Lis007 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I just wanted to do a quick post to give hope to some of you that are trying to reconcile with your ex husband or wife. I know in my darkest days I just wanted to know that some people get a second chance to help me keep that spark of hope alive within myself... My husband and I have decided to give our relationship a second try after 2.5 years of mostly amicable and respectful separation. I won't say its a success story yet its just the beginning of lots of work and healing for us both. Developing a "new" relationship. We both want to take things slowly... so we are dating... After all the hurt, pain and despair we have both experienced we are on top of the world to have this chance... both scared to... I first started talking reconciliation in May and he questioned my motives at that time but was respectful in his response... its been a long hard journey but probably the most important journey I have ever undertaken in my life. It isn't over yet we are just finally both on the same path and have a chance to reach some destination together... So watch this space... and thank you to everyone here for your support and sharing your stories which helped me understand and see different points of views and also knowing that others were going through what I have. Understanding the importance of making positive changes and focusing on self improvement was a real key because it got my confidence back and made me a nicer person to be around. Understanding patience and learning to wait was another key. There were so many times it would have been easier to give up but I found so much comfort praying and seeking Gods guidance and I truly believe that if you put your faith in God he will help you. I read the love dare and that has guided me the most although its really difficult to do when you are separated. For our mature relationship of 25 years most of which were really happy... it seemed better for me than no contact and playing games... although he used no contact with me We had a week or so keeping things to ourselves until we were both sure - the first "date" involved some pretty frank discussion, lots of emotion, and then some serious making up! Tonight we openly let our children know we were trying again. One child is thrilled and excited and the other is a bit apprehensive and thinks its all to weird - especially when we held hands (we felt weird too at first) I love him so much and can't wait for the day we are fully together again. So hope you wish us well over the coming months of dating... and I will let you know how it goes. The main thing is regardless of outcome at this stage we are living the second chance...
perfectlyflawed459 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I am so happy for you I am glad that you are getting the opportunity at a second chance with your husband and I wish you the very best on your journey to recovery together. If I may ask, why did you guys separate again?
CaliGuy Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Good deal and you are 100% correct. Keep your faith in God and He will guide your path!
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