xpaperxcutx Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I like to think I'm a very fashionable girl. I tend to follow the yearly trends- this year being the year of bright colors and excessive display of animal prints. On a date, you can expect me to dress to the nines- dresses that accentuate my curves ( I have a lovely behind for an asian), make up ( smokey eye effect) and heels ( those gorgeous peep toes that elongate my legs and show off my pedicure). I'm not high maintenance but I love to look my best to give off a good impression, hence i prefer to say I'm well-groomed. I know for girls, they will always comment on a nice pair of shoes or the way we had our nails done, because we are more attentive to details. I have had more girl friends comment on my sense of style than had a date take notice of the way I had my hair done. Guys, would you even notice? If we don't bring things up, would you take notice of the clothes we wear, the jeweleries we accessorize with and the shoes we wear? ( and please don't tell me you rarely do because you'd already be undressing us in your minds).
spiderowl Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) In all honesty, if you are pretty and curvy guys will notice you. Some will notice fashion but it won't be the deciding factor for them. Most will be imagining you naked so all your animal print fabrics could well be wasted on them! Btw, in case you are wondering how I know, I've read a lot of forums on dating sites and similar and that is what the guys say. The few who are interested in fashion tend to be model types or hairdressers and are basically close to the fashion or arty world. In my experience, guys who seek to tell you how you should dress are pretty controlling and best avoided. Edited January 8, 2012 by spiderowl
ScreamingTrees Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 If you're not dressed like a slob and the guy likes you for who you are, I don't see why it'd make or break you. He might appreciate the fact that you went through all of the trouble of looking great, but it's ultimately irrelevant. Now that I think about it, I'll bet in general girls like to dress up more to impress other girls because they're competitive or just because they feel good looking good. How many girls dress up nice who aren't looking for male attention?
johan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I generally notice, but I'm not likely to say, "love your nails!" I admit that this fact I have a lovely behind for an asian might be enough of a distraction that the other things would go unnoticed.
kaylan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) As a dude who likes to dress well, I always notice a girl who dresses well. I actually take a look at lookbook.nu from time to time. Great site for those who like outfit ideas or just dig fashion. Ill usually comment the most if a girl is wearing nice sneakers...thats my fetish. Nike dunks, Vans, Dc boots, and Palladium boots are faves. I also am one of those denim junkie guys. We even have a forum where guys talk about desginer jeans. Like 7 for all mankind, nudies, diesel, etc. Talking about how to create fad patterns, how to custom fit them if they are shrink to fit. Some dudes love to preserve the color and "leave the night on their jeans" and hardly wash them. That way they take in a story of their surrounding through unique fade patterns and the color stays fresher. I used to be one of those dudes obsessed with jeans and sneakers, but Ive toned done a bit in the last couple years. But some dudes do very much appreciate a lady with swag. I am much more a slacks and button down, with a skinny tie and nice shoes kinda guy when I go out on the town nowadays. OP, since youre in NYC, we should party haha...my swag vs your swag....style battle lolz. Ive been thinking about starting a NY thread to get an LS group together =P Edited January 8, 2012 by kaylan
tigressA Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I have gone out on dates with guys who were especially in tune to what I was wearing/how I looked, commenting on things in detail instead of just "You look great!" It was nice. In my experience, if a guy likes how you look, he will say something. Guys notice, but for the most part will compliment the overall look instead of particular things about it--unless there's been a dramatic change between times that you've seen each other. If you get a different haircut or color, or if you were on really casual dates and are now all dolled up to go out for a nice dinner, for example.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I have gone out on dates with guys who were especially in tune to what I was wearing/how I looked, commenting on things in detail instead of just "You look great!" It was nice. In my experience, if a guy likes how you look, he will say something. Guys notice, but for the most part will compliment the overall look instead of particular things about it--unless there's been a dramatic change between times that you've seen each other. If you get a different haircut or color, or if you were on really casual dates and are now all dolled up to go out for a nice dinner, for example. Pretty much. I'm not a fashionist and don't aspire to be one. So, I'll admire and appreciate how a girl looks but I'm not going to notice the intricacies and little details.
somedude81 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I don't have a clue what the latest fashion trend is; and frankly my dear, I just don't give a damn. The only thing that matters is that the clothes emphasize your appearance, instead take over it. Meaning, it's about you, not what you are wearing. Many women get this wrong.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I like to think I'm a very fashionable girl. I tend to follow the yearly trends- this year being the year of bright colors and excessive display of animal prints. On a date, you can expect me to dress to the nines- dresses that accentuate my curves ( I have a lovely behind for an asian), make up ( smokey eye effect) and heels ( those gorgeous peep toes that elongate my legs and show off my pedicure). I'm not high maintenance but I love to look my best to give off a good impression, hence i prefer to say I'm well-groomed. I know for girls, they will always comment on a nice pair of shoes or the way we had our nails done, because we are more attentive to details. I have had more girl friends comment on my sense of style than had a date take notice of the way I had my hair done. Guys, would you even notice? If we don't bring things up, would you take notice of the clothes we wear, the jeweleries we accessorize with and the shoes we wear? ( and please don't tell me you rarely do because you'd already be undressing us in your minds). Things I usually comment if I find them fascinating on the first date: 1) Ear rings. I love ear-rings on a woman, especially if they are festive and artsy 2) Boots/shoes 3) Bracelet, necklace 4) Hair I normally don't compliment on things they have no control over, such as height, eyes, nose, etc I know, I get lots of experience
carhill Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Guys, would you even notice?Yes, I notice but have learned to keep my mouth shut about it. Back when I was married I helped my exW shop and accessorize and picked out most of her real jewelry. One more part of my natural self I left behind. It's not really attractive to women, at least heterosexual ones.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I notice if you dress to accent your curves, and I notice if youre clean, but i would only say "You look great". But I wont comment on anything in particular. I take in a well dressed woman as a whole package. But if you stayed well dressed with different accessories, I dont notice the details. As long as all the feminine stuff is there. A plus for tasteful looking jewelry, hanging earrings, shades, heels. But I still dont comment on it. I especially could care less about name brands. If you know how to dress to accent yourself, the brands dont matter. What I comment on is if youre an interesting person. Looking good means nothing if youre mentally a dud.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 As a dude who likes to dress well, I always notice a girl who dresses well. I actually take a look at lookbook.nu from time to time. Great site for those who like outfit ideas or just dig fashion. Ok... So I just checked out that website, and the guys on there are CLEARLY GAY. Ignore that website unless you want to look like a poof. Dressing nice is important... but that doesn't mean dressing like your into other men. Sometimes a rugby shirt and nice jeans on a date is better than any over the top ensemble that makes every glance an another guy seem suspicious.
kaylan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) Ok... So I just checked out that website, and the guys on there are CLEARLY GAY. Ignore that website unless you want to look like a poof. Dressing nice is important... but that doesn't mean dressing like your into other men. Sometimes a rugby shirt and nice jeans on a date is better than any over the top ensemble that makes every glance an another guy seem suspicious. http://lookbook.nu/look/218106- Yeah this guy is clearly gay:rolleyes: (sarcasm) He prolly pulls a good amount of chicks himself. Hes not a bad looking cat and he has good style. I had these boots last winter...got them after seeing this pic. Got me loads of compliments and convo starters from girls. You obviously did not look around the site enough. While there is a fair amount of gay dudes on there (i mean it is fashion)...there are plenty of straight dudes on it keeping their swag up. Fashion sense is no longer the realm of only women and gay guys. Its 2012 and your years late on this info. If you actually looked around the site a bit there is plenty of urban fashion and trendy stuff on their from people of all walks of life. Dudes who know how to dress well never have problems with the ladies...so keep sipping that haterade if you want. That dudes outfits, and what I normally wear on dates would get me way further with a woman then a rugby shirt and jeans. Lets be serious. Btw I also look at the site to just admire the fashion sense in general. Edited January 8, 2012 by kaylan
aj22one Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) ^ http://lookbook.nu/look/218106- Yeah this guy is clearly gay:rolleyes: (sarcasm) He prolly pulls a good amount of chicks himself. Hes not a bad looking cat and he has good style. I had these boots last winter...got them after seeing this pic. Got me loads of compliments and convo starters from girls. You obviously did not look around the site enough. While there is a fair amount of gay dudes on there (i mean it is fashion)...there are plenty of straight dudes on it keeping their swag up. Fashion sense is no longer the realm of only women and gay guys. Its 2012 and your years late on this info. If you actually looked around the site a bit there is plenty of urban fashion and trendy stuff on their from people of all walks of life. Dudes who know how to dress well never have problems with the ladies...so keep sipping that haterade if you want. Btw I also look at the site to just admire the fashion sense in general. I don't have problems with chicks either. And while I might dress up if I'm off to a fancy fancy dinner or ball room dancing or something, I'm gonna go and rock the t-shirt and jeans look like most guys I know. I really don't know any men my age who worry about their clothes. Suits maybe, but not what they're wearing in general. I'd feel like a clown dressing like the guy in that picture. Edited January 8, 2012 by aj22one
kaylan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) I don't have problems with chicks either. And while I might dress up if I'm off to a fancy fancy dinner or ball room dancing or something, I'm gonna go and rock the t-shirt and jeans look. More of a "Bruce Springsteen" kind of a look than whatever look the guy in that picture is going for. I'd feel like a clown dressing like that. A clown for wearing nice boots and a scarf? O wells. Whatever works for you. That outfit is very basic and the boots arent far out there. They are skater boots actually that just lace up high. Most of my shoes are skate shoes tbh...and its great that skate companies care a lot about diverse style. I rock a bunch a different styles. I could rock something like the outfit in the link one day, or button down shirt with slacks and a skinny tie another day. And I do quite often wear white V neck T with blue jeans and nice sneakers. Gotta mix it up. I live in NY, and women here dig a guy with swag...so style game always helps Edited January 8, 2012 by kaylan
aj22one Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 A clown for wearing nice boots and a scarf? O wells. Whatever works for you. I rock a bunch a different styles. I could rock something like the outfit in the link one day, or button down shirt with slacks and a skinny tie another day. And I do quite often wear white V neck T with blue jeans and nice sneakers. Gotta mix it up. I live in NY, and women here dig a guy with swag...so style game always helps Here in A-town (Arlington, not Atlanta ) you wear whatever you want. There are definitely guys who care about their look here, then there are guys who wear basketball or football jerseys all the time, and so on and so on. Women here are all off trying to save the world from the confines of D.C. so they usually have other (allegedly more important) things on their minds than fashion, especially men's fashion. And yeah, I'd feel like a clown wearing pants like that and boots like that and a scarf like that (actually the look of most of those guys is kinda hipster-ish). Just me personally. I have what I consider a nice pair of boots (waterproof and sturdy) but I got them at Walmart. Probably not where that guy got his.
thatone Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I like to think I'm a very fashionable girl. I tend to follow the yearly trends- this year being the year of bright colors and excessive display of animal prints. On a date, you can expect me to dress to the nines- dresses that accentuate my curves ( I have a lovely behind for an asian), make up ( smokey eye effect) and heels ( those gorgeous peep toes that elongate my legs and show off my pedicure). I'm not high maintenance but I love to look my best to give off a good impression, hence i prefer to say I'm well-groomed. I know for girls, they will always comment on a nice pair of shoes or the way we had our nails done, because we are more attentive to details. I have had more girl friends comment on my sense of style than had a date take notice of the way I had my hair done. Guys, would you even notice? If we don't bring things up, would you take notice of the clothes we wear, the jeweleries we accessorize with and the shoes we wear? ( and please don't tell me you rarely do because you'd already be undressing us in your minds). i do but not in the way you describe. in fact i appreciate women who dress differently than others on purpose, who create their own style, so to speak. not that there's anything wrong with what you're doing, just different preference. so yeah it's appreciated.
Ross MwcFan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I notice tight/revealing clothing, sexy feet, boobs, butt, hair, face, and hands. But I never really notice the smaller details liker jewelery or what kind of make up she's wearing.
silvermercy Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 From the opposite side of the spectrum I'd say I like some metrosexuality in guys. I can't count how many times I see couples where the woman looks like she stepped out of a catalogue and the guy out of a cave. Apparently you may be considered gay if you take even the minimal effort in your appearance. Then many Neanderthal-looking men ask why women are not giving them a 2nd glance! Also, a guy would score extra points with me if he helped me with my own shopping. I don't see why this is seen as not "manly" enough in this modern society. Imagine if these men lived in Renaissance France. LOL The horror!!
Emilia Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Oh no, metrosexual isn't my thing at all. I like masculine, sporty guys, not the skinny bohemian types at all. They have to be clean of course (I think most people are nowdays with all fairness) but I find too much vanity unattractive. My favourite look on a man is jeans that show off his butt, trainers and a T-shirt that are tight across high broad shoulders
aj22one Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 From the opposite side of the spectrum I'd say I like some metrosexuality in guys. I can't count how many times I see couples where the woman looks like she stepped out of a catalogue and the guy out of a cave. Apparently you may be considered gay if you take even the minimal effort in your appearance. Then many Neanderthal-looking men ask why women are not giving them a 2nd glance! Also, a guy would score extra points with me if he helped me with my own shopping. I don't see why this is seen as not "manly" enough in this modern society. Imagine if these men lived in Renaissance France. LOL The horror!! For most men in Renaissance France the "caveman" look would actually be pretty practical. Not too many metrosexuals back then, and no one was going to help anyone with their shopping.
phineas Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I do notice a few type's of fashion that annoy me. The super dark blue jeans with a northface jacket & burned to a crisp from fake-a-bake. so massively unattractive. I'll meet someone & arrange to meet her at the mall or something & when she shows up I barely recognize her & when I do i'm Oh and the tight sweat pants with giant words on the ass. Yeah you are almost 40 with a great ass, but seriously? If i'm going to be seen in public with a chick dressed like that i'd rather it be a real 25yr old instead of someone just dressing like one. one more, the light colored top & pants with fluorescent underwear that glows through it. Hello, you are almost 40 not 20. however it's my understanding that Hispanic women do this no matter what age but still.....
snowflakes88 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 The guy in that photo looks preposterous, IMO. And I reeeeeelly wish "swag" would die.
Andy_K Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 On a date, we will notice if you've made a lot of effort (lots of jewelry, painted nails, makeup, fancy hair, etc) However, we won't remember or be able to describe any of it the next day. "Yeah, she had painted nails. I think they were dark red, or maybe it was blue. No wait, it was purple, but her earrings were blue. Or possibly black"
kaylan Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Oh no, metrosexual isn't my thing at all. I like masculine, sporty guys, not the skinny bohemian types at all. They have to be clean of course (I think most people are nowdays with all fairness) but I find too much vanity unattractive. My favourite look on a man is jeans that show off his butt, trainers and a T-shirt that are tight across high broad shoulders I dont know any metrosexual guys personally. Guys who care about looking nice and having a decent wardrobe doesnt automatically make them metro. And being fashion conscious or metro doesnt mean a guy is not masculine and sporty. Look at black culture. We care about fashion a lot, however masculinity is still very prized. Some dudes have loads of different matching shirts, sneakers, cardigans, and fitted caps. Even metro footballers in Europe are sporty and masculine. Guys like David Villa and Cristiano Ronaldo do all the metro stuff like body waxing, tanning, and manicures...but they have masculine bodies, play sports for a living, and land babes with ease. So yeah. Guys can be sporty and masculine and care about how they look. Wanting to look good doesnt automatically mean the dude must be some skinny hipster kid. The guy in that photo looks preposterous, IMO. And I reeeeeelly wish "swag" would die. His outfit seems very basic to me. I really wonder what passes as decent outfits in some areas of the country. Then again, I feel I fit in better in big cities or places in Europe...since most Americans dress like crap and dont take care of their bodies.
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