Calling someone 'sexy' on the first date

[ditzchic]

I just had this happen to me and I'm not sure how I feel about it. I mean sure, it's cool that he thinks that and obviously finds me attractive but I kind of think this is something that should have been left in his head. At least on the first date...

 

The date overall was good and it ended with a kiss. After he kissed me he said "I've wanted to do that as soon as I saw you". Again, cool he feels that way but the words are probably better left until we know each other better, right?

 

Is it safe to assume that this guy is just primarily interested in me physically? Or am I being too sensitive?

[FitChick]

He wants to get laid.

[neowulf]

Is it safe to assume that this guy is just primarily interested in me physically? Or am I being too sensitive?

 

Personally, I think you should just take the compliment.

 

This is something I struggle to understand with women. Yes, if a man is going out on a "date" with you, he *wants* to sleep with you. On some level, he finds you sexually attractive. That's why you're on the date.

 

Just because a man wants to sleep with you doesn't mean he doesn't want to get to know you better, or form a relationship.

 

The key is just to make him wait a little.. 5 dates, a month maybe. That's not a huge amount of time and generally scares of guys who are looking for an easy lay.

[ditzchic]

Personally, I think you should just take the compliment.

 

This is something I struggle to understand with women. Yes, if a man is going out on a "date" with you, he *wants* to sleep with you. On some level, he finds you sexually attractive. That's why you're on the date.

 

Just because a man wants to sleep with you doesn't mean he doesn't want to get to know you better, or form a relationship.

 

The key is just to make him wait a little.. 5 dates, a month maybe. That's not a huge amount of time and generally scares of guys who are looking for an easy lay.

 

 

I get that he wants to. And I'm kinda thrilled that he does. But on some level all guys know (or probably should know) that saying stuff like that to dating worthy women could possibly scare them away. So they should probably not say it. Catch my drift?

 

If they do say it it's probably because:

a) they aren't interested in dating. Mainly just getting it sticky.

b) they have no idea how women work. Or just don't care.

[carhill]

Since he doesn't know you, assume ball buzz from physical appearances/aura/'chemistry'. If correct, 'sexy' is a good word. It can exist in a vacuum, without the totality of you being known, understood, respected and admired.

 

How did you meet and what interaction prefaced the date in question?

 

Some guys lay out the 'sexy' like some women twirl their hair, lick their lips and brush the breasts against a guy. It can mean something. It can mean nothing. Enjoy your next date

[xpaperxcutx]

I've had guys whom I've never met in person call me cute and gorgeous. I accept the compliments. However, one thing I will never accept is the usage of affectionate name calling ie. hun, babe, sweetie. etc

 

One it tells me they don't bother remembering my name and two, they think they're suave and doing me a favor.

 

Accept that you're gorgeous, or " sexy' because you are.

[spiderowl]

It shows he's attracted, the he wants sex with you, but it also shows a lack of tact with women. It would put me off straightaway, even if I really fancied him. I would want him to treat me as a person first and foremost and the rest will follow naturally later. Some guys who say this so early on are clueless with women, other simply don't care and are indicating that's how they've spent the evening thinking about you. If that's all you want, go ahead, but if you want more you may be disappointed.