darkmoon Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 i know a man who fancies me but has a female lodger and also an ex who he still sees. two red flags. the ex has my address (his interfering friend gave it out) and yet he won't give me hers. three red flags. i look terrible in my winter coat, but ok in the summer, this guy usually looks upset when he sees me out with another guy, but he makes me pretty unhappy. i have yet to feel like his favourite, been lucky in love a couple of times so i know what men are like when i'm thier number one. should i warn this guy, freindly like, that by summer, looking ok, i'll be long gone with a man who puts me first which he doesn't do, or leave him floundering?
ditzchic Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Why wait until the summer? Move on while the movins good. You're not comfortable with where the relationship is now. Waiting things out in the hopes that maybe things will get better rarely ever works out. Just go. You never know what you could be missing out on now.
Author darkmoon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 i think you're right, he knows my dealbreakers. cheers
carhill Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Yep, sounds like his dance card is full. IMO, no need for warnings. Silence can be deafening.
KathyM Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Why would you invest your time in a man who doesn't treat you well? Doesn't make any sense. Plus he's not available for a relationship if he's still seeing his X. Time to move on and find someone who is available for a relationship with you.
Author darkmoon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 his freind and mother think i should accept things = his friend eggs him on to give me a come-on and i do care for him, don't want him to suffer, i think he's a bit spoilt tbh but am not so stupid as to go with him unless am being put first
KathyM Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 his freind and mother think i should accept things = his friend eggs him on to give me a come-on and i do care for him, don't want him to suffer, i think he's a bit spoilt tbh but am not so stupid as to go with him unless am being put first His friend and mother must think that you would be better for him than his X, and would want him to move on from her. But he's the one making the decisions about his life, and if he is not willing to put his X in the past, then I wouldn't recommend waiting around for him to figure out what he wants. Life is too short for that.
Author darkmoon Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 yeah, i just think a freindly message to him might be fairer. but yes it's his descision
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