nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I'm having one of those days where you wonder what is wrong with you as everyone else seems to have their life sorted. Apart from 2 friends and my sister. I am the ONLY single person on my entire facebook, everyone else is married, enagaged, in a relationship, pregnant, has kids, lives with partner or a mix of the above. If i see one more wedding or engagment ring picture as a profile photo I will throw up. Its just so depressing. I think its because i just saw my ex bf announce his engagement and pregancy simultaneously on facebook. Oh well i'll get over it (sob) Not that i want him back myself, its just the shock of it as it was quite sudden.
Buttercup84 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I'm having one of those days where you wonder what is wrong with you as everyone else seems to have their life sorted. Apart from 2 friends and my sister. I am the ONLY single person on my entire facebook, everyone else is married, enagaged, in a relationship, pregnant, has kids, lives with partner or a mix of the above. If i see one more wedding or engagment ring picture as a profile photo I will throw up. Its just so depressing. I think its because i just saw my ex bf announce his engagement and pregancy simultaneously on facebook. Oh well i'll get over it (sob) Not that i want him back myself, its just the shock of it as it was quite sudden. Oh I know that feeling , 28 this year and all my single friends are suddenly meeting someone , moving in , getting married etc I have been single since July , trying to enjoy it but it gets hard . I have maybe 3 single friends here .
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 Oh I know that feeling , 28 this year and all my single friends are suddenly meeting someone , moving in , getting married etc I have been single since July , trying to enjoy it but it gets hard . I have maybe 3 single friends here . Yeah thats the problem with your 20's the settling down all starts. Bring on the 30's when all the marriages start to crumble lol
Buttercup84 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Yeah thats the problem with your 20's the settling down all starts. Bring on the 30's when all the marriages start to crumble lol Hey that is true ! when we finally meet someone they will all be divorced . But I find it hard to meet someone decent . I tried RSVP buy some of the guys on there are just tragic .
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 Hey that is true ! when we finally meet someone they will all be divorced . But I find it hard to meet someone decent . I tried RSVP buy some of the guys on there are just tragic . Oh yeah tried RSVP didnt meet anyone decent. I'm on eharmony now, its pricey, but I have met some more stable people on it, still not the one though!
HughHardcastle Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I can sympathize. I had my office Christmas party on Friday night, and was the only one there without a spouse/significant other. Ok, so I lied. There was me, and the girl I work with who I have had a thing for since October. Although I did overhear her during the party gushing about her new boyfriend! Also, my best friend is getting married in February, and last weekend he showed me the swank townhouse he and his fiance are moving into THIS weekend. Although his situation actually gives me hope for myself, since, 2 years ago, he was living at home and working part time at a grocery store. Now he's got a great job, a seemingly great girl, and a great place to live. It's amazing how your life can change so quickly, all because of one person coming into it. Don't give up hope. You never know how many of those couples are secretly dreadful in their relationships, and are only together just for keeping up appearances, or any other number of reasons.
Carlos S Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Hell, there are virgins and late-20's-never-had-bf-or-gf users on Loveshack. You're not that badly off. And if everyone around you is getting in a relationship, it probably means that something is just around the corner. On the other hand, I'm content with my single lifestyle right now. Then again, I'm still fairly young, and I might be crying myself to sleep when I'm in my late 20's (Btw, I'm sure there are Aussies in relationship on Loveshack) Buttercup, can I ask, how tragic?
Buttercup84 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Hell, there are virgins and late-20's-never-had-bf-or-gf users on Loveshack. You're not that badly off. And if everyone around you is getting in a relationship, it probably means that something is just around the corner. On the other hand, I'm content with my single lifestyle right now. Then again, I'm still fairly young, and I might be crying myself to sleep when I'm in my late 20's (Btw, I'm sure there are Aussies in relationship on Loveshack) Buttercup, can I ask, how tragic? Guys who spk liikd dis . And have stupid photos of their abs and just being creepy and using sad and pathetic lines.
laotzu Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Buttercup, if that's you in your profile, just get on OKC an join a class or something. Boyfriend in four months or less, I promise.
Carlos S Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Buttercup, if that's you in your profile, just get on OKC an join a class or something. Boyfriend in four months or less, I promise. What if I said that I would ask you out if I saw you in person? Would it make you feel better? Sweet, or creepy?
LexiB Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 It's not a competition. Very easy to say when you're one of the ones in a committed relationship. Of course it's not a competition per se, but to be the last one standing when everyone else in your circle is paired off...pretty much sucks.
Woggle Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Very easy to say when you're one of the ones in a committed relationship. Of course it's not a competition per se, but to be the last one standing when everyone else in your circle is paired off...pretty much sucks. I didn't marry to keep up with everybody else. The rest of the world is irrelevant to our relationship. If you found somebody great and everybody started getting divorced would you want to follow them as well?
LexiB Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I'm not talking abt getting into a relationship in order to 'follow a trend'. My point, and I believe the sentiment of the OP as well is that when you want to find someone and be in a relationship, it's hard to not only not have that but to see everyone around you seemingly happy and paired up. No, I wouldn't commit to someone I didn't care for just for the sake of keeping up with my friends (and clearly my answer to your hypo about divorce is no as well). But at the same time I wholeheartedly wouldn't want to be the last of my friends to find someone either. It's lonely, isolating and makes the lack of that special person that much more palpable. I just think it's all too easy to dismiss these types of feelings w/ one liners like "it's not a competition" once you're on the other side of the pond.
Wolf18 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 If you're female and not fat it's really just a matter of leaving the house. In fact, you don't even have to do that. You can make an online profile and get your inbox flooded by mister 6 pack, mister 6'3, mister 6 figures, mister Olympia, and other girl people within a couple of hours. Usually women who stay single for a long time tend to be really picky. But you know, even good looking women have to live in reality, realize that few people are 10's in personality and looks (the guys who are, probably have a waiting list of girls for you to put your name on), you might have to compromise in one camp or the other.
jobaba Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Yeah thats the problem with your 20's the settling down all starts. Bring on the 30's when all the marriages start to crumble lol If you're in your 20s and ALL of your friends are married and/or have kids, then you're living in a lame place or hanging with a lame crowd of people. Move to NYC, SF, or LA and ten years from now, you'll still have some single people to hang with.
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 If you're in your 20s and ALL of your friends are married and/or have kids, then you're living in a lame place or hanging with a lame crowd of people. Move to NYC, SF, or LA and ten years from now, you'll still have some single people to hang with. Um I think moving countries is a little drastic and difficult lol Not all are married some are just in relationships or living together etc.
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 If you're female and not fat it's really just a matter of leaving the house. In fact, you don't even have to do that. You can make an online profile and get your inbox flooded by mister 6 pack, mister 6'3, mister 6 figures, mister Olympia, and other girl people within a couple of hours. Usually women who stay single for a long time tend to be really picky. But you know, even good looking women have to live in reality, realize that few people are 10's in personality and looks (the guys who are, probably have a waiting list of girls for you to put your name on), you might have to compromise in one camp or the other. You really need to get over this weird belief you have that girls can have any guy they want by clicking their fingers. Its actually harder for women as a lot of guys don't even want to be in a relationships or are just after sex etc. I've been online and every date either goes no where or fizzles out before we even meet once they don't get sex the first meet.
soulm8 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 You really need to get over this weird belief you have that girls can have any guy they want by clicking their fingers. Its actually harder for women as a lot of guys don't even want to be in a relationships or are just after sex etc. I've been online and every date either goes no where or fizzles out before we even meet once they don't get sex the first meet. Amen sister! Why is it so difficult for men to understand that some women need to get to know and trust them before giving them the goods? Is it really that hard to fathom? We don't jump into bed with them within 3 dates so we get written off as not interested???? crazy making.
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