Lonelystar Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 I'm really upset right now, and I guess I need to vent. Yesterday my ex called me and told me he wanted me back. I said no because he hurt me plenty, and I knew if I said yes I would be hurt again. Earlier today his friend calls me and tells me it was a big joke. He told me that he just wanted to see if he could "get me back", and that he already has a girlfriend. I don't know why he can't just let things go. Why does he have to keep putting me down? We broke up.... i'm over it ( most part). Why does he keep bugging me?
amerikajin Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Your ex just lost the privilege to talk to you ever again. Anyone who does that is just a complete s*** in my opinion. Don't ever speak another word to him - ever. If he calls, hang up. If you see him out, ignore him.
Blah Toolz Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Wow, what is he five years old? You need to stop taking his calls, period.
unreal Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Originally posted by Lonelystar I'm really upset right now, and I guess I need to vent. Yesterday my ex called me and told me he wanted me back. I said no because he hurt me plenty, and I knew if I said yes I would be hurt again. Earlier today his friend calls me and tells me it was a big joke. He told me that he just wanted to see if he could "get me back", and that he already has a girlfriend. I don't know why he can't just let things go. Why does he have to keep putting me down? We broke up.... i'm over it ( most part). Why does he keep bugging me? Jesus, how old is he, 15? That is very, very immature.
will_woman Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Oh man!!!....I have never heard of such immature person. Do not care about his actions or words. Whatever he is doing is no longer of concern to you. You have much more better things to spend your time and energy on. DO not waste any single energy on him.
DerangedAngel Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 What the f*ck? Totally immature. What are your ages? Stop taking his calls, Lonelystar. A thought: I had a guy do something similar to me once. He was sincere (or as sincere as possible) when he first called, and when he found out he couldn't have me back - he decided to tell me that he was only joking, he had a girlfriend, blah blah blah. Pretty much the same story you got from his friend. He had no girlfriend. He did want me back. But when a guy's pride is wounded, he can do completely idiotic and/or cruel s*** to get his little sense of dignity back. That doesn't mean that's the case here (but I'd bet on it), and it certainly does not excuse anything. I hope you find someone more suited for you. Cheers. -Deranged
Author Lonelystar Posted June 1, 2004 Author Posted June 1, 2004 He is very immature. We are both 18. I just don't understand.I think he finds pleasure in making me feel bad. I was fine when he didn't call. Yeah I won't ever talk to him again. It is just funny how someone can change so much.
azgirl Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Originally posted by DerangedAngel What the f*ck? Took the words right out of my mouth - deranged. Yeah, honey - that was just ridiculous. No matter what reason he had for doing it - he's a pri*k! Good for you for telling him he couldn't have you back! Now you have one more reason not to want that loser in your life, huh?
Author Lonelystar Posted June 1, 2004 Author Posted June 1, 2004 Yup. I'm glad I said no. I stopped myself from making a big mistake. I just don't think he can see me happy. He wants me to be sad the rest of my life because we broke up. He found out I may be dating someone, and that is the only reason he called. I really don't understand people sometimes.
azgirl Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 That makes two of us. I don't understand people either. But it sounds like you are over him! Good for you! Nobody needs that s*** in their lives!
Author Lonelystar Posted June 1, 2004 Author Posted June 1, 2004 Yeah.I just wish he was more mature. I just don't understand how a person could change so much. When we were together he was always sweet, and caring. I thought to myself, even if we break up he won't be a jerk, but he turned out to be one. He still talks to all my friends and they think he is such a nice guy. If he is, why is he being such a jerk to me? ehh.. who knows.
azgirl Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Yeah. I know. Isn't it amazing when this perfectly nice, caring, person vanishes. And in their place is some cold, cruel, a**hole??? That always has confused me too. I have seen it happen many times with people that have dated in the past. This one is kinda doing that to me, too. Ugh! Men! Who needs em?
Author Lonelystar Posted June 1, 2004 Author Posted June 1, 2004 I agree . Who needs men?? I never understood that myself. I guess people change. Or when you are with someone you have your rosey colored glasses on , and don't see the real them. I'm glad I discoverd he was such an a**hole. Sad thing is I still miss him somewhat. I miss the "nice" him.
azgirl Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 I know EXACTLY how you feel. I miss the nice him too. I test messaged him the other day and said "I miss you. Not the person you've become, but the guy I fell in love with." (Sigh) He hasn't been home in days and I miss just having him around. Actually, I saw him on Sunday and he gave me a long hug and held me tightly and put his head down on mine. I miss those hugs and I miss snuggling with him. Uh-oh. Now I'm starting to get sad.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 1, 2004 Author Posted June 1, 2004 Aw I know how you feel. The last time I saw my ex we kissed and he hugged me tightly too...but that was 4months ago. Things will get better hopefully. When you get sad watch tv, read, or listen to music ( not the sappy love songs.. but something else). I hope you feel better! If you ever need to talk my ears are always open.
azgirl Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Thanks, LonelyStar! Last night, I listened to a CD I bought him at a concert we went to together and cried and wrote what I was feeling. Ugh! I have been through break ups before and I am still here, so I know that I will make it through this one, but it sucks when you REALLY want to spend the rest of your life with someone and you have to let them go.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 2, 2004 Author Posted June 2, 2004 Aw don't worry you will find your prince charming. Sometimes you just have to go through many rotten apples to get to the good one. Hang in there!
amerikajin Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 Your ex is obviously struggling from self esteem issues. Thus he feels the need to take his frustrations out on you. The only way to deal with people like him is to just cut him out of the picture entirely. Don't say even a peep to this guy ever again. You can't allow people to jerk you around like that.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 2, 2004 Author Posted June 2, 2004 Yeah I hear you. I won't ever talk to him again. I just wish he was more mature. But oh well.. what can you do?
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