thr1986 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Im 25, and have been "talking" with a girl for a few weeks now. We didn't really talk over the holidays however because of family stuff. She started texting me again after new years and we decided to watch a movie together last night. We have had sex once before and "hooked up" about 3 times. We watched the movie and she asked if I wanted to sleep over so I did. At first...I had no problem "getting it up" we kinda did our thing (I wont burden you with the details but you get the point) and then she got a condom out of her bedside table and at this point for some reason I had LOST IT! She tried to what she could to get me back up but for some reason I could not. This was the first time we had done this kinda thing sober however and I think I was just nervous. How would you ladies respond to this...have I blown it with her?
Author thr1986 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 Also....I still slept over. She kissed me in the morning when we woke up, ect...And I apologized and told her i'd make it up to her, which I don't think she really knew how to respond to because she kinda didn't say anything.
colliejoanie Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I know a man has a refractory period where he physically CANNOT get there again for a while......hopefully she knows this as well. If not, hopefully you let her know it wasn't about you not being attracted to her (although you really shouldn't have had to). Don't be embarrassed!! Just act as though nothing is out of your ordinary relationship. If she had a problem with it....that is HER problem. Not yours.
Author thr1986 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 well i had not reached the point of the "refractory period" yet, like I had not "gone" yet if you know what I mean. I was doing fine, then I went down on her and just lost it i guess from concentrating on what I was doing down there...Then thats when she gave me a condom and I could not get it back up from whatever the reason is that I lost it...sooo embarrising, but I guess ur right, I shouldn't worry. Hopefully she will give me another chance
colliejoanie Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Oh. Sorry. This just reminds me of a movie I've seen. Who knows?? maybe you guys will end up having a wonderful long lasting relationship and this will be your inside joke . Honestly, just keep doing the same thing as far as the texts and stuff. If you guys are together again, and if it seems right....let her know it wasn't her fault......hopefully she's receptive. Don't bring it up though! Not unless she for some reason, goes there.
Author thr1986 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 out of curiosity, what movie are you talking about?
snug.bunny Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I would probably think that he may have just been nervous. You know your own body best and why it may have happened. I think though that if you are having sex with each other than you should be comfortable enough to talk about it if you feel that it is hindering you in some way. Or, just give it time, maybe you just need to learn to be more comfortable around her and get used to one another. Try not to worry about though.
colliejoanie Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I'm sorry, OP. I really couldn't tell you.....some chick flick. Where the communication gets all messed up and the girl assumes its because the guy isn't into her and the guy is too embarrassed to talk to her again.......SO, I guess the moral would be to keep communicating!! And honestly, unless she's just in this for the sex, it shouldn't be a big deal. At all.
jobaba Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Im 25, and have been "talking" with a girl for a few weeks now. We didn't really talk over the holidays however because of family stuff. She started texting me again after new years and we decided to watch a movie together last night. We have had sex once before and "hooked up" about 3 times. We watched the movie and she asked if I wanted to sleep over so I did. At first...I had no problem "getting it up" we kinda did our thing (I wont burden you with the details but you get the point) and then she got a condom out of her bedside table and at this point for some reason I had LOST IT! She tried to what she could to get me back up but for some reason I could not. This was the first time we had done this kinda thing sober however and I think I was just nervous. How would you ladies respond to this...have I blown it with her? LOL dude. I laughed really hard.
thatone Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 well i had not reached the point of the "refractory period" yet, like I had not "gone" yet if you know what I mean. I was doing fine, then I went down on her and just lost it i guess from concentrating on what I was doing down there...Then thats when she gave me a condom and I could not get it back up from whatever the reason is that I lost it...sooo embarrising, but I guess ur right, I shouldn't worry. Hopefully she will give me another chance umm, why doesn't she go down on you after you do her? i'm assuming you're a lot younger than me, because there's no way i'm staying hard after minutes of going down on her with nothing stimulated but my fingers, lol. that's why i go first and she goes second.
g450 Posted January 11, 2012 Posted January 11, 2012 umm, why doesn't she go down on you after you do her? i'm assuming you're a lot younger than me, because there's no way i'm staying hard after minutes of going down on her with nothing stimulated but my fingers, lol. that's why i go first and she goes second. LOL. Hell Im almost 50 and my girl knows what she has to do during those awquard moments. It happens to the best of us. Most experience women already know this. It's embearasing but not really a big deal (pun intended) LOL. I never used condoms. They ruin sex for me personally. Luckily I found a woman who is close to my age and had the operation so I dont have to deal with that nonsense. To me, ejaculating inside a woman is too good of a feeling to destroy with a piece of rubber. Too old for kids so I would get snipped bofore I went the condom route. Hurray to monogomy! And I have to laugh at some young guys using viagra. Tried it once at age 48 in my life and didnt do a darn thing for me. Cialis also. Think it's mostly in our heads. Sorry for the highjack but wanted to put in my two cents worth.
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