RecordProducer Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 This trash has two prior convictions for shoplifting at department stores in the last two years. This is after she got her nursing degree 3 years ago. My ex has been dating her for the past 6 months and I've always had a problem with the fact that she's a scumbag. Her ex-husband is in prison, her 18-year son has an assault charge from when he was 15 and her 16-year old daughter is currently in rehab for 6 months. Her daughter has photos on FB with her middle finger up. Nice family, huh! So, my teenage son wants to be a doctor when he grows up and he has this thing with collecting medical stuff - cool. This trash of a woman took a stetoscope from work and gave it to him. I told him this was stolen and it's not ok. A few weeks later, she gave him a box of seringes. I told him again this was stolen but he ignored my comment and my other teenage son said "This costs like two cents!" I am not really scared that they will start stealing, they know better, but approving things like this loosens their moral values. It creates a seemingly grey area in their minds that if something is cheap or from your employer, it's okay to steal it because it's easily accessible and you won't get caught. Where do you draw the line? Stealing is stealing. She works at a state-owned nursing home. She obviously lied on her RN license renewal application because they wouldn't have renewed her license had she told them about her convictions. In my state, the nursing board doesn't do backround checks for renewals, but they ask you a question on the renewal application if you've been arrested or convicted. It's a crime to lie on your application and if she got caught, it would be her third conviction - automatically a felony in my state, subject to a one-year prison sentence minimum. Also, there's a law that says if you have two shoplifting convictions, you can't work at a hursing home, period. I did threaten her that I would report her and she texted me back "you trying scared the wrong person." She is apparently brainless because one phone call would ruin her life. Not to mention her great English! I just talked to my mom about it and she said I shouldn't bring it up with the ex because it will only ruin my children's confidence and they will stop telling me anything. She said some really bad things could happen and I won't know, that it's better that I keep an eye on the situation rather than spend all of my ammo against her in a little thing like this. Also, she said the ex sees all these things and probably doesn't like them either - not to mention he was an employer for 25 years before he sold his business 5 years ago, so he sees things from an employer's perspective. Mom says by attacking her, I will only show him I am angry and he'll defend her in his mind, if not openly. Finally, she said it's good that she does stuff like this without any fear because he needs to witness her acts and realize that a twice convicted thief will never stop stealing - and that means she will steal from him, too, if she gets a chance.
mitchell Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Um, was there a question in there? Tell your son he should not accept gifts that could be stolen. A wanna-be doctor has no use for a box of syringes. Very inappropriate. A stethoscope would be cool for him to have, but if he wants one, he should save up a little money and buy one himself.
2sunny Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Is the man in question their Dad - or the guy you recently divorced?
Author RecordProducer Posted January 13, 2012 Author Posted January 13, 2012 (edited) Tell your son he should not accept gifts that could be stolen. A wanna-be doctor has no use for a box of syringes. Very inappropriate. A stethoscope would be cool for him to have, but if he wants one, he should save up a little money and buy one himself. There was no question really, but I did want to hear what people thought - if I am out of place or not. He did save money and bought some medical stuff. But I guess the thief wanted to impress him with what she does best. No, the syringes are okay, if they weren't stolen. I used to get syringes from my nurses and played a doctor - I injected water mixed with white carbon powder (crushed it myself) into my stuffed toys. That was fun. I also washed my cats' teeth with syringes filled with water (no needle). Well, the cats didn't think I was the best dentist, but they put up with me. I already told my sons those were stolen things, but since their dad approves, I don't think he'll return the stuff to her or not accept more. Perhaps I should show him the statute that says accepting goods thta you know were stolen is a felony and you go to jail. In a way, I suppose if I give her enough rope to hang herself (i.e. let her show her true colors to the fullest - steal and do bad things), she'll be out of that house and my sons' lives sooner. In reality, it's their dad that needs to get rid of her, not my sons. If she feels like she's getting his approval in being a thief, she'll soon start stealing from restaurants and other places and showing the stuff to him - and he'll realize that he's dealing with a complete scumbag. He'll probably ditch her when she starts insisting on marriage anyway (he's very wealthy). And she'll probably get pregnant cuz she's so stupid, she probably thinks he'll marry her and give her all of his money if she has his baby. They're still in the honeymoon phase, but she'll show all her sides when my ex starts showing her some of his sides. I am just hoping that he'll find someone normal after this criminal. I only want her to NOT be a criminal - am I being too picky? Is the man in question their Dad - or the guy you recently divorced?It's the guy I recently divorced, but they think of him and love him as their dad. I can't separate them from him, they won't let me and they do need a father. The thing is he should know better than to bring lowlives like that around my kids. Edited January 13, 2012 by RecordProducer
2sunny Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 He obviously doesn't know better - or his better judgment is clouded by what she offers him. You CAN control what is allowed to be near your kids. IF you must keep contact - start putting firm boundaries on these interactions. Keep it limited - phone calls. Or stay present when they see him = "we are headed to the park/beach for half an hour - care to meet us?" It's not absolutely necessary to keep him involved if it includes a negative influence on your kids.
Mister Ripley Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 If you would have posted this without all the gossipy insults and put downs I might have taken you seriously. Unfortunately you don't come across as sincere in the least that your main concern is the moral wellbeing of your sons. It sounds far more like you just hate the woman your ex is currently having sex with. That's understandable, just don't try to claim it's about something else when it clearly isn't. I'm fairly confident that your babydaddy could be dating mother thereasa and you'd still find a reason to trash-talk her.
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