NoMagicBullet Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 dasein, the OP came on here of his own free will and asked his question, and he's gotten responses, whether he likes the content of them or not. He can take what he finds useful, if any of it, and leave the rest. He can go to forums other than Loveshack; he doesn't have to post here. Most responses to this thread are at least related to the situation. If anyone starts different threads about aspects of the same situation, it's reasonable to expect someone to bring up that other thread if they've seen it. It's easy enough to look up all the posts by one person, so past comments are not something you can easily leave behind here. Users here are often reminded of what they've posted previously. For all your criticism of the responses, I don't see where you offered the OP any advice or response to his question -- if you have a different opinion, then give it. That's what we're all here for. Right now, you're the one making posts that have nothing to do with this thread, with the "harpy bandwagon" diatribe. Which surely has more to do with your experiences with your ex-GF and your general "Women Are The Root Of All Evil" attitude, as seen by your posts in other threads, than anything else. You know, if you don't like what you read here, you (as well as the OP or anyone else) can use the feature on Loveshack to ignore all posts made by a specific user. You might have a pretty long list of ignored users, if you are offended by what has been posted here. My ignore list is quite short, but it's pretty much dedicated to those people who walk around with massive chips on their shoulder, so you're definitely going on it. Whatever advice you give the OP now, I, for one, will not see it. Yet, you are still free to post whatever you want for anyone who cares to listen. Wonderful invention, the ignore list -- I think we all stay a little happier that way, at least on this forum. Back to the thread though... spinaroonie, you say this girl hasn't communicated expectations to you. But it seems you're making assumptions about her: you say "I get the sense that this is a girl that responds to brute displays of masculinity" -- have you verbally talked about what you each like in the bedroom, or have you just initiated these things and she's gone along with it? She might be going along with everything because she likes you, not because she likes what you're doing. She does sound very insecure about speaking up, and she needs to change that. But you know, you can ask! Nothing wrong with that. If you yourself haven't started a conversation on expectations in and out of the bedroom, you can't blame her for not doing so either. Someone has to step up and start talking. It doesn't matter who starts the conversation, the important thing is to have the conversation. I think it's a moot point, though. The more you complain about her, the more I'm convinced it's better for you to end it, if it's not over already. She may have been convenient for you, but it's pretty clear you don't care about her or even like her that much. You're obviously not happy with her, and both of you will likely be happier with other people instead of each other.
dasein Posted January 12, 2012 Posted January 12, 2012 For all your criticism of the responses, I don't see where you offered the OP any advice or response to his question -- if you have a different opinion, then give it. That's what we're all here for. Right now, you're the one making posts...blablabla Read thread much? Many possibilities: 1. She could feel the relationship is one-sided and is attempting to assert control. She may be attempting to deal with feelings that you are using her. 2. Could be her period or some other physical issue she isn't comfortable bringing up yet. 3. May not enjoy sex, despite what media tells us, there are lots of people out there who don't enjoy sex that much. Or she may not have enjoyed previous sex with you. 4. She could have received "slow down" advice from friends, family or even here on LS or some other forum. 5. Could be an emotional issue she is not comfortable discussing; could be something that has happened IRL she doesn't want to talk about. 6. There could be another man in the picture; if she is average or above in attractiveness, rest assured she is being approached by other men. Those are some, there are other possibilities. Wouldn't make too much of it, but if it continues without her being willing to discuss, agree with carhill. He can take what he finds useful, if any of it, and leave the rest. He can go to forums other than Loveshack; he doesn't have to post here. Most responses to this thread are at least related to the situation. The above is ironic in that a significant portion of the "bandwagon" posts to the thread are simply insulting digs at his choice to do the above, post the situation to other venues. I don't imagine posters on those other venues went on a witchhunt threadstalking OP across the net in an attempt to rubbish him. As far as the second sentence in the above quote, it simply isn't true. My ignore list is quite short, but it's pretty much dedicated to those people who walk around with massive chips on their shoulder, so you're definitely going on it. Good. Whatever advice you give the OP now, I, for one, will not see it. Um... moar good? Keep telling me about how you plan on ignoring my posts. I feel so punished. In case you don't ignore this one, try actually reading threads before launching into diatribes of your own. Will make you look less silly.
xxoo Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Huh? Links? Yes, links. I'm not going to go dig them up, but they are on this thread. Posted by a male poster. "Standard male harpy bandwagon" I suppose
dasein Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 Yes, links. I'm not going to go dig them up, but they are on this thread. Posted by a male poster. "Standard male harpy bandwagon" I suppose Could care less who posted the links in this thread, the forum stalking has been done to OP in other threads. My crystal clear point is that way too much of this thread is trash talking OP, and it does resemble a bandwagon full of harpies. Caw! caw! caw!
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 13, 2012 Posted January 13, 2012 You know, if you don't like what you read here, you (as well as the OP or anyone else) can use the feature on Loveshack to ignore all posts made by a specific user. You might have a pretty long list of ignored users, if you are offended by what has been posted here. I think it would include every single woman poster as well as every male poster who fails to express hatred of women. Dude should go to fora where only boyz are allowed. Or maybe a prison.
Author spinaroonie Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 Let's make one thing clear. A woman can't be "used for sex" I always find the hypocrisy funny. You both enjoy sex, and the girl wants to see you all the time for it... but it goes against everything society seems to tell her about relationships. So she blames the man for "using her" and then ditches the man.... effectively using HIM for sex and detonating the relationship. Sex IS the relationship. Sex is the reason why men and women hook up Sex is the reason they stay together ****.... sex is the reason why there are two genders in the first place!
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Sure, women can be "used" for sex. People can use each other for different things all the time. I'm not saying someone who allows themselves to be used is necessarily a poor victim; I think that they're accountable for themselves. But I think that people who consciously set out to use others, especially using dishonest methods and preying on weaknesses, are scumbags.
Author spinaroonie Posted January 24, 2012 Author Posted January 24, 2012 Update. So I text her (by accident) on Monday, the first contact made over a week after our last date. Me (9:45 PM): thats deep, its more involved than that hold up Her (9:57 PM): Uhh wat? Her (10:15 PM): Sup I don't respond to her text as I'm in the middle of a phone call with another girl. No contact Tuesday. On Wednesday I call her around 10:15 PM. No answer. I text her. Me (10:26 PM): hey just called gimme a shout No response. On Thursday I call her again around 9 PM. Someone picks up after three rings but hangs up on me. Call her again a few minutes later. Same thing. Call her home. Her mom picks up, tells me she's in class. I text her: Me (9:19 PM): hey if you're in class I'll call you later Her (9:22 PM): Ill call you when I get home Me (9:28 PM): k She calls me an hour later and we chat for close to another. Ask her out to a comedy club on Saturday night. She says yes. I pick her up on Saturday, drive over to the comedy club. I buy the tickets, she buys the drinks. Drive back to my place, watch some more stand-up on my TV, head to my bedroom and bang, fall asleep, and bang again. Drive her back home around 5 in the morning.
kaylan Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 (edited) Does anyone care anymore? Ten bucks says your crying again when she decides not to put out in the future. Youve made it clear you only want her for sex based on how you speak of her. Thats cool and all, but not when the girl obviously doesnt want to be used just for that. So I dont see this lasting too long before youre whining about no sex again, because this chick clearly wants to be seen for more than that. I cant imagine she has the best self esteem if shes the kind to deal with your bs and creepy behavior. I cant imagine shes a looker either who gets attention elsewhere from dudes. Because a girl with options doesnt put up with crap like this. Good day to you sir. Edited January 24, 2012 by kaylan
LexiB Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Update. So I text her (by accident) on Monday, the first contact made over a week after our last date. Me (9:45 PM): thats deep, its more involved than that hold up Her (9:57 PM): Uhh wat? Her (10:15 PM): Sup I don't respond to her text as I'm in the middle of a phone call with another girl. No contact Tuesday. On Wednesday I call her around 10:15 PM. No answer. I text her. Me (10:26 PM): hey just called gimme a shout No response. On Thursday I call her again around 9 PM. Someone picks up after three rings but hangs up on me. Call her again a few minutes later. Same thing. Call her home. Her mom picks up, tells me she's in class. I text her: Me (9:19 PM): hey if you're in class I'll call you later Her (9:22 PM): Ill call you when I get home Me (9:28 PM): k She calls me an hour later and we chat for close to another. Ask her out to a comedy club on Saturday night. She says yes. I pick her up on Saturday, drive over to the comedy club. I buy the tickets, she buys the drinks. Drive back to my place, watch some more stand-up on my TV, head to my bedroom and bang, fall asleep, and bang again. Drive her back home around 5 in the morning. What exactly is the point of you posting a blow-by-blow of your text "game"? I hope to G*d it's not so somebody can actually follow this dribble. Gentlemen, gentlemen, you too can 'score' with a girl who has such low self esteem she'll still sleep with you after you blatantly ignore her for 2 days straight (this on top of everything else OP wrote, upthread ). As entertaining as "The Pickup Artist" and seeing the "Mystery Method" in action was back in the day, threads like these make me happy that show has rightfully gone the way of the dodo bird. If only its followers would as well.
Nic26 Posted February 15, 2012 Posted February 15, 2012 Well said!! I don't know why you're confused? She obviously has strong feelings for you and hates being treated like crap. Show her some respect and stop thinking with your dick! Does anyone care anymore? Ten bucks says your crying again when she decides not to put out in the future. Youve made it clear you only want her for sex based on how you speak of her. Thats cool and all, but not when the girl obviously doesnt want to be used just for that. So I dont see this lasting too long before youre whining about no sex again, because this chick clearly wants to be seen for more than that. I cant imagine she has the best self esteem if shes the kind to deal with your bs and creepy behavior. I cant imagine shes a looker either who gets attention elsewhere from dudes. Because a girl with options doesnt put up with crap like this. Good day to you sir.
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