HughHardcastle Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I'm sort of in this boat I met a woman online, she actually messaged me first. She is 2 years older than me, I only saw one picture of her and it was a good picture...but when we met she is a 10/10. She has a confidence like I've never met. I'm a good looking guy, but I'm not 10/10, but getting a 10/10 isn't out of my league totally, but tack on her confidence and her being 2 years older (which isn't a lot), its a tad bit intimidating...but she contacted me first, she initiates texts, etc. I'm confident, but she seems almost intimidating. I'm very excited to go out with her again next weekend and I'm confident that she is interested...she is also a bit of a nerd, but you wouldn't tell that by just meeting her at first. So it seems a bit odd to me, but maybe she's just looking for a guy to settle down with, I have a career, a house and a car, so I'm doing pretty well in my life and make excellent bf materiel. So basically, a really attractive woman is interested in you, makes all the contact, and might be a bit on the nerdy side. Must be rough! Please sir, teach me how to be more like you.
ThaWholigan Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I strongly second this. I've meet very few women that I think are physically "out of my league", but I do know several that are "out of my league" for other reasons. Perhaps saying someone is "out of my league" is not the correct way of saying it, but most people understand that it means person X is not compatible with you for some reason. Agree. Only thing stopping me from attaining a truly quality woman is my living situation (broke, no job, live with mum, currently unfit). So I have relegated myself in a sense, and need to work hard to get "promoted".
jobaba Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I strongly second this. I've meet very few women that I think are physically "out of my league", but I do know several that are "out of my league" for other reasons. Perhaps saying someone is "out of my league" is not the correct way of saying it, but most people understand that it means person X is not compatible with you for some reason. I'm a lot more blunt about it. Most people will not accept a person below a certain combination of income, looks, and education. It's pretty elitist but, it is what it is. There's people who think they are well educated because they have a bachelors degree. Everybody and their grandma has a bachelor degree these days! But ... there are people who don't subscribe to this philosophy. An acquaintance of mine is a WELL PAID and SUCCESSFUL doctor, and she married a struggling musician. So, it doesn't hurt to hit on the person and see. You never know.
Lonely Ronin Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Agree. Only thing stopping me from attaining a truly quality woman is my living situation (broke, no job, live with mum, currently unfit). So I have relegated myself in a sense, and need to work hard to get "promoted". Unfit can be fixed right now. It easy for men, specially in you age group to get fit. Start running, doing push-ups, & sit-ups/crunches regularly. Despite what the media says most women find tone and not bulk to be attractive, and the three things I listed produce a lot of tone, and little bulk.
ThaWholigan Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Unfit can be fixed right now. It easy for men, specially in you age group to get fit. Start running, doing push-ups, & sit-ups/crunches regularly. Despite what the media says most women find tone and not bulk to be attractive, and the three things I listed produce a lot of tone, and little bulk. Oh yeah I know, I'm working on it
Casablanca Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 So basically, a really attractive woman is interested in you, makes all the contact, and might be a bit on the nerdy side. Must be rough! Please sir, teach me how to be more like you. Haha, it is kind of weird...I didn't do anything (well other than have a career and have my own house, so goal orientated and successful)
spiderowl Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 (edited) I've been told that I'm somewhere between a 4 and a 6. Which obviously means that I should stick to girls in that range. And the only girls that are rated that low are either ugly and or obese. I don't know who told you that but I wouldn't trust anyone that would rate another person like that. Looks are only part of it, a smile can light up a face and transform a dull-looking person. Character and personality shines through and makes another difference. Yes, the classically attractive man/woman will have less trouble finding a mate, but don't let yourself be categorised as anything. There are plenty of people who are not stunningly attractive physically but are really attractive and charismatic people. To be honest, I think really attractive women eventually get fed up of attractive but shallow/dim guys and look beyond the outside shell at the person. I recently met the husband of a famous TV personality who lives locally and he would not have stood out in the street at all, but he's a nice guy and he shares the same interests as her. Intelligent women will lose interest in guys who aren't on the same wavelength. Maybe some of those women who you assume are unattractive are actually really interesting people. Would you rather date a stunning blonde with a shallow personality or someone who keeps you laughing and makes you feel loved? A friend once said to me that looks were superficial and that "we all look the same in bed in the dark." Edited January 16, 2012 by spiderowl
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