Randybrandt Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 My ex came asked me out to have dinner and since I was feeling down I wound accepting and one thing lead to another and we ended up making out and having sex. She didn't just kiss me once but she kissed me twice and kissed me again. The problem is she has a boyfriend and she even admitted she is only dating him because he buys her expensive things.I am confused...She is dating him but wants me too? Friends don't usually kiss each other unless she has some sort of feelings towards me.
BoredAgain Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 If you're emotionally involved in the situation, you'd better run.
Author Randybrandt Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 No I am not. I just do not get her motives she is dating this man but she hooks up with me and kisses me?
leoc1973 Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 she is double dipping? yuck!! Lemme guess she probably said she hasn't been with him sexually in weeks or months too right? lmao!!! I can identify with you because my ex is staying with a guy right now just cause he takes her all over the place. Trips and vacations. A few months ago I met a real woman. It takes someone better to make you really realize how bad your ex can be. Hey though if you can do it without getting emotionally involved too much then have at it. Juts wear protection cause who knows how many other friends she has... And you don't wanna be on mauri povich later waiting for a paternity test to see who the baby daddy is..
smudge21 Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it, with second helpings maybe too. Major ego boost for this girl when you say yes to her and I bet she thrives on all the attention too. If you can honestly say you're not emotionally involved then the decision is yours whether to play the game with her, but be warned that at any point she could end it totally (once she's used you and got the boost she needed). Despite the fact you say you're not emotionally involved, she's calling all the shots and for that to end suddenly could end up hurting you. Also worth keeping in mind that she's treating her boyfriend like a fool... would you want to be in that situation? You may not know him at all, but either way, it's not a nice way to be treated is it, and as someone who has been hurt, you wouldn't wish that pain on anyone. I know I wouldn't.
Philosoraptor Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 You asked in another thread should you pursue this and were told not to. While reading your story it is hard to believe you are at a truly neutral and peaceful place in this situation and you are likely to continue to get hurt until you have finished healing. Just my opinion based on following all of this.
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