fuzzbella Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Now who wants to explain this to me. Okay so we broke up 2 weeks ago.. and the reason we broke up is because i asked her to keep off the dating sites.. she told me she was just looking at her messages, she was just curious, she wasnt talking to anyone.. so i let that slide.. then she continued to go on it everyday.. eventually i had enough and we got into a fight of which it ended our relationship and she acted like she didnt care. So i went no contact for a week an a half.. then she sent me a text saying 'Miss you' which lead to where we are right now.. we are supposed to be working on us.. we are supposed to be on our way to getting back together.. but guess what shes on the dating sites again.. and i know shes talking to people.. We were Msn webcam chatting just a little while ago.. and shes typing away and im wondering what is she typing away laughing at its 4am.. so i look and shes 'online' on her dating site AGAIN.. now i am aware she is using them and shes chatting to other guys.. that for me crosses a line.. dating sites ARE TO FIND DATES im not as stupid as she thinks. And this wouldnt bother me if... THIS WASNT HOW I ORIGINALY MET HER!.. i know what shes like.. i mean apparently when she was chatting with me for that month on the site when we first met she had been dating this other guy for 7 months? I had no idea about this.. till 2 months into meeting up with her and going out on dates with her then she tells me how she left him because i was amazing.. and it was in the past so i couldnt say anything about it. Im about ready to blow im so mad right now.. wouldnt be so bad if she wasnt sitting there writing back to these guys while talking to me over the mic.. Now what do i do? Just ignore her from here on out? Full no contact Make my own account up, let her see how it feels? Tell her i know and ask her what is the deal? And why am i so mad at this? Because when she came back i was in the process of getting to know a girl my family had set me up with.. this girl was lovely but the ex told me she was jealous and didnt like it so i told the girl i wasnt interested because i thought me and my wonderful darling ex were getting back together CLEARLY NOT!!
wilsonx Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Have you read this? You are playing games with yourself. There is not one thing on this thread that is inappropriate on her end. You should definitely have a look in the mirror and see what the problem is
EgoJoe Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Have you read this? You are playing games with yourself. There is not one thing on this thread that is inappropriate on her end. You should definitely have a look in the mirror and see what the problem is Wilson, you're out of your damn mind. It is like you are trying to blame every Dumpee for everything in order to justify your rationale and mindset. OP, go sudden ninja NC with this girl. It is over, she does not respect you and when a man doesn't get the respect he deserves he walks. Do not say anything to her NO MATTER WHAT SHE DOES until you have HEALED if you feel like it then. She wants to continue to look elsewhere, well, she can watch out for the door hitting her in the ass.
Author fuzzbella Posted January 13, 2012 Author Posted January 13, 2012 I find it very wrong for her to tell me she loves me wants to be together yet she is online finding guys to meet up with for dates? It was the reason we broke up. Im not gonna say anything to her, ive said all i can say, clearly nothing will change so ill take to no contact.
wilsonx Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Its clear as day they are not in a relationship, you cant see past your own ego or pull your head out of the god damn sand. The relationship was over 2 weeks ago, shes on a dating site now. She said I miss you. That doesnt mean she wants a relationship with him. Him ending the relationship with the new girl, is his own stupidity. She can still love you and not want to be in a relationship with you, its your choice if you choose to chase or not or stay in communication
BoredAgain Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Wilson -- I have to disagree with you here. When they were in a relationship, she was still chatting to single guys on dating sites. They broke up because of this, but it sounds there was a reconciliation... but she kept chatting with single guys on dating sites. He may have been too trusting/nieve, but she was the one who did wrong here. fuzzbella -- I agree with EgoJoe, ninja NC. The fact that she was chatting with you on a dating website while with her previous boyfriend says a lot. The fact that she did this again while you two were dating says even more. There is something wrong with this girl, and you should run.
EgoJoe Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I find it very wrong for her to tell me she loves me wants to be together yet she is online finding guys to meet up with for dates? It was the reason we broke up. Im not gonna say anything to her, ive said all i can say, clearly nothing will change so ill take to no contact. Yeah, Wilson. It is my Ego...right. Except for you know those things called facts. Their conversation didn't end at "I miss you." they were supposed to be working on things and she has continued to disrespect him. Taking responsibility for other people's feelings is unhealthy, I know this because I have been there. If she still "loves" him but doesn't want to be in a relationship THAT IS HER PROBLEM. The OP owes her nothing. He doesn't have to be a stooge to pick her up, paint her nails and comb her hair for her. OP: Just stay NC brody. You did the right thing and even gave her an extra shot. Now, you can walk away knowing you tried harder than you had to.
ZimboGon Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 BoredAgain is right. You should be done with this girl. I don't get what is so wrong with his reaction wilson. If i was dating someone and they even just JOINED a dating site, that would be enough of a red flag for me.
daphne Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Fuzz, Run very far away from this girl. She clearly has no intention of really working it out with you, since she's disrespecting you the same way as when you broke up. You can do better. Go find it. It's just your ego, and getting her back won't make you happy. Finding someone who won't ruin your peace of mind will. In the end, your dignity and self respect are more important than this girl.
Philosoraptor Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 It certainly looks like she is the type to jump once she has found a safe landing spot. I wouldn't be surprised if she left you for someone else, they didn't work out, and she came running back rather than being alone. You owe her nothing. She disrespected you while you were in a relationship and obviously did the same thing to the person before you if she had chatted with you for a month while still in a relationship.
geegirl Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 She's not playing games. She's doing what she does best. You tolerated games the first time and good that you left but went back again for seconds. You teach people how to treat you. Get yourself out of the cycle and do the ninja NC as Ego mentioned.
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