nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Do guys like it when you reach out and text them first. This is after a couple of dates together. With no future date planned but we both exchanged texts after the 3rd date saying we had a great time see you soon. Everyone is telling me to wait and let him contact me, but I don't want him to think i'm not interested? It's been 3 days since I've heard from him.
Buttercup84 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 So who sent the last text ? did you / he ask an open ended question ? In my case , if I was the last one to text and I do not hear from him I just forget about it . But if you want , you can always ask how his week has been ? if he really wanted to see you again he would ask .
2sunny Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 He isn't asking you for a weekend date? Did he say what was on his calendar for these weekend nights?
Pizzaman81 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Just text. After 3 dates you would think you would feel comfortable reaching out.
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 No he isn't but we are both on holidays at the moment so have been going out either during the day or weeknights so far. He had a few things on with friends this weekend. Its not full on, we are both taking it pretty slow havent done more than a quick kiss, he's always initiated contact first. He seemed so keen based upon his messages so I sent him a text an hour ago and no reply yet so i'll wait and see
2sunny Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Now that you've text - don't send anymore until he responds with enthusiasm. I don't care how busy a guy is - an interested guy finds/makes time for a new gal. He seems lukewarm. IF a guy CHOOSES to see friends OVER asking you out on the weekend - he's not hot to pursue.
HughHardcastle Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 No games. If you like him, text him. I don't care if it's the next morning, or right after you get home from doing something with him. I can only speak for myself though. I would appreciate someone who is direct like that, and I think a lot of other guys would as well. Obviously, don't send a ton of texts, or at weird hours of the night or anything like that. You might scare him away or come off as needy (ugh, I hated typing that sentence, it feels like something a PUA would write in his e-mail newsletter).
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 Now that you've text - don't send anymore until he responds with enthusiasm. I don't care how busy a guy is - an interested guy finds/makes time for a new gal. He seems lukewarm. IF a guy CHOOSES to see friends OVER asking you out on the weekend - he's not hot to pursue. Totally agree, I never reach out more than once, but I thought maybe since he had done everything prior to this i'd give him one free pass lol.
carhill Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Everyone is telling me to wait and let him contact me Add one more vote.
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 update: he just replied and made plans for us to go out
xpaperxcutx Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 When a guy is interested, he will contact you. Even when you initiate, he'll never wait to respond, in fact he'll be enthusiastic to hear from you. The guy I'm seeing right now, we've only been on one date, but so far we've been texting and communicating every night. It used to be that I was always the one to initiate ( especially since I was working most of the time) but since I've told him my schedule he's been contacting me ( when he assumes I'm free). Funny thing, we have a habit of falling asleep on each other but one of us always texts the next day to apologize. If you feel like you're walking on egg shells over something minor like texting, then you have reevaluate whether he's genuinely interested in dating or if he's doing the " fade" on you.
Buttercup84 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 update: he just replied and made plans for us to go out So what will you be doing ?
Author nothappyjan Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 So what will you be doing ? Going to movies and dinner tonight
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