MrsNoMo Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Ok, I'll try to make this as short as possible. My husband and I broke up in April, 2011. and we tried going to counseling but he was very stubborn and thought it was all my fault. I took some blame for the end of our relationship (spending more time with friends then him and being nagging....) but it was his childishness that got us where we were. Too much drinking, not looking after the kids on his days off (while I went to work) blah, blah blah. Anyway, so when all that didn't work we decided divorce was the way to go. Had hardly any contact at all from July and then end of November I get a text from him saying that he loves me still and doesn't want a divorce. I was shocked but at the same time I was happy as I never stopped loving him and he has showed me that he has changed because he was having kids 2-3 day a week while I worked and other little things like that. So anyway, I rang him the next day and asked him where did all this come from all of a sudden and he said he didn't know. He just NEEDED me back. We met for lunch and I asked him if he was seeing anyone and he said no. Anyway, that night he rang me and told me that he did date a woman for 2 weeks at the beginning of November but they only kissed couple of times. Ok, I wanted to believe that but I know him too well. I could tell by his voice that he was lying and he must've known that I knew because he rang me the following day and told me that he slept with her 3 times. But each time he felt worse about it so he broke it off with her. Apparently the last time he slept with her he actually felt physicly sick and that was the end of it. Anyway, I was a little bit hurt that he did that but then again, I left him and he was single at the time. I was gonna be ok. Well, that is easier said then done. See, the woman he was seeing rang him couple of times even before I was back on scene and he told her to back off and not call him anymore and then after we decided to get back together she called once more and I was with him and heard him say to her "I told you it's over couple of weeks ago so please stop calling and I am also back with my wife." Anyway, few days later we were out with kids when he got a text from him saying "How have you been? I still love you!" So this really got me angry and I sent her a text telling her nicely to stop texting and calling my husband and to stay out of way in general. I get a text back saying "He is my world, I love him and why are you feeling so insecure about me being in his life?" WTF? Crazy or what? They knew each other for 2 weeks and she is soooo in love with him? I was so mad, it wasn't funny! I told my husband that I need to know everything about their relationship (if that's what you can call it) and he told me that she asked him to move in with him after 2nd date and some other stuff that screams "bunny boiler". And then I looked her up on FB and after that I had a good laugh. She is 45 but my mum whos in her late 50s looks younger then her. She is 9 years older then me and that made me feel better. For a while. Then she text me again to let me know that she knew that he was never attracted to her and he was always just talking about me. What was the point of that text? So now to cut the long story short, our relationship is better then ever. He is doing everything that I have been asking of him for years and more and we can actually communicate better then ever before but here's the thing. Like I said, he slept with this old bag and I know he was single at the time but why do I keep thinking about it? How do I stop thinking about it? I keep thinking that maybe I would've felt better if I slept with someone else but deep down I know that's BS. Has anyone been in a same situation and how did you get over that? I wanna stay with him but at the same time, it's killing me inside. And I don't wanna bring it up over and over. We talked about it and he's feeling bad that he did that but it's done, right? How do I move on????? Anyone?
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