards99 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Hello all..unfortunately I do not think our second chance has evolved us in the right direction. My problem is this..I love her but losing that loving feeling often and sure its a mutual thing..we don't touch..kiss..fight n bicker or don't talk for days...out n out misery..then a few nice days till something sets us off. I do not know how to break us up n move fwd. I don't know what to say.. I make OK money n will be able to find a place and be OK but do not think the same for her. She doesn't make much and her bills are taking up a good chuck of it. I know she can not afford the rent where we are now and will be forced to move..and I think it will equate to her quitting her job and having to move back home and rely on help from others..WHICH I DONT WANT FOR HER..I DONT WANT HER TO HAVE HARDSHIP..I have been trying n hoping things would change..n prolonging it but at the end of my rope.. what do I do...
EgoJoe Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 You be a man and say exactly what you said in your post to her.
oldguy Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Consider what you have just said. Your staying in a relationship to support her. As kind as that would appear on the surface is it fair to either one of you & if your still sleeping with her what does THAT say about the relationship when you consider why your still in it? You once loved one another, you obviously still care for her. Generally when the flame die it is because one or both involved stopped tending to it. Relationships never last without mutual involvement. A couple will either grow together or grow apart & to grow together take a an effort by both. I personally believe the reason most relationships fail is because they move from that new, exciting phase to the real world & too many either don't know how, or don't even know they are suppose to work on a relationship. Most of the time that "work" simply involves being a aware or exchanging bad habits for good ones. Why do yo want to break up? If it's because the relationships has "lost the spark", I would be asking myself why & if you can not come up with a good reason chances are it will be a reoccurring theme.
betterdeal Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Have you considered relationship counselling?
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