randy90631 Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months. We are both in our early 30s. I'm concerned with the possibility of a perception that I'm needy. One thing I know about myself is the well-being of those I care about is important to me. I take care of my own well-being to my satisfaction, so I don't sacrifice myself to please others. With that being said, I want my girlfriend to have a good time when we are together and that she is generally happy. I try to be perceptive and empathic, and therefore sometimes I misinterpret her texts messages as her being upset. I tell myself that if she was upset at something, she would tell me, but the trying to be a mind reader takes over. So I don't want to be perceived as a needy guy, since I know that is a major turn off. Are there any suggestions on how I can just stop asking her questions about her well-being, mind reading and such. Is it all self control?
TheFinalWord Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Yeah, don't text message as much. Call her on the phone. Other than that just recognize she lived the past 30 years without your help and made it just fine It's not your responsibility to make her happy!
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