Are there instances where you've never heard from an ex ever again?

[Sugarkane]

Because they are emmotionally imature. Maybe throw some mass confusion about what they want in there too.

 

Me?.. I heard back from everyone of them. The dumpers and dumpees both. Some sooner then others. They realize what they had eventually but by then it was too late or I wouldn't take them back because they dumped me. Why take another chance. They left once, it's almost certain they would leave again. Heck, the one that dumped me before this last one STILL calls and wants to get back together. We broke up four years ago. WTF?..

 

Yet they contact often out of the blue years later to try and get back together. But when they dump us they call us crazy! Yet it's not crazy asking an ex back you haven't spoken to in YEARS?!

[lolita jade]

Talking as someone way older than you. You will probably meet up in a couple of years time when you are not expecting it. When you are way over them and seeing them is an exciting rush for both of you.

 

When I was in my teens I dated some ex's again and in my twenties I would see some of them at a bar and we would talk and fancy each other still. You have the connection with an ex that you don't have with a stranger.

 

Some ex's you may not come into contact for years, but you will. Funny enough though, the losers I dated I never did see around again or if I did it was not to talk to.

 

It will always be when you are not expecting it. So move on........

[fificremefarben]

Talking as someone way older than you. You will probably meet up in a couple of years time when you are not expecting it. When you are way over them and seeing them is an exciting rush for both of you.

 

When I was in my teens I dated some ex's again and in my twenties I would see some of them at a bar and we would talk and fancy each other still. You have the connection with an ex that you don't have with a stranger.

 

Some ex's you may not come into contact for years, but you will. Funny enough though, the losers I dated I never did see around again or if I did it was not to talk to.

 

It will always be when you are not expecting it. So move on........

 

 

Good advice, Lolita. I'm sure it has to happen at some point.

How have you been?

[I have no title]

Talking as someone way older than you. You will probably meet up in a couple of years time when you are not expecting it. When you are way over them and seeing them is an exciting rush for both of you.

 

When I was in my teens I dated some ex's again and in my twenties I would see some of them at a bar and we would talk and fancy each other still. You have the connection with an ex that you don't have with a stranger.

 

Some ex's you may not come into contact for years, but you will. Funny enough though, the losers I dated I never did see around again or if I did it was not to talk to.

 

It will always be when you are not expecting it. So move on........

 

I agree with you. I do beleive that all the people that have been important for us at some point, all those we had deep and strong feelings for, and all those for whom we sacrificed our time, feelings and emotions do come around one day. Maybe not for getting back together with us, and maybe not even for talking to us...But they do pop up when we least expect them, to see where we got through the years and whom we have become, and the same for us. They dont just disappear forever, I think at some point in our life we see them again - its like life gives us an opportunity to finally draw conclusions, and see if that person was worth all the time and efforts we invested in them. It gives you an opportunity to look at them through time and finally analyze them rationally, without those pink glasses on our eyes. Some of the ex's manage to become a better person, some don't...some do deserve a second chance, some don't...this is the beauty of life I guess - in not knowing what tomorrow will bring along..

[stillafool]

A man I was in love with cheated on me with another woman. When it was over I didn't respond or see him for 6 years and then it was only because we ran into each other. Once I decide I'm not wanted the right way it's no problem for me to never lay eyes on them again.

[lolita jade]

Good advice, Lolita. I'm sure it has to happen at some point.

How have you been?

 

Yes I am learning to accept. It is definately acceptance that heals you.

 

If it is meant to be it will be but you cant force somebody to love you and I am convinced the minute you truly move on and no longer want them at all that is when they may want you. It is called wanting something you cant have Anyway you become the mysterious person again in their eyes and always far more attractive than the needy loser, crying at home

 

I now think he is having a good time and I want to enjoy myself too.....

[lolita jade]

I agree with you. I do beleive that all the people that have been important for us at some point, all those we had deep and strong feelings for, and all those for whom we sacrificed our time, feelings and emotions do come around one day. Maybe not for getting back together with us, and maybe not even for talking to us...But they do pop up when we least expect them, to see where we got through the years and whom we have become, and the same for us. They dont just disappear forever, I think at some point in our life we see them again - its like life gives us an opportunity to finally draw conclusions, and see if that person was worth all the time and efforts we invested in them. It gives you an opportunity to look at them through time and finally analyze them rationally, without those pink glasses on our eyes. Some of the ex's manage to become a better person, some don't...some do deserve a second chance, some don't...this is the beauty of life I guess - in not knowing what tomorrow will bring along..

 

Exactly ) They will come back into your life in some capacity. It is life. What will be will be. Call it fate and don't worry about it.

[Glove_slap]

Sometimes i think to myself "Man I wish I NEVER see her again" because I just don't want to have to hear her explanation on how everything ended up the way they did. I already figured it out and it was one of the most painful things for me to accept, that naturally we could never be. Probably just me though. I want her to apologize but at the same time I just don't want her to exist in my memories.

[Feelin Frisky]

There was only on ex who I actually wanted to hear from. She called me after a year and apologized for being a damn jackass in how we stopped communicating after we split up. I called her on a birthday (only had her work phone and they told me she'd didn't work their any more. I never heard from her again. It was sad that we were bond communication. I loved her. But we were mismatched.

[lolita jade]

Sometimes i think to myself "Man I wish I NEVER see her again" because I just don't want to have to hear her explanation on how everything ended up the way they did. I already figured it out and it was one of the most painful things for me to accept, that naturally we could never be. Probably just me though. I want her to apologize but at the same time I just don't want her to exist in my memories.

 

do you know i have come to the comclusion that it is best to accept the whole thing as a complete mystery. just see it that it happened and dont seek any answers. relationships are complicated after all. once you can do this you are getting there.

i only get down times now when i wonder why? whats he doing? is he still happy with her? best thing to do is dont think and if you do stop yourself and enjoy yourself and your life. concentrate on yourself.

[fificremefarben]

i only get down times now when i wonder why? whats he doing? is he still happy with her? best thing to do is dont think and if you do stop yourself and enjoy yourself and your life. concentrate on yourself.

 

 

Agree with this 100%, Lolita. Moving on does get easier with time, and it's only when i let him drift back into my thoughts that I have my "down" moments now. Unfortunately that happened today, when a friend mentioned she'd heard he got a promotion at work. For a minute it got me down, cos I was thinking it's unfair how he cheated, lied and left me for the OW and things seems to be going so well for him (new gf, new apartment, promotion) whilst I've gone through hell these past few months. But, you're right, you just have to stop yourself thinking about them or you'll never move on. It gets easier all the time. x

[lolita jade]

Agree with this 100%, Lolita. Moving on does get easier with time, and it's only when i let him drift back into my thoughts that I have my "down" moments now. Unfortunately that happened today, when a friend mentioned she'd heard he got a promotion at work. For a minute it got me down, cos I was thinking it's unfair how he cheated, lied and left me for the OW and things seems to be going so well for him (new gf, new apartment, promotion) whilst I've gone through hell these past few months. But, you're right, you just have to stop yourself thinking about them or you'll never move on. It gets easier all the time. x

 

The danger is getting depressed that our life is shyte whilst ex's is fantastic.

 

Be determined to make your life great too. You only have one and it is your's not your ex's

[Glove_slap]

do you know i have come to the comclusion that it is best to accept the whole thing as a complete mystery. just see it that it happened and dont seek any answers. relationships are complicated after all. once you can do this you are getting there.

i only get down times now when i wonder why? whats he doing? is he still happy with her? best thing to do is dont think and if you do stop yourself and enjoy yourself and your life. concentrate on yourself.

 

great advice, thank you.