ToothpasteLove Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 We have been broken up for almost 2 weeks.. and ive been in no contact for 4 days. Her text says .. 'Miss you xx' I dont know what to write back? I dont know if i should write back? I have been utterly heartbroken since it ended, it really hitting me the past two days and now she texts.. What do i do? Ignore her and continue No contact or do i text her back? I want to be with her, but i dont want to text her back if she is then going to tell me she still hasnt decided if she wants to be with me and needs more time, that would hurt alot more.. i smiled a little thou.. because even that two word text let me know she was thinking about me? What do i do?
BoredAgain Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 Personally, receiving mixed-messages is an aggravating experience. It might be a good idea to just ignore it until she makes her intentions clear.
Cmac Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 Yeah, really if you want to heal NC is the best way to go. I broke it back at Christmas and felt like I was back at square one. A couple of weeks later with NC I'm feeling a bit better again. If you don't feel ready to reply, don't do it. Then again it's only been 4 days NC so I suppose if curiosity gets the better of you you don't have much to lose...your call really.
EgoJoe Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 Do not respond. If she can't decide than decide for her: You don't want to be with anyone who is not absolutely 100% sure they want to be with you. Go NC for a looooong time. See other people. It's just breadcrumbs buddy. Do not give in.
geegirl Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 (edited) We have been broken up for almost 2 weeks.. and ive been in no contact for 4 days. Her text says .. 'Miss you xx' I dont know what to write back? I dont know if i should write back? I have been utterly heartbroken since it ended, it really hitting me the past two days and now she texts.. What do i do? Ignore her and continue No contact or do i text her back? I want to be with her, but i dont want to text her back if she is then going to tell me she still hasnt decided if she wants to be with me and needs more time, that would hurt alot more.. i smiled a little thou.. because even that two word text let me know she was thinking about me? What do i do? Personally, since the break up is so fresh, I'd go with the honest route. Tell her, short and sweet that until she makes a clear and definite decision as to what she wants, you would kindly ask for her to respect NC so that you can heal from your hurt and to let you be. Then shut the door completely. You better be expecting more than a two word text when someone wants you back. It's just a text. Dumpers feel a loss as well and she's reaching out to ease her discomfort. But her feelings are not your responsibility. You can ignore but I would personally say my piece. That way she knows the ball is in her court and she needs to abide by your terms and you won't feel bad or disturbed if you can't/don't respond when/if she contacts again with something trivial because you would have made your feelings clear to her as to what NC means to you. Edited January 11, 2012 by geegirl
oren ish Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 Stay NC and dont settle for anything else except her beating down your door begging for your forgivness... take it from me if you act on a breadcrumb you do 2 things... 1 You get sent straight back to hell as she is validated and feels relief... 2 you pass your power straight over to her and she will consider rationalizing her decision... if she is in a confused place you cant win by replying to a breadcrumb...
snikerbarz Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/05/ex-girlfriend-giving-mixed-signals/ This will explain why she's giving mixed messages.
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