radiodarcy Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 (edited) mmm...donuts! ~ Homer Simpson Enjoy Darcy! hah! thanks! you too Zahara!! Edited February 14, 2012 by radiodarcy Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Share Posted February 15, 2012 i did nothing on vday, well except babysit my friends toddler-and did zumba on the wii- I didnt not one text or call /email/facebook/twitter/tagged etcccccccccc........for vday im 41 and never had a valentine! never got flowers, chocolate, jewerly i am anti vday i was hoping i would get some kind of text, but nothing-i just shake my head trying to realize that this guy that has been in my head daily for 10 months doesnt really care an ounce for me! UNBELIEVABLE! after all we did and time we spent together! and not to mention the amazing sex! still depressing! i just hope he NEVERS texts me again! he should know and have learned by now with the incident over the weekend that i dont play games and he should really stop playing with my heart Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 still depressing! i just hope he NEVERS texts me again! he should know and have learned by now with the incident over the weekend that i dont play games and he should really stop playing with my heart I just hope that when he texts you, you never answer him again. People will play with your heart if you allow them to. You have to set boundaries as to what you will and will not tolerate. Never place the responsibility of protecting YOU in someone else's hands. You have to do that yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 ugh its so hard not to think about him! for some reason i think about him and the situation alot! As i try to go to sleep, while im driving, ugh! im crying and depressed all the time it would be nice to erase the t houghts Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 ugh its so hard not to think about him! for some reason i think about him and the situation alot! As i try to go to sleep, while im driving, ugh! im crying and depressed all the time it would be nice to erase the t houghts Unfortunately, it's just how it is. It's fresh in your mind and heart. You've held on for 7 months (correct me if I am wrong) and his behavior recently has finally solidified the end of this relationship. The finality is now hitting you, whereas before this, you were still haboring hope. It's normal to idealize these men, even when they are jerks. It's your heart speaking. You will just have to go through it to get past it. There is no shortcut to this. All you can do is feel the hurt and take one step at a time. I wish there was an easier way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 yep so i got another text last night: hey how are you what you doing? u off work tomm? i waited and responded, im good(didnt ask him!) I was reading funny jokes and yes i was off work end of last night this morning(11am), mor etexts!: good morning how are you u there?(because i didnt respond!) amazing huh? told him i was busy at the gym he asked if i wanted to go to the movie at 1;50pm i couldnt i already had plans wt my mom(shopping and lunch) so told him i was busy and could after 3pm(he had to see what time he got his son) then he asked if i wanted to meet for lunch! (well i alrady had lunch, it was 1pm) SMDH! we texted the rest of the day off and on but never made it to the movie! UNBELIEVABLE! i wish i had to balls to say" look, if you dont want to try and pursue a dating or some kind of relationship with me, then leave me alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Tell him to buzz off - unless he wants to ask you out on a date. Don't bite when he's fishing for his booty call. If he wants to DATE you - he should be making sure he offers you a date! And don't give him sex right away even if he does date you - let him show effort for a while first. Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 This man didn't even care to check on you, to see if you were laying in a ditch somewhere. You actually wanted to go to a movie with him? And you're engaging with him like nothing ever happened since the last incident? You just showed him that he doesn't have to extend you any respect or care and you will still lay on the floor and and let him walk all over you. If anything, you've demoted yourself so far down that he now only sees you as someone that has no boundaries, no respect for herself or demands respect and hasn't enough value within herself to hold a ****ty person accountable for treating her badly. If you feel that this is all you deserve or can settle for, there's much more to this story than just a crappy guy, Alexa. You need to start looking within yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted February 18, 2012 Author Share Posted February 18, 2012 well i went on the i guess so called date last night-movies and drinks at fridays and he even picked me up! and no i wasnt settling for just abooty call and if hes smart he would have figured that out last weekend when he invited me to come over and which i didnt( well mostly b/c of the weather) i dont know it might have been the wrong thing to go last night , maybe opening my heart for the hurt again-but i dont have anyone else interested me in months and the ones that message me are either not my type or dont have the quailities i am looking for in a man! so we shall see what happens,if it doesnt go the right way i will tell him seriously to leave me alone! Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 or dont have the quailities i am looking for in a man! so we shall see what happens,if it doesnt go the right way i will tell him seriously to leave me alone! And he certainly has all the good qualities you seek in a guy. Unfortunately, you will have to learn the hard way. Soon enough he'll get in your good graces after a couple of movies and dinners, you'll have sex again. Lather, rinse, repeat. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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