sugarmomma Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 A man found himself in the middle of a long hallway. In the middle of this long hallway was a solitary door. He walked up to the door and knocked on it. It was answered by a clown who proceeded to beat the life out of him. The next day, the gentleman was in the hallway once more, and once more found his way to the door and knocked on it. Again, it was answered by the same clown and again, the clown beat him senseless. This occurred for 4 more days - the man would be in the hallway, go to the door, knock on it, and the clown would answer the door only to beat him senseless once more. On the 7th day, the man was once again in the hallway. He walked up to the door and knocked on it - but no one answered. So, he went looking for the clown.
Author sugarmomma Posted January 11, 2012 Author Posted January 11, 2012 I used to compare my sadistic, narcissistic ex to Lucy Van Pelt from Peanuts. Honestly, I think Lucy and the Clown are one and the same. That flippin clown tried to take my heart and throw it on the flippin roof so I couldn't get it. Glad he missed and I got a chance to slap his arse really hard!! lol So glad I stopped looking for the clown and when I did he came looking for me and I slammed the door on his arse!!
Dust Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 Geegirl and her hit post... Good for you Sugarmama now give me some sugar!
geegirl Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 I used to compare my sadistic, narcissistic ex to Lucy Van Pelt from Peanuts. Honestly, I think Lucy and the Clown are one and the same. That flippin clown tried to take my heart and throw it on the flippin roof so I couldn't get it. Glad he missed and I got a chance to slap his arse really hard!! lol So glad I stopped looking for the clown and when I did he came looking for me and I slammed the door on his arse!! Good for you Sugar! The next time I see a damn clown, I'm throwing the first punch. It's liberating when you are finally able to say no more.
lalalandman Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 I'm sort of still confused by this analogy. What exactly does this mean?? So in a literal sense, let's just say my ex dumped me. She breaks NC every so often, and somehow it just goes to ****. So then after more time, she breaks NC, we talk, and it ends in nothing again. We just end up fighting. Then I let her know directly or indirectly to back off. Wouldn't this make me the clown??
MarMarMar Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I'm sort of still confused by this analogy. What exactly does this mean?? So in a literal sense, let's just say my ex dumped me. She breaks NC every so often, and somehow it just goes to ****. So then after more time, she breaks NC, we talk, and it ends in nothing again. We just end up fighting. Then I let her know directly or indirectly to back off. Wouldn't this make me the clown?? I think they mean that doing to same thing (responding to/contacting your ex) and getting a negative result every time over and over again regardless. I guess sort of like those experiments with mice? Don't go back to the cheese that shocks you hoping it won't and you'll get the yummy bits and just find new cheese?
geegirl Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 (edited) I'm sort of still confused by this analogy. What exactly does this mean?? So in a literal sense, let's just say my ex dumped me. She breaks NC every so often, and somehow it just goes to ****. So then after more time, she breaks NC, we talk, and it ends in nothing again. We just end up fighting. Then I let her know directly or indirectly to back off. Wouldn't this make me the clown?? You keep engaging the clown, who is your ex. Repeating the same behaviors and expecting different results. Simply, stop opening the door because all you're going to receive is a beating, over and over again. Curious as to what's behind the door when you know deep down inside what's waiting behind it? Edited January 13, 2012 by geegirl
Art_Critic Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 The next time I see a damn clown, I'm throwing the first punch. Should I duck ?
geegirl Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Should I duck ? You're an exception to the rule
Art_Critic Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 You're an exception to the rule Ahhh... .... So are you
geegirl Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Ahhh... .... So are you Aww...and this coming from one of my favorite posters ever!:love:
chelsea2011 Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Aww...lol...you two are too funny. Great thread! Something I had a habit of doing in the past and still do occasionally when imm tired and feeling out of sorts. I'm not as bad as I used to be...thankfully.
EgoJoe Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I gave the clown a cold shoulder months ago. She did not like it.
geegirl Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I gave the clown a cold shoulder months ago. She did not like it. You and me both. Only mine was an accidental bumping recently while he was with his new girlfriend. Awkward hellos and stuttering on his part, followed by a text a couple of weeks later wanting to know why I haven't reached out! The audacity!
EgoJoe Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Ah, I stopped responding to her via email in September and then got a 3:30am pandering email in mid-october bittersweet silence since then. I ended up blocking on Facebook in November (I defriended months before we broke up). She could still E-mail me but that would involve her not being in denial etc. Radio silence with nothing but the distortions of Jupiter's magnetic field causing noise since then, heh.
EgoJoe Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I am at an impass currently. Need to do forgiving on both sides of the fence and make this last leap. I'm very jaded as a result of things and therefore it is too easy to hang on to bad feelings even when I am not trying to. It takes time. My Ego got a "boost" from ignoring her and then receiving possible drunken pandering but I haven't gone looking for the clown in any shape or form for a while now, heh.
geegirl Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 I am at an impass currently. Need to do forgiving on both sides of the fence and make this last leap. I'm very jaded as a result of things and therefore it is too easy to hang on to bad feelings even when I am not trying to. It takes time. My Ego got a "boost" from ignoring her and then receiving possible drunken pandering but I haven't gone looking for the clown in any shape or form for a while now, heh. It does take time. I too went through stages of what you just mentioned. You'll get there EJ. It's a process and I think, at least for me, once I was strong in my stance not to seek the clown or vice versa, which was 3/4's of the battle, is when it all started shaping up for me.
betterdeal Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Duck walks into a bar and asks, "got any bread" Barman says "no" Next day, ducks walks into the same bar and asks, "got any bread" Barman says "no" This happens for several days until one day, the barman, frustrated, see the duck come in and says "if you ask for bread, I'm going to nail your beak to the bar" Duck says, "got any nails?" Barman says "no" "Got any bread?"
EgoJoe Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Duck walks into a bar and asks, "got any bread" Barman says "no" Next day, ducks walks into the same bar and asks, "got any bread" Barman says "no" This happens for several days until one day, the barman, frustrated, see the duck come in and says "if you ask for bread, I'm going to nail your beak to the bar" Duck says, "got any nails?" Barman says "no" "Got any bread?" Heh, Betterdeal you're crazy sometimes. I didn't have to threaten with nails. I just stopped responding and it fizzled away with one last pandering hurrah.
betterdeal Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Only sometimes? That's one of my favourite jokes! And sort of like the clown analogy. Another thing like the clown analogy that I've read recently is the Monty Hall problem. The answer to that is not obvious, and the same goes with dealing with a fickle flake. The answer is within you, not them. I'm glad you've found your answer. Life's too short live it in someone else's neurosis.
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