Spunge Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Hey there! I was head over heels in love with this guy that broke up with me 8 monthes ago, we had a terrible, terrible break-up. We both still had major feelings for one another, but the relationship was starting to be unhealthy, so he decided to end it. As time went by I healed more and more, and focused on my studies and eventually I became a happy human being again! As of lately I started to wonder what he was up to. So I sent him a very open text, if he would like to help me with something, and he answered me politely. The texts went from that to a bit of joking, and talking about our past relationship, and I apologized for my behaviour, and he apologized for his, and we both agreed that the break-up definetely put things into perspective. I remember he even said "I know none of us were perfect, but I think you made up for the bad stuff really well..." After that we were joking all day, only a couple of hours he didn't answer, when he was out shopping (he even apologized for that, lol) and we wrote to eachother until the night, when he said goodnight. I also told him that whenever I was mad at a certain guy, I would accidently call him by his name, and my ex was all "Also you? I also accidently call my ex by your name and btw. good to know that you think of me when you're mad, or something :D" The next day, I decided to contact him again to "open" the communication for more, so it wouldn't seem like it was just to get help from him, so I said something along with "It's pretty boring right now, say something funny lol." and then we started having this conversation about rainbows, and unicorns and stuff like that. Either way, I don't want to come of as desperate, so I haven't initiated anything today... I just wonder why he doesn't seem to initiate anything, haven't I opened the lines of communication well enough? And before going with the bla "an ex is an ex for a reason" because I fully believe in that, however my parents met when they were 16, divorced after several years, just to get together again 20 years later, and they still are So I do believe it's possible to reconcile with an ex, if you discuss what went wrong the last time, and me and the ex already agreed that it put things into perspective. I'm just very confused where to go from here. Should I wait for him to initiate?(will he? why won't he?), Should I keep initiating? Should I lay it off, and wait a while before initiating again? Also I do not want to end up in a just-friends zone, so any advice you have would be wonderful! Especially from a male perspective.
sugarmomma Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 I would have to say wait until he contacts you. You don't want to be doing all the work and I firmly believe in the Law of Reciprocity. You give a little, he gives a little. Its only fair. I don't think he's interested in getting back together.
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