R32 Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Some of you have read my story many months ago, some of you haven't. We were together for 4 years before breaking up. Approx 9 months ago, my ex gf left me due to GIGS while she was in Europe. A few months later when she returned I fancied the idea of getting back together, however she still wasn't ready. I found out she was seeing someone else, and decided to go NC. A few weeks into it, she cracked and began calling/texting. I maintained light contact, and hung out with her a few times within the span of several months. During this time, I focused on my career, schooling, and just having a good time with my friends. I made many self improvements at the gym, and overall I was quite content with my life. In December, my ex began initiating more hangouts/conversations. It was quite evident that mutual feelings were present, however nothing ever happened. We spoke about these feelings a few times, however progress was never made. As time progressed, so did our time together. We were happy together again, something I was mad about many months ago didn't seem like such a big deal anymore. The idea of us never reconciling no longer made my stomach churn. The past 3-4 weeks, she really made an effort to see me, even when I ignored her from time to time. I also noticed she still pictures of us up in her room. I never took anything to heart as I knew she was still seeing the other guy. Anyways, to cut a long story short, we sat down and had a talk last week. We spoke about how we felt, and decided we were going to take things slow, and identify where we went wrong. So far things have been great, and it feels like a brand new relationship, with a touch of some of the good old stuff. I want to thank loveshack for all the guidance and for being an emotional crutch when I needed it the most. I hope to read more success stories in the near future.
Author R32 Posted January 13, 2012 Author Posted January 13, 2012 If anyone has any questions regarding my situation, feel free to ask away as I did leave out some details to keep it short.
Philosoraptor Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I commend you for taking the slow route and not jumping right back into something. It concerns me that she is just ending things with someone else but as long as you ask the right questions you should be ok. You need to dig deep though and verify that she is mature enough to be in a relationship with you. Ask her not only what she did wrong but what could be done to fix the same issues in the future. If you don't feel comfortable with her having mature enough then let her know so. If she jumps into something else with another guy then you've got your answer. If she waits and you can see long term maturity then you can bring up starting a relationship when you feel comfortable. Just make sure you are giving as well. Everyone makes mistakes in a relationship and the issues that you aided to need to be addressed as well. I wish you the best no matter what the outcome.
Author R32 Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 Thanks! Some additional details....... She was never really happy with this guy, she saw me on our anniversary, and we had a bit of a connection within the past month leading up to her ending things with him. It was more of a gradual thing really... The reason for taking things slow is, this whole incident is still very overwhelming for the both of us. There's still a few things we need to discuss, but we are making progress.
IfiKnewThen Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 a tip to stay strong and truly move forward: DONT talk about the guy she was with. dont ask question. dont imagine. tell yourself the past is the past and shes not your wife and didnt cheat on you. that is truly the way to start over. if its you and her now...or going to be. good luck to both of you i wish you the best
BoredAgain Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 Good luck! I hope everything turns out for the best.
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