Mr. Savage Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 My ex and I were friends for about 2 years before we started dating. We dated from Feb. to May of 2011 and it ended pretty badly. Let's just say she wasnt really honest about breaking up with me and I was very angry about it for some time. We work together and see each other pretty much all the time at work. For the first 2 months after the breakup when it was still hurting me I wouldnt even look at her. NO CONTACT! After those couple months when I finally cooled down a bit (not totally over it) I texted her saying I was sorry for things I had done and all I expected was an apology from her as well for things she had done. Well she gave a half assed apology but wasnt really clear. So I reposonded with a sort of farewell text in which I stated exactly what I thought she had done wrong and that I really did wish her the best and to take care. That was 6 months ago and we have not spoken a word or anything to each other since. At work its akward silence when we pass. VERY AKWARD! At this point I am so over everything that happened. I am at a good point in life except for this one thorn. I have no ill feelings at all toward her and wouldnt mind at least being friendly to each other at work. The other day I caught her lookin at me and I think she wants to be friends again but is either to stubborn or scared to make the effort. I think she is waiting for me to extend the olive branch. What would you do?
Philosoraptor Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 If you're truly sure you have no feelings left then there is no harm in extending the olive branch. Worst that can happen is that she rejects your offer.
Author Mr. Savage Posted January 10, 2012 Author Posted January 10, 2012 Well considering the fact that she is with a new boyfriend now and pregnant with his child no I no longer have feelings like that for her anymore. I really do not even wish to become friends outside of work again. Just a mutual understanding that all is well and behind us and we can say hi to each other is all I really want.
goldengirl11 Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 Well considering the fact that she is with a new boyfriend now and pregnant with his child no I no longer have feelings like that for her anymore. I really do not even wish to become friends outside of work again. Just a mutual understanding that all is well and behind us and we can say hi to each other is all I really want. I admit that I would find that situation too painful to act just as friends, especially with a baby on the way with someone else! I think that I would sadly have to force myself to move on if that were the case. Although don't want to tempt fate by saying that tbh. Oh I just did.:-(
flitzanu Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 consider this. do you wake up and then realize, "hey, i don't remember the last time i thought about her"? do you GENUINELY feel that she's in a better place with this guy than she would be with you? if both are not accurate...then don't TRY to be friends with her. there's no harm in letting go of the anger and to stop intentionally ignoring or avoiding her, but it doesn't mean you have to try to be nice or make friends. this thorn is yours, not hers. if dropping your resentment, do it for you, not for both of you.
Author Mr. Savage Posted January 13, 2012 Author Posted January 13, 2012 Well I've come to realize that we were never really that compatible with each other in the first place. I thought at the time I wanted to change my ways and start a family (she had 2 kids) but looking back I know it wasnt the best idea. And I think her being severly unable to verbally express how she felt about it just decided to end it and me wondering why. But now I know it doesnt matter cause it wouldnt have worked out anyway.
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