NYC-BigKat Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I dont know what this means tbh. Heres the quick story for u. I saw a really cute girl today in Bestbuy browsing. I kept looking at her but I didnt get any looks back. I still wanted to make a move b'cause I hate missing a chance at something if its there. Gotta make things happen right? Anyway I tried to chat her up when she was leaving & she stops, smiles, then says "do u have any skills?" like I'm applying for a job. I say Idk what u mean & then she says she sorry gotta go. So weird.
CarrieT Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Dude, you were totally given an opening and you missed it. If she smiled and looked at you when she asked that question, you could have replied something like, "Well, yes... Let me demonstrate how I can connect my coaxial cable to your entertainment system..." :D:D
Author NYC-BigKat Posted January 13, 2012 Author Posted January 13, 2012 Dude, you were totally given an opening and you missed it. If she smiled and looked at you when she asked that question, you could have replied something like, "Well, yes... Let me demonstrate how I can connect my coaxial cable to your entertainment system..." :D:D I guess its possible. My friend told me that b'cause she's cute she used a speedy weeding out process to see how I take to it. Its weird b'cause I'm not used to girls doing that.
Dust Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Dude, you were totally given an opening and you missed it. If she smiled and looked at you when she asked that question, you could have replied something like, "Well, yes... Let me demonstrate how I can connect my coaxial cable to your entertainment system..." :D:D Yeah seriously he missed out. He's gotta be all "what do you mean skills?" I guess its possible. My friend told me that b'cause she's cute she used a speedy weeding out process to see how I take to it. Its weird b'cause I'm not used to girls doing that. Your friend doesn't know what he's talking about. But you already know that or you wouldn't be here. Basicly it didn't matter what she meant. You should have just been like yes. Like carrie said she was probably nervouse and was giving you an opening to help her hook up her computer or some flirty crap. You probably made her nervouse and put her off the mood when you were so dense. Good job going for it man though! You'll have a gf in no time with your man of action attitude!
EnigmaticClarity Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I dont know what this means tbh. Heres the quick story for u. I saw a really cute girl today in Bestbuy browsing. I kept looking at her but I didnt get any looks back. I still wanted to make a move b'cause I hate missing a chance at something if its there. Gotta make things happen right? Anyway I tried to chat her up when she was leaving & she stops, smiles, then says "do u have any skills?" like I'm applying for a job. I say Idk what u mean & then she says she sorry gotta go. So weird. Makes complete sense to me...she wanted to know if you have any skills, and you demonstrated that you don't. Next time you're given that chance, show her your skills...and if you don't have any right now...develop some. She could have meant anything, but verbal/flirting skills are most likely what she meant.
dasein Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 That's a snotty, b-tch reply to an approach, good on you for not getting further involved. Rest assured that if you had said the perfect reply things would not have been one whit different. She got a kick out of making you feel small. Trash. Avoid.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Gotta be prepared if you want to be a PUA. See CarrieT's post. You could also say claim to have an excellent telephone presence--the perfect set up for asking for her number so you can prove your prowess. Or you could stick with something like "on a good day I can lick my eye brows" but that' probably won't set you up for the phone number. BTW, don't hold your breath until someone asks you that again. One and done.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I dont know what this means tbh. Heres the quick story for u. I saw a really cute girl today in Bestbuy browsing. I kept looking at her but I didnt get any looks back. I still wanted to make a move b'cause I hate missing a chance at something if its there. Gotta make things happen right? Anyway I tried to chat her up when she was leaving & she stops, smiles, then says "do u have any skills?" like I'm applying for a job. I say Idk what u mean & then she says she sorry gotta go. So weird. Like what are my skills? Well, I have a sweet bike. And I'm really good at hooking up with chicks. Plus I'm like the only guy at school who has a mustache.
Shaun-Dro Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Makes complete sense to me...she wanted to know if you have any skills, and you demonstrated that you don't. Next time you're given that chance, show her your skills...and if you don't have any right now...develop some. She could have meant anything, but verbal/flirting skills are most likely what she meant. Perhaps, but the way she addressed to the OP was strange. I'm guessing they're probably in their early 20s and both feeling unsure of each other.
TheFinalWord Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Dude, you were totally given an opening and you missed it. If she smiled and looked at you when she asked that question, you could have replied something like, "Well, yes... Let me demonstrate how I can connect my coaxial cable to your entertainment system..." :D:D that made me LOL literally... Napoleon Dynamite bro she was testing your movie knowledge...
Forever Learning Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 That's a snotty, b-tch reply to an approach, good on you for not getting further involved. Rest assured that if you had said the perfect reply things would not have been one whit different. She got a kick out of making you feel small. Trash. Avoid. Yes I agree with this assessment of this chick, she seems like she might be a snot to me. Unless she does have a wild sense of humor and was quoting the Napoleon movie in a sublime way. Then she might have been kinda cool. Either way she split in a hurry so it wasn't meant to be. No biggie. Keep on doing your thing and you'll find someone cool in no time. You are just that much smarter today then you were yesterday thanks to that interesting little interaction with her. It's all good.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 I think she gave you a chance to prove yourself more interesting than a random guy picking her up, it's a question you'd have been able to answer even If you didn't know what she meant. Gotta be quick on your feet, it was playful but a challenge at the same time
thatone Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 That's a snotty, b-tch reply to an approach, good on you for not getting further involved. Rest assured that if you had said the perfect reply things would not have been one whit different. She got a kick out of making you feel small. Trash. Avoid. disagree. one word could've gotten his foot in the door. he blew it.
Dust Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 disagree. one word could've gotten his foot in the door. he blew it. The thing is after he's like "skills, what do you mean" and she was like "well I gotta go" he could have been like "yeah I have skills" or "lets go out some time."
carhill Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 OP, it's really simple when you find someone attractive..... you go with it. 'you got any skills?' 'let me take you out tonight and I'll show you a few' Regardless of the next words, smile. You owned how you felt. That's the work.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 I think she gave you a chance to prove yourself more interesting than a random guy picking her up, it's a question you'd have been able to answer even If you didn't know what she meant. Gotta be quick on your feet, it was playful but a challenge at the same time I'm starting to feel bad now b'cause she seemed to wanna give me a shot & not many chicks do that nowadays. It was just weird asking me if I got skills. Its definitely unheard of but now I gotta expect anything when I go out to chat girls up.
Dust Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 OP, it's really simple when you find someone attractive..... you go with it. 'you got any skills?' 'let me take you out tonight and I'll show you a few' Regardless of the next words, smile. You owned how you felt. That's the work. Thats his problem he didn't go with it. He was like "what skills!?" then she was like "I have to go" and still he didn't make a move. He just came on here trying to figure out what skills she was talking about. When she was like "Bye" thats when he should have pulled out the "we can talk about my skills over dinner tonight."
dasein Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Well I still disagree with the approach philosophy that men are to supplicate to women who say rude, snotty things by having "the right cool answer." OP approach enough women and you will be in the position to simply ignore women who respond like this. If I speak to someone in public during the day by offering a polite greeting, they can either respond with something polite themselves or they aren't worth further thought.
Feelsgoodman Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Well I still disagree with the approach philosophy that men are to supplicate to women who say rude, snotty things by having "the right cool answer." I agree 100%. Women like the girl described in this thread are the reason why men nowadays are reluctant to approach women in the first place. Assuming the OP was respectful, there was no reason to put him on the spot and make him feel like an idiot standing there and trying to decipher what he hell she was talking about. That's just rude and immature.
carhill Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 If the OP is young he might still be running into the girls who treat a guy 'badly' when she likes him or senses attraction to him; it's an immature response to attraction which most people grow out of. Since she stopped and smiled (instead of kept on walking and frowned), her body language could/might indicate something other than derision or contempt for his approach. One of those times being there would be helpful. Up to him how he processes the totality of that dynamic. He made a choice, to say 'I don't know what you mean', and life went on. Next potential.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 If the OP is young he might still be running into the girls who treat a guy 'badly' when she likes him or senses attraction to him; it's an immature response to attraction which most people grow out of. What do u mean by this? I'm 23 btw but dont girls act stupid when a guy they like hits on them when they'r kids not adults? So so weird lol.
carhill Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 At 23, if you're running into young ladies in their teens/early 20's, it's possible to encounter what I'm talking about. It's an immature processing of the emotions of attraction. It's like they feel vulnerable so they cover it up with being 'mean'. Also, people have markedly different personalities. Some people have biting and sarcastic senses of humor. I've seen some women deadpan words I'd get punched out for, just 'being funny' (they thought). Your interaction ended. No joy. Perhaps try something different next time just as an experiment. Good luck
kaylan Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 (edited) That's a snotty, b-tch reply to an approach, good on you for not getting further involved. Rest assured that if you had said the perfect reply things would not have been one whit different. She got a kick out of making you feel small. Trash. Avoid. Way to read too far into things dude. Sounded like she was harmlessly flirting to me. Seems like she wanted to be nice and maybe flirt a bit despite not being interested. Ive had strangers make convo with me who I didnt really want to talk to. Ill say a couple things or suffer through a conversation even though I want to/need to be somewhere else. Edited January 14, 2012 by kaylan
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