DollWelch Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I am crushing badly on a man, and I feel he's unlike any of the other crushes I have had in the past. He and I lost touch for quite a long time, then suddenly out of the blue he contacted me recently. I was taken aback, but he and I quickly did a lot of catching up; coupled with intense flirting and chemistry, with him leading the way. The kicker is, he has a girlfriend. And from what I understand it is a serious relationship, with a live-in girlfriend. Well, not entirely sure about the live-in part, but he did mention a girlfriend. I can tell he is quite captivated by me (and I him), but I don't want to lead him on nor do I want to ruin their relationship (aka home-wrecker). I have been thinking of completely cutting off contact, though this will be tough to do, I know it can be done. What stumps me, as I find it quite baffling and at the same time disheartening, is why would he flirt with me considering he has a girlfriend? Is he looking for trouble? They do say, if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. Right?
Author DollWelch Posted January 11, 2012 Author Posted January 11, 2012 I am just curious as to what he is up to/why he is acting this way -and wanted to hear a third party's perspective on this.
curlygirl40 Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I am crushing badly on a man, and I feel he's unlike any of the other crushes I have had in the past. He and I lost touch for quite a long time, then suddenly out of the blue he contacted me recently. I was taken aback, but he and I quickly did a lot of catching up; coupled with intense flirting and chemistry, with him leading the way. The kicker is, he has a girlfriend. And from what I understand it is a serious relationship, with a live-in girlfriend. Well, not entirely sure about the live-in part, but he did mention a girlfriend. I can tell he is quite captivated by me (and I him), but I don't want to lead him on nor do I want to ruin their relationship (aka home-wrecker). I have been thinking of completely cutting off contact, though this will be tough to do, I know it can be done. What stumps me, as I find it quite baffling and at the same time disheartening, is why would he flirt with me considering he has a girlfriend? Is he looking for trouble? They do say, if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. Right? When you say that you feel like he's unlike any other crushes you've had in the past, do you mean it's because the guy is UNAVAILABLE?? He will flirt with you considering the fact that he has a girlfriend because he's looking for trouble so yes to that, and so are you if you continue to flirt and play around with him, online or in person. Sounds like big trouble all around.
bean1 Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 He's fishing for flattery (at best) or an affair (most likely). And yes, if you take her job, there will be a new opening. You don't expect to live happily ever after with someone like that.
curlygirl40 Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I am just curious as to what he is up to/why he is acting this way -and wanted to hear a third party's perspective on this. Well to me that's not really the question. None of us could possibly really know why he's acting this way. He could be bored with the girlfriend. Looking for an exit relationship. Looking to cheat. The real question is what is in it for you?? Focus more on 'does this work for me?' and you'll have your answer. I wouldn't invite that into your life. Do you want a guy in your life who is so willing to flirt with another girl behind your back? Do you want to be hung up on a guy who might just be using you as an ego boost while he sleeps with his girlfriend every night? Me thinks not.
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