Are there instances where you've never heard from an ex ever again?

[Glove_slap]

I'm not talking about months with no contact but years in no contact. It's been over a year with NC with my first love, haven't heard anything from her.

 

- she left me for someone else a year and a half ago

[Casablanca]

I only hear from two ex's and only one of those was any form of a serious relationship....I've had ex's I havent heard from in years, and a couple of those I hope to never hear from again.

 

I'm in the same boat as you almost, I went NC with my first love about a year ago, though that was a year after after we broke up, not for reasons of romantic feelings, but she would never respond to me and pretty much ignored me unless she initiated contact, and I told her I wanted a two way friendship and if she couldnt manage to do that, then I never want to hear from her again...and I havent heard from her since. It sucks, she is the first person I ever loved, and was very important to my development, and I hate that we're not in each others lives. I didn't want a talk every day friendship, but I figured once every other week or so communication would be doable.

[NordicStripes]

I went NC with my first really serious boyfriend after he broke up with me. I didn't hear from again until about three years later. When the girl he left me for dumped him :-D

 

He wanted to meet up again. I kindly refused.

[Kamila]

My ex-boyfriend never heard from me about a year ago.

 

I never told him I was going to go no contact.

 

Last time I heard from him was 5 months ago.

 

But to stay on topic: Are you hoping that she'll contact you again ?

[flow15]

Had 4 boyfriends, 2 came back, I wasn't interested and ignored...

 

1 I never ever heard from again, this was 6 years ago- he disappeared off the planet never even broke up with me properly- just disappeared.

 

My current ex, the guy who brought me here, comes back and leaves again, back and leaves again...

 

So you can see.... anything can happen!!

[MIK1000]

Broke up with ex a 4 months ago, she was my first love. She left me for another guy while away abroad for the summer.

 

It would seem likely that I will hear back from, given that she lives round the corner from me, we are young and will see each other out at night clubs from time to time (though I haven't yet), so far I've just ran into her at the train station ect and not spoken.

 

Anyone ever had to deal with living so close to an ex that you are going to run into each other in the years to come? How did it work out?

[shayla]

I have not heard from my ex since November 2010....he did send me an email with a virus attached after my father died in April.(2011). He married the other woman in January 2011.

 

My current boyfriend called him and ripped him a new one, they know one another so that was a crushing blow for him I'm sure (only his ego, nothing more)

 

So it's been a little more than a year since I've heard anything from him, hope I never do again.

[ken_25]

my first love left me after 2 years, a month later or so was with someone else. Their relationship lasted 3 years, it's been nearly 4 1/2 years since she left me. I intiated contact with her twice via email which she replied and we recently became Facebook friends (I added her) but she has never initiated contact with me and if I hadn't then it's safe to say I would of never heard from her at all. We were friends for a couple years before we got together so I lost everything with that girl. I feel fine about it now however, it doesn't bother me. The one thing that did rub me the wrong way awhile back was after about a year of breaking up, she moved out of state and didn't say anything. She doesn't owe me that, but I was kinda like "wow.. ok then." She moved across country to be with me, so when she moved back I figured I would of received a message or call or something, oh well.

[Standard-Fare]

I think sometimes the more intense a relationship, and particularly the more ugly a breakup, the less likelihood you have of retaining contact.

 

My first love was my most intense, as it is for many people, and the breakup was drawn-out and ugly. We ended up completely losing contact with each other. I've even seen this ex around town (we now live in the same city), and I'd go out of my way to avoid a run-in. Once I had to abruptly escape a supermarket even though I had a shopping cart full of items ready to buy.

 

Another ex, things were more casual, our breakup was due to distance, and we remain in touch to this day as friends.

 

To be friends with someone you have to be at a point where a) you've forgiven each other and b) it doesn't hurt you when/if the other is dating someone new. That's not the case for most fresh breakups and it may never be the case for some of the more intense relationships.

[Glove_slap]

My ex-boyfriend never heard from me about a year ago.

 

I never told him I was going to go no contact.

 

Last time I heard from him was 5 months ago.

 

But to stay on topic: Are you hoping that she'll contact you again ?

 

To be honest I've never had any form of closure, even when i tried to create it for myself it always left me feeling incomplete and empty in one way or another. I do hope she contacts me, I miss her but at the moment it's not in the romantic sense but rather as a person in my life. Unresolved feelings I guess.

[perfectlyflawed459]

I had a guy come back after three years of NC so yes anything is possible! Him and I are friends till this day and all is good

 

With my current ex, I initiated NC 3 months ago and he reached out twice to me after 6 weeks, but I ignored him, even though I still am in love with him. I haven't heard from him since he reached out, but I think that is for the best right now. I still need to heal and we both need to grow up a bit.

 

I have heard of people getting in contact though after several years so you never know what life has waiting for you around the corner. That is the beauty of it

[Sugarkane]

I guess I must be so good at NC, that exes never contact me. I've only ever had one ex contact me. -High school bf- dumped me out of the blue. Never spoke to him again. I heard he moved interstate, don't know if that's true. Haven't spoken to him since BU almost a decade ago. He jumped straight into another relationship after our BU. I avoided them like The plague. But they stalked me and constantly followed me shoving their happiness in my face. -Dated someone when I left school. He said he wanted a relationship. But he dumped me for not having sex on the first date. Called me a prick tease. Never heard from ever again. I ran into him only recently. I didn't talk to him, I never want to see him again. - dated someone, he future faked and fast forward. Talked about getting married and having children, after only knowing me mere weeks/months. That was extremely unattractive. He didn't breakup with me, just completely disappeared. Never heard from again. So much for getting married and babies. We had nothing in common. - my recent ex who sent me here.

[Sugarkane]

I'll never consider getting back with any of these guys. They either treated me like garbage and/ left everything unresolved between us.

[PoppyLove89]

I haven't heard from my ex via phone since November 13th (so almost two months). I have however seen him on four occasions over the xmas period. (Bumped into him in the same clubs whilst on nights out, our town is very small!) As you can imagine it was awkward. Especially since he seems like a completely different person now; in the way he behaves etc.

 

I haven't heard from him and I know he's too proud to ever get in contact again, even if he felt he made a mistake. Our split was caused by little niggling rows in the last couple weeks (we'd been together a year) There wasn't anyone else involved, we're both still single and the fact that I haven't heard a peep makes me wonder if his feelings for me were genuine.

[smudge21]

I think it all depends on how the break up was, the reasons and all that, and whether there's still feelings. I've heard from a few previous and contacted a few from my past over the years, but never for anything more than just to be polite or even rekindle a friendship. Never to get back together.

 

My previous ex (before the one who brought me here) is a friend now despite the fact I dumped her. Whereas my current ex is still in touch occasionally as we split as friends, but I do keep the contact to a minimum.

[I have no title]

I'm not talking about months with no contact but years in no contact. It's been over a year with NC with my first love, haven't heard anything from her.

 

- she left me for someone else a year and a half ago

 

EXACTLY the same thing happened to me and my ex. He left me one and a half year ago, for somebody else. Since then, I have never heard a single peep from him. It also was my first love...

[radiodarcy]

i heard back from my first love after virtually no contact in 8 months. and that was for him to tell me that his gf (i didn't even know he had a gf - - i figured as much - - but i certainly didn't care for the confirmation) is pregnant.

 

so yes - - you can hear back from them. but -- as i've learned - - chances are it's not going to be something you want to hear.

[flitzanu]

I'm not talking about months with no contact but years in no contact. It's been over a year with NC with my first love, haven't heard anything from her.

 

- she left me for someone else a year and a half ago

 

yes and no. i don't typically claim to be an "exception" but i tend to be as far as friends with exes. i am in at least limited (and friends only) contact with all my exes, except the most recent. one of them though, i may not hear from her for years, and then from nowhere she'll check in. if your heart heals and you wake up one day and feel absolutely nothing...then perhaps contact her. never before then.

 

sometimes though, it's for the best. i honestly couldn't tell you which feels best...knowing they are still "out there" or feeling like they no longer "exist" since there is no communication.

[silic0ntoad]

My most recent ex, that brought me to use this forum, and I split up about 2.5 years ago? Not sure, I lost track of the time. I told her:

 

"**** off, I'll clean up the mess you made."

 

After that we have not spoken, and I am fine with that. I'd prefer she not ever contact me again.

[Sugarkane]

On top of that why do they also leave The breakup completely unresolved? Why do people love doing that?

[stunned8165]

On top of that why do they also leave The breakup completely unresolved? Why do people love doing that?

 

 

Because they are emmotionally imature. Maybe throw some mass confusion about what they want in there too.

 

Me?.. I heard back from everyone of them. The dumpers and dumpees both. Some sooner then others. They realize what they had eventually but by then it was too late or I wouldn't take them back because they dumped me. Why take another chance. They left once, it's almost certain they would leave again. Heck, the one that dumped me before this last one STILL calls and wants to get back together. We broke up four years ago. WTF?..

[fificremefarben]

Ah, this is a good thread, although the fact that my stomach lurched when I was reading through the posts where people were confirming that they'd heard nothing for years from their exes show me that I'm still healing.

 

I'm over him, and I'm over the relationship...but I'm not over what he did to me. All I asked was for him to meet me one last time so I could ask my questions for closure and then we could just walk away and he didn't respon, he just stopped talking to m. This was a month after the breakup when he finally admitted in a text message that there had been another woman. After 4 years together...thought he would have had more respect and/or care enough for me than to explain to my face. Instead he cut and run...

 

I like to think I'll get my face-to-face explanation one day. I still think it's the least he could do.

 

5 months already...

[Art_Critic]

Are there instances where you've never heard from an ex ever again?

 

Yes.. and you better believe I thank my lucky stars for that too....

 

I would never have met my wife if my previous ex to her and I had kept in contact and tried to get back together...

 

It can happen to you too....Something to think about...

[stunned8165]

Ah, this is a good thread, although the fact that my stomach lurched when I was reading through the posts where people were confirming that they'd heard nothing for years from their exes show me that I'm still healing.

 

I'm over him, and I'm over the relationship...but I'm not over what he did to me. All I asked was for him to meet me one last time so I could ask my questions for closure and then we could just walk away and he didn't respon, he just stopped talking to m. This was a month after the breakup when he finally admitted in a text message that there had been another woman. After 4 years together...thought he would have had more respect and/or care enough for me than to explain to my face. Instead he cut and run...

 

I like to think I'll get my face-to-face explanation one day. I still think it's the least he could do.

 

5 months already...

 

I feel the same way. I'm angry for how she did it and why when I gave her every chance to come clean. I'm not over that yet either and it has been 7 months. Much better as every month goes by. I even offered to bury the hatchet and she lashed out at me. She is very angry with herself. Always has been, always will be untill she realizes it and gets some help. Nothing I can do for her anymore. She blew that chance.

[TheJiltedGeneration]

They probably make the effort to avoid me =P I haven't heard from my ex for +6 months, so not expecting any surprising HARRO!! soon tbh..