pwnies Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 To make this as short as possible, my girlfriend got me a nice shirt for our 6 month anniversary and I took her out to a nice dinner, but did not get her a material gift. I visited her for a week at her house for the holidays. I got her a pretty expensive piece of jewelry. She didn't get me anything. She had also previously mentioned that she did get me something (a passing comment). At her place, we went out to lunch/dinner, and she drove a lot, but she used her parents credit card to pay so it's not like she was using her own money. I'm not bothered so much about the fact that she didn't get me anything as I am that I believe she solely did it because I didn't get her something material for our 6 month. We are very close and I would be able to bring this up in a noninflammatory way, but do you think I am in the wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 To make this as short as possible, my girlfriend got me a nice shirt for our 6 month anniversary and I took her out to a nice dinner, but did not get her a material gift. I visited her for a week at her house for the holidays. I got her a pretty expensive piece of jewelry. She didn't get me anything. She had also previously mentioned that she did get me something (a passing comment). At her place, we went out to lunch/dinner, and she drove a lot, but she used her parents credit card to pay so it's not like she was using her own money. I'm not bothered so much about the fact that she didn't get me anything as I am that I believe she solely did it because I didn't get her something material for our 6 month. We are very close and I would be able to bring this up in a noninflammatory way, but do you think I am in the wrong? No, you're not in the wrong. If you are exclusive and have been together for six months, she should have gotten you something for Christmas. It would have been a good idea, however, to let her know before Christmas that you got her something so that she would be prepared. She might have thought you weren't much for exchanging gifts, and that you weren't going to get her anything, and that is why she didn't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 We are very close and I would be able to bring this up in a noninflammatory way, but do you think I am in the wrong? Has she not said anything about this? She should have brought this up already. Does she seem selfish in other aspects of the relationship? Please describe the overall negative aspects of your relationship. That may help put this into perspective. I've been through this with 2 different GF's. One was a selfish *******, the other was just obsessed with everything being fair. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 To make this as short as possible, my girlfriend got me a nice shirt for our 6 month anniversary and I took her out to a nice dinner, but did not get her a material gift. I visited her for a week at her house for the holidays. I got her a pretty expensive piece of jewelry. She didn't get me anything. She had also previously mentioned that she did get me something (a passing comment). At her place, we went out to lunch/dinner, and she drove a lot, but she used her parents credit card to pay so it's not like she was using her own money. I'm not bothered so much about the fact that she didn't get me anything as I am that I believe she solely did it because I didn't get her something material for our 6 month. We are very close and I would be able to bring this up in a noninflammatory way, but do you think I am in the wrong? No, if she is doing things out of spite that is not a good sign! Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 You seem to be in the right and I'd ask her about it. If it is in spite then drop her and be done with it.... Link to post Share on other sites
BeyondtheClouds Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 Just out of curiousity, is there anything playing in the back ground here? For example, I have dated a fair few guys who had lots of disposable income AND enjoyed the 4 and 5 star treat to the point where you realised that you could be any woman that they might have convinced to join them for dinner. In other words, no biggie. I've gotten to the point now, especially in a big city where many people are well paid and usually still childless, that if the guy wasn't buying you dinner, he'd be buying someone else dinner. In other words, with this type of guy, dinner for b-day or V-day is really nothing special. Now, if he sent flowers, or better still a gift that he thought about, then maybe you are put into a higher category. With my current guy, things didn't get off to the smoothest of starts. His b-day was about weeks after our first date. HE mentioned it several times to me and I thought there might be a future with us.......so I planned a three course meal with him; went grocery shopping; cooked it his place; bought the exact cake he wanted for his birthday. I spent the night at his place; we slept in the same bed; even though we had had sex once before, he didn't touch me at all. I went away for three weeks and then a month after that it became clear to me that he had reconnected with someone he used to date. By the time he was ready to come clean with it, she had morphed into "just a friend". But what was also galling was the fact that he had completely forgotten the effort that I had put into his b-day. And then tried to convince me that his chasing up this "just a friend"; making dinner reservations and possibly even paying for it; I saw an e-mail exchange in which dinner was discussed (2 weeks after his b-day had passed) but his b-day was not; my guy insists that at the end of the meal she insisted upon paying for it. And yet, he wants to say that that was greater effort than what I had put into his b-day........ so in other words, maybe your girlfriend has decided that you're not appreciative enough and has just decided to stop spending money on you. Do you have other female friends orbiting around you? Have you been appreciative of the things that she does for you on a regular basis. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 so in other words, maybe your girlfriend has decided that you're not appreciative enough and has just decided to stop spending money on you. He bought her something nice for Christmas, so I'd say he is appreciative. Link to post Share on other sites
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