irc333 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I had posted here in the past about a woman I had met through a friend. She's a co-worker of the friend that I know. We had gotten to know each other on Facebook back and forth, but she would ask questions about my character that would lead her to beleive that I might be like her ex boyfriend. Making generalizations based on my partial nationality. She even says, "Better watch out, I'm from NYC, and all Italian!! LOL" And I'm saying, "Ah, I see, yeah, better watch out!" I guess she was alluding to NYC residents short-tempers, women even curse like a sailor, and will probably punch you in the face if you look at 'em funny the same way you look at an outlaw in a saloon. All THAT in a NY minute! I have noticed how people, who aren't living in NY anymore, but in another place tend to brag a lot about how they're from that city....never really understood the big deal. "Hey, I'm from New York, so watch it buddy!!" Then all the Nebraska residents tremble in fear, apparently? Like it was so important to her to know what my nationality was before considering going out with me. The good news....I think she was interested...why ? Because she was asking questions about my character and the kind of person I was like, even comparing me to her ex (if I was even LIKE her ex, or not) Basically, "Let me ask him some questions that I read out of Cosmo mag, to see if he's like my ex-boyfriend/husband" Otherwise, lack of this line of questioning would indicate a non-interest. That being said, we were chatting online and I made mention about meeting up, and she says, "Well, me and <my long time female friend> and a few others from work are going out to eat....and to call MY friend to find out when and where they'll be going". I found this odd, HER telling me to call HER friend, why can't I just call HER for this gathering? I wasn't able to make it, because I had made plans a good couple of weeks ahead of time that same evening. I told her this, said I wouldn't be able to make it, so perhaps I could her phone # and make arrangements for some other time. She said, "Listen, I don't like to give my # out to people so easily, plus there is a considerable age gap between us. (Note, I was wondering how she knew my age, I never asked her for HER age, nor she did ask for mine, then I looked at our FB profiles, we were born in the same month, but I left my birth YEAR on, she left her's off. LOL But, she looked pretty good for her age, so what does that matter, right? lol) Then she lists a few more things about me she didn't care for......in our prior conversations, I mention I just had taken up cooking and learning. I named off some foods, one being my home made Chili which was to die for. SHe goes, "ew.....none of the things you listed I would never eat!" and I kinda joked around and said, "Well, I thought a woman liked a man who cooked" she goes, "Yeah, but not if he's cooking the kinds of foods she doesn't l ike" Apparently, she's big health nut, vegetarian. And I thought, "Well, I'm just learning, I'm sure that we could work around that." But, no biggie, we still kept on chatting through the week or 2, up until the point I asked for her #. Plus, she's rather geographically desirable. She also found out some of my interests (one being Sci-Fi) is of no interest to her, and might not work out. And I said, "well, most women aren't into Sci-Fi" I also mentioned I was into the outdoors, but she didn't list THAT as one of the objections though. So, I dunno, she told me how she felt...not sure if she's making excuses. But sounded like she wanted to do a group outing on the spur of the moment , but yet I couldn't make it. I noticed how some women, rather than going out on a one on one date, prefer to see the guy in a group setting. She'll said we'll finish this conversation at a later time, because she was on her way out the door to work. But I had to go too, then I saw a little later she tried to get a hold of me online to talk more on this...but I wasn't around (just missed each other) So I'm seeing how this goes. I have to say, I think we have a lot in common personality wise, same type of humor, and I think we "get" each other, but...that's too soon to tell, but the thing is, It hink a lot of women are ready to throw in the towel with a line of questioning....before even meeing the person?
carhill Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Dry hole, IMO. Who knows what any particular woman thinks or feels? Sometimes not even them I will suggest one thing not in apparent evidence in the OP. Keep things light and flirty. Save the serious discussions for your friends. Questions and answers are fine, but with a fun 'spin' on them. If the lady doesn't play along, see the first two words of this post.
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