Crush?

[thezappa]

Hi all!

 

I am a 21 year old female. I would consider myself good looking but I can't flirt!

 

I have been single now for over a year and have not met anyone in this time as I was getting over someone I went out with for over a year and was crazy about.

 

I am in my final year of college and this year a new guy has joined the class. I have a huge crush on the guy but have no idea how to go about letting him know I do. We talk almost everyday in class and the more I talk to him the more I like him. It is getting to the point where he is almost all I think about. I enjoy going into college just because I know he will be there.

 

My problem is:

 

1. I can not tell if he likes me too.

2. I do not know how to let him know I like him.

3. He is much older than me (10 years) so that makes me think he probably only see's me as a friend.

4. If I did ask him to do something outside of college, I am afraid I will get rejected and then it would be a bit awkward in class. Then again if I do nothing I will regret it and may never see him again as we finish in 3 months time.

 

He is lovely, smart, mature, gentle and just so so nice. I have never enjoyed a conversation with someone so much. Guys my age do not even compare to him and when I get hit on by guys my age I just can't help but think how immature they are. All they usually want is for my to go back to their place and well you know the rest. I am not that type of women!

 

Any advice would be very much appreciated,

Thank you

[Philosoraptor]

You live but once so go for it. Just like anyone else you always face the opportunity of rejection. Just ask him out to dinner.

[jobaba]

I would call what you have a bit more than a crush. To me, a crush is when it's mostly based on lust with little if any interaction with the person of desire.

 

What you have is more an infatuation. I have had that a few times.

 

1. Ask him out and face rejection. Something men have been doing since the beginning of time.

2. See #1, or sit next to him and start rubbing your hand across this knee and thigh. That's something college age girls do when they like a guy (or want to tease a poor shmuck they have no interest in).

3. It is possible he does, it is possible he doesn't.

4. You could wait three months and ask him when the class is over. But by then, your feelings would probably be boiling over. I'd do it now and get it over with. You could also not do anything...

 

...feelings are just that. Feelings. If you are rejected, in three months from now, I guarantee it will hurt worse than if you did nothing. But anyway ... the most important thing is to do it early while you have less invested.