christine393 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Last week, my boyfriend and I broke up. We were together for quite awhile.. He said that he wasn't sure about us right now.. And that he needs this time to be by himself. I asked if he loved me anymore and he said he absolutely did but he wasn't sure about us being in a relationship "right now." I want to think that this is just him, doing his weird space thing. He'll back off for a bit and then come back stronger. Never a break up though. He once ignored me for a couple days and then said I love you for the first time. I've handled the break up well.. At times. I can't forget about the time he said that we had no planned breakups. I'm of course, extremely upset.. And I want him back very badly. Can't even imagine the possibility of never seeing him again. I know that I need to be realistic though.. Is there anyway that he'll realize he misses me in a few weeks? Or should I just try to move on?
TheFinalWord Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 he said he absolutely did but he wasn't sure about us being in a relationship "right now." abort, abort, abort!
skelterhelter Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I'm sorry, Christine. I know you must be hurting right now. Your boyfriend might have intimacy/closeness issues. It seems he pulls away when you two are getting close (judging by the fact he withdrew before saying 'I love you.'). It's very possible that, once he gets his space, he'll contact you again. But you have to think about this: Does he tend to pull away a lot? Is this his way of dealing with things? I'm just afraid that even if you two get back together (which is very possible), he'll do this again when things get heavy in the future. Give him some time to think. In the meantime, take care of yourself and do whatever you need to feel better. Good luck!
Author christine393 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 Yikes. I never thought of it that way.. After talking more, I've realized that in his mind, things are totally over. I think I am moving towards closure. We talked over the phone and I realized it had nothing to do with me. Just his own insecurity and commitment issues. It still hurts quite a bit though.
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