xpaperxcutx Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 by how attractive some men can be. It doesn't necessarily have to be their body but I notice how well-groomed some men can be. Their hair is suave, their eyebrows immaculate, and when they smile, I am dazzled by their pearly whites. I've never been intimidated before. Usually I get slightly flustered about their background- they went to a better school and they're better financially than I- but it's only recently i taken to being tongue tied when I get asked out by an " attractive" guy. I don't have self steem issues and normally the only people I get intimidated are really pretty girls. Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex?
darkmoon Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 on a certain level, i feel these sorts of men might be players, likely to have others who like them. temptaton then. if a man, any, really likes you especially they will say so, so that they don't lose you. the possibiilty that these alpha guys want to look for a wife or SO is there too, so don't write them off. i'd rather have an alpha than a greaseball who thinks he's wonderful in spite of bad grooming etc. women have been advertised at about looking our best for a long time, now it's the guys' turn. but a woman would do well to avoid a man who doesn't put her at her ease accomplished man can tell by your reaction, don't push it if you feel insecure
singlelife Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 I mean really? Do you want a good catch or what? Go date squiggy then.
jobaba Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 by how attractive some men can be. It doesn't necessarily have to be their body but I notice how well-groomed some men can be. Their hair is suave, their eyebrows immaculate, and when they smile, I am dazzled by their pearly whites. I've never been intimidated before. Usually I get slightly flustered about their background- they went to a better school and they're better financially than I- but it's only recently i taken to being tongue tied when I get asked out by an " attractive" guy. I don't have self steem issues and normally the only people I get intimidated are really pretty girls. Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex? I'm more intimidated by tall women since I'm a short guy. I'll be more intimidated by a 5'10" average woman than a hot 5'5" girl. My hangups about that aren't as bad as they used to be though. Plus, I don't really care about looks, so I'm not really intimidated by good looking people. Plus, a good looking person who is cool will make you feel at ease. But ... yea, the people who say XXXX was so good looking, I couldn't even talk around him/her. That sh@t makes me laugh. A...ha..ha..
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 by how attractive some men can be. It doesn't necessarily have to be their body but I notice how well-groomed some men can be. Their hair is suave, their eyebrows immaculate, and when they smile, I am dazzled by their pearly whites. I've never been intimidated before. Usually I get slightly flustered about their background- they went to a better school and they're better financially than I- but it's only recently i taken to being tongue tied when I get asked out by an " attractive" guy. I don't have self steem issues and normally the only people I get intimidated are really pretty girls. Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex? It means you are putting more value in your own looks. The more important your own beauty is to you... the more intimidated you will be by beautiful members of the opposite sex. It's funny but when I was a teen really pretty girls intimidated me, until I learned to just focus in on their flaws. Suddenly Catherine Zeta Jones had one eye higher than the other... Julia Roberts had a crooked nose... ect. Suddenly they are no better than me... just with lots of grooming and makeup.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 I mean really? Do you want a good catch or what? Go date squiggy then. Good looking doesn't mean good catch, I wouldnt necessarily put them in the same sentence. I have dated this really cute Russian- Tall, blond and handsome. He was very well groomed but omg, he was so stuck up on find the " perfect" Asian girl. I can say most of the time I approach average looking guys, I have a hard time initiating flirtations with a guy who looks like he can be an abercrombie model.
FitChick Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 The more important your own beauty is to you... the more intimidated you will be by beautiful members of the opposite sex. I disagree. If I look good, it improves my confidence so I am less likely to be intimidated by a successful man. I love a slim man in an expensive suit. A good haircut and very light cologne is icing on the cake. I don't care about pretty boys -- maybe because most of the pretty boys around are actors. Never date an actor!
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 I disagree. If I look good, it improves my confidence so I am less likely to be intimidated by a successful man. I love a slim man in an expensive suit. A good haircut and very light cologne is icing on the cake. I don't care about pretty boys -- maybe because most of the pretty boys around are actors. Never date an actor! I would bet that's because your self esteem is built on much more than your looks. The prettiest women I've ever known were also the most insecure. A few acted like queen of the world, but underneath they had very little confidence. To put what I'm saying another way... if you get a lot of your self esteem from your physical appearance... you will be very intimidated by those you think look better. Oh... and Yes... Never date actors! Actresses are not much better.
snug.bunny Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 I mean really? Do you want a good catch or what? Go date squiggy then. Lenny and squiggy...What ever happened to those guys?
Lonely Ronin Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex? Yes, I think when you meet someone that possesses all your wants needs and desires, it can be very intimidating. I'm going through this right now myself, and just thinking about the person makes me a little edgy.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 by how attractive some men can be. It doesn't necessarily have to be their body but I notice how well-groomed some men can be. Their hair is suave, their eyebrows immaculate, and when they smile, I am dazzled by their pearly whites. I've never been intimidated before. Usually I get slightly flustered about their background- they went to a better school and they're better financially than I- but it's only recently i taken to being tongue tied when I get asked out by an " attractive" guy. I don't have self steem issues and normally the only people I get intimidated are really pretty girls. Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex? Some times girls get intimidated by me. Then as a defense mechanism they call me a "player" make justify their fear. Then it usually doesn't end well after that.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 10, 2012 Author Posted January 10, 2012 Some times girls get intimidated by me. Then as a defense mechanism they call me a "player" make justify their fear. Then it usually doesn't end well after that. Understandable. Giants are usually intimidating.
colliejoanie Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 by how attractive some men can be. It doesn't necessarily have to be their body but I notice how well-groomed some men can be. Their hair is suave, their eyebrows immaculate, and when they smile, I am dazzled by their pearly whites. I've never been intimidated before. Usually I get slightly flustered about their background- they went to a better school and they're better financially than I- but it's only recently i taken to being tongue tied when I get asked out by an " attractive" guy. I don't have self steem issues and normally the only people I get intimidated are really pretty girls. Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex? Oh my gosh! I felt this today. I'm in training all week and an executive from our company took us out for lunch. A very handsome executive. Before lunch, he presented to us and I noticed he was attractive and well dressed, but so down to earth that I wasn't intimidated. Then I sat next to him at lunch. He's tall, lean, he's engaging with his eyes.....and what made me intimidated, UNBELIEVABLY.....was that he smelled SO GOOD! It wasn't heavy cologne, or after shave. It was just a clean, masculine scent. And for some reason, this intimidated me. hmmmm. Who knows???
thehead Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 Yes, I think when you meet someone that possesses all your wants needs and desires, it can be very intimidating. I'm going through this right now myself, and just thinking about the person makes me a little edgy. I'm pretty much the same. Looks alone can't intimidate me but when she's hot and smart, I notice I'm on edge more and less sure of myself.
Emilia Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 I'm pretty much the same. Looks alone can't intimidate me but when she's hot and smart, I notice I'm on edge more and less sure of myself. I was about to say the same. If a guy is extremely good looking but a bit dumb I know I can run circles around him. If he is hot AND really smart too then I get nervous.
kaylan Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 (edited) by how attractive some men can be. It doesn't necessarily have to be their body but I notice how well-groomed some men can be. Their hair is suave, their eyebrows immaculate, and when they smile, I am dazzled by their pearly whites. I've never been intimidated before. Usually I get slightly flustered about their background- they went to a better school and they're better financially than I- but it's only recently i taken to being tongue tied when I get asked out by an " attractive" guy. I don't have self steem issues and normally the only people I get intimidated are really pretty girls. Is it normal to be intimidated by the opposite sex? For me it usually depends on how attracted I am to the girl. If Im very attracted to her, I can possibly be intimidated. It depends on the girl, since I dont get super attracted to all women who are considered empirically attractive. There was this one girl at school who I only talked to a couple times before graduation. Shes prolly empirically rated a 7 out of 10 if people were to assign numbers. Like she was cute and a attractive, but not super hot according to my friends. None of them could understand why she made me so flustered. Shes just someone ticked the right boxes for me and elicited a 10 out of 10 response from me. To this day shes the only girl who made me have a noticeable change in heart rate almost every single time I was near her. It was really odd since that never happens to me, and especially because my friends would dog me for getting so out of sorts about her. They would always tell me I could do better, but I didnt care. To me she was super hot. Her face, her body, and most attractive to me was her attitude. The way she carried herself screamed "yeah im hot, im a bitch too...come get this" haha, what can I say...I love attitude. Edited January 10, 2012 by kaylan
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