zlatnapolja Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 From a woman's perspective. I am more than curvy and I'm honest and open about it. I love who I am and I put myself out there. I have gotten plenty of dates off of internet dating sites in the last few months since I started dating again after a divorce (yes, guys...plenty of second and third dates, too.) I really believe that the key to success is HONESTY! I am honest about my body thru my words and my pics. I always include a full body shot. How much would it suck to show up to a date and have the guy be shocked by what's standing in front of him?! I also really believe that its my confidence that brings a lot of those first dates back for second or third dates. I love me and I put that out there. Good luck!! another woman's perspective: I keep losing weight and to be honest , I wouldnt mind some extra pounds. I'm about 5.4 and I weigh about 114 lbs at the moment (ussualy about 120). When i look at other women (and men), every weight thats healthy is fine. However, I do agree that it does matter where the curves are 'located'. I mean to me it looks weird if a girl has a big belly, but absolutely no chest or hips.
laotzu Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 Not really. I prefer girls fit, at least in the stomach area.
blueskyday Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I'm petite, 5'2", usually around 108 lbs, with a small waist, curvy hips and a booty. Over the holidays, I gained 5 lbs. It's crazy. I feel a bit too big. My jeans are tight, but, I swear, I am getting MORE attention being a little bigger (er, curvier) My waist is still very small, so most of my weight gain is in the boobs and hips/butt. Go figure! So, I'm staying up a few pounds. I don't think weight has much to do with it. I think it is overall curves of the body filling out in a nice way (hourglass)
blueskyday Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 You might be right about the belly thing. My flat tummy is something boyfriends have always complimented me on. Didn't seem like a big deal to me or that it looked great, just flat...like my chest...ha ha
Dust Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 another woman's perspective: I keep losing weight and to be honest , I wouldnt mind some extra pounds. I'm about 5.4 and I weigh about 114 lbs at the moment (ussualy about 120). When i look at other women (and men), every weight thats healthy is fine. However, I do agree that it does matter where the curves are 'located'. I mean to me it looks weird if a girl has a big belly, but absolutely no chest or hips. Omg you're perfect. I am just curious if men are attracted to bigger girls. Im not talking about morbidly obese ..im talking about women who are curvy with a few extra pounds. I would like to hear some views from the dudes on this topic. details ppl Well I see men going after bigger girls all the time so yes they are. This includes morbidly obese and above. As far as curvy I think girls who are in good shape are the most curvy. If you mean curvy as in stomach thats not what I'm into. If you mean curvy as in little in the middle then big hips/but and nice round breasts then yes! Women arn't good judges of if they have a few extra pounds any ways. Just be healthy and don't worry because what ever you look like I'm sure guys are going to be into it.
TheFinalWord Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I'm petite, 5'2", usually around 108 lbs, with a small waist, curvy hips and a booty. Over the holidays, I gained 5 lbs. It's crazy. I feel a bit too big. My jeans are tight, but, I swear, I am getting MORE attention being a little bigger (er, curvier) My waist is still very small, so most of my weight gain is in the boobs and hips/butt. Go figure! So, I'm staying up a few pounds. I don't think weight has much to do with it. I think it is overall curves of the body filling out in a nice way (hourglass) Perfect IMO! A petite woman with a bit of meat (not fat) is super attractive. Long hair, blue jeans, and a t-shirt and I'd be at your command lol To the OP, for every shape of woman there are a million guys into it. There really is no universal. There's cultural differences too. White guys tend to like small, low BF. Black guys tend to like "thick" lol All of you gals are beautiful though. And honestly most guys may have an ideal but if a girl is nice, respectful, and makes a guy feel important (even if you don't NEED him for anything), that is how you really get him. So many women are physically beautiful but have nothing else. That gets old FAST! Good video on the topic for women:
eerie_reverie Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I gotta wonder how often women lie about their weight. At 155 I must be the heaviest broad on this site. I have some pictures in my album if you want to know what that looks like. I can't imagine being 30 lbs lighter.
Dust Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I gotta wonder how often women lie about their weight. At 155 I must be the heaviest broad on this site. I have some pictures in my album if you want to know what that looks like. I can't imagine being 30 lbs lighter. I can't see your album... but I've seen what you look like recently via you're what should I do with my hair thread... You looked sexy to me. Sounds like you could kick a lot of the smaller guys on this sites butt to haha.
zlatnapolja Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I gotta wonder how often women lie about their weight. At 155 I must be the heaviest broad on this site. I have some pictures in my album if you want to know what that looks like. I can't imagine being 30 lbs lighter. How tall are you? Cause in you're pics you seem to have a great figure!
eerie_reverie Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 How tall are you? Cause in you're pics you seem to have a great figure! I'm 5'7 1/2.
zlatnapolja Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I'm 5'7 1/2. Your weight matches your length. The other girl that said she was 108 lbs, was 5'2'' thats a big difference in length. Your figure is great, dont change it:)
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I gotta wonder how often women lie about their weight. At 155 I must be the heaviest broad on this site. I have some pictures in my album if you want to know what that looks like. I can't imagine being 30 lbs lighter. I wonder that as well. I think a lot of women/men underestimate their weight or do so on purpose Every time I had guys guess my weight, they guessed around 20lbs less of what I actually weigh (including the brutally honest guys that tell it like it is).
eerie_reverie Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 155 at 5'7" is a bit heavy. It might seem normal to some because standards are masked by false impressions of 'normal' these days. A woman 5'7" and 155lbs doesn't need to diet but a bit of weight should come off just by being fit and just slightly more active. This means losing no more than a pound a month for a year. I work out 5 times a week.
Surrealist Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 Well as far as I'm concerned this is hot, hot, hot! http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs699.snc4/61918_104573842940526_100001637325312_35052_7574232_n.jpg http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs644.snc4/60402_104573862940524_100001637325312_35054_693760_n.jpg http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/hs324.ash2/60402_104573886273855_100001637325312_35061_8352542_n.jpg http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs664.snc4/60402_104573872940523_100001637325312_35057_8032667_n.jpg
irc333 Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 For me, not really. My number one rule for a woman is that she can't weigh more than I do. And I'm 150. I'm also only 5'6 and prefer women my height or shorter. I also want a girl to be height/weight proportionate. So it's not really acceptable to me for a woman to be something like 5'2, 140. The last girl I had a crush on was 5'8, 140. Even though she was out of shape and had a bit of belly, I was totally fine with it. That's a good guideline, "Never date a woman that weighs more than you do"
Andy_K Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I work out 5 times a week. Same here, but I'm a guy, 5'11", less than 10lbs heavier than you and considerably stronger. Diet is more important than how much you're at the gym
bean1 Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I gotta wonder how often women lie about their weight. At 155 I must be the heaviest broad on this site. I have some pictures in my album if you want to know what that looks like. I can't imagine being 30 lbs lighter. A lot of girls lie yes, but a lot of non-slim/average girls won't volunteer their weight either so you'll get the smaller girls piping up. Me, I'm 5'5 and 128lbs, after having a baby, which I think is pretty decent for my age (30) considering I work out all the time too. I was 110-15lbs when I met my husband and looked too skinny, besides it wasn't really maintainable at 5'5 either without starting to sacrifice some health (ie bone density as one gets older). It depends on the frame too. I was 160lbs at 9 months pregnant and I looked rather big... some girls probably look just fine at 5'5 and 160lbs but that's really pushing it. My husband is 110lbs more than me lol...
oldguy Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 It seems like build has a lot to do with it, not just weight versus height. I think if someone carries a few extra pounds well, women or men, it can look good. However if the weight is concentrated too much in one area, it generally does not. A paunch belly just isn’t that attractive to most people. Someone here mentioned they where 5’ 11” & I believe 155 pounds? I’m sure that is fine but I’m about 2 “ shorter & with my build anything much under 170 pounds & I begin looking too thin. So I do think it’s all a matter of build, body type & how one carries their weight. I’m about average height and at 175 to 180 fairly trim. However a few years ago as I approached 200 pounds I was fat and had the gut to prove it but as I continued to gain weight, topping out at nearly 220 pounds I noticed something; for one thing the gut moved into my chest, shoulders & even arms & legs. I didn’t look as fat as much as I did just ‘big’ and what I noticed about how people reacted to me was amazing in that I was received better than I was at 195 to 200 pounds when I just looked fat. I got more positive feedback from woman & guys moved out of my way, LOL Fortunately my doctor talked some sense into me & I dropped nearly 50 pounds but I will never forget how differently I was treated at different sizes.
kaylan Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I prefer slimmer gals. But wouldnt mind a little bit of beef. As long as the girl is smaller than me, Im good. Im built like a swimmer...so im slim with some muscle and low body fat. So i tend to gravitate towards small gals so I can feel like the man. =P
Emilia Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I work out 5 times a week. I'm an inch shorter than you and about 20 lbs lighter. I'm not joining those that think you are too heavy because I couldn't see your photos here, it's more a comment on the workout. I sprint quite a lot, meaning about 30 minutes of it at least 3 times a week as part of my training for a bleep test in May. I eat absolutely anything and actually have increased my daily calorie intake because I do other training too. So just saying your work out might not be as efficient as you would like it to be. It can take up a lot of your time and still not produce the results you want. Sprinting would literally make weight fall off you and it wouldn't take up much of your time at all.
blueskyday Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 Yes, it really is a matter of body build and frame. I rarely use my scale. I go by how I feel and look, and how my clothes fit. When I did step on the scale and see I gained those five pounds, I was surprised that others thought I looked better. Five pounds on a petite gal is a whole clothes size up! But, one can be too thin, too, and lose those curves, so I don't worry. I'm too passionate about food and wine. If you round up a bunch of women who weigh the same, they would carry the weight and look completely different. The research shows it's the hip to waist ratio that attracts men and denotes a high level of estrogen and fertility. The ideal is .7. If a woman gains weight in the right places it doesn't matter as long as that ratio stays in place. At the end of the day, attraction is so much more. As one poster put it, guys want to feel important, respected and wanted....
bean1 Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 http://www.mybodygallery.com/index.html Is a pretty interesting site. Shows different body types at least (assuming the stats are accurate). 5'7 and 155lbs can look good or fat, depending on the shape and muscle mass.
kaylan Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 (edited) OP...I just saw your older thread about your hair...and you are not a "bigger girl" You are average sized. Its lame that so many of these body type threads are made by men and women regarding the female figure. I think I need to start a guy body thread. That way I can show off a bit too lolz. Plus bean1 is right about the body type thing. I am 5'9 and weigh 180 to 185. Im actually trying to gain more muscle weight. According to my BMI, id be considered overweight, but Im actually slim. And most guys with my frame tend to weigh a good 20 lbs less than me. Hell, my best friend "looks" heavier than me despite me actually being the heavier one. So yeah, its all about frame and muscle mass. Edited January 12, 2012 by kaylan
tigressA Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I think pretty much all men like curves--full, shapely breasts, trim waist and voluptuous hips/bum. But there are very few women who truly fit the hourglass mold. Some men prefer fat women. I know several men who have dated fat/chubby women and would continually pick them over slender women.
azsinglegal Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 (edited) 155 at 5'7" is a bit heavy. It might seem normal to some because standards are masked by false impressions of 'normal' these days. A woman 5'7" and 155lbs doesn't need to diet but a bit of weight should come off just by being fit and just slightly more active. This means losing no more than a pound a month for a year. I work out 5 times a week. I'm 5'6", 145lbs and a size 6. People are always surprised when I tell them what I weight. I work out daily and lift heavy weights. I focus on muscle building not just weight loss. Sounds like you're doing something similar in which case, your weight is fine for your height. Flabby at 155 and 5'7" is totally different. To the OP, what do you mean by "curves" Are we talking like "Big Sexy" show or are we talking thin with hips? I think many women claim "curvy" for overweight or obese. Having a huge gut doesn't make you curvy - it makes you heavy. I'm sure I'll get flamed for this...but sorry ladies there IS a difference between overweight and obese. Obese doesn't = curvy. Edited January 12, 2012 by azsinglegal
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