FitChick Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Obviously this is only my experience and I don't know why I didn't think of it sooner and post it on other "approach" threads, but it just hit me today. I was out and about doing errands. When I can't be bothered to fix my hair I wear a hat. Hats are very fashionable at the moment, especially those Rat Pack aka Hipster hats or whatever you call them. The sort of thing Frank Sinatra used to wear. Anyway, I never liked them because I found them too masculine and the colors didn't flatter my skin color. One day I spotted one in bright red, my favorite color, and bought it. I added a small silk flower to the hatband to feminize it even more. Would you believe that nearly every single time I wear that hat out some guy will say, "Nice hat!" They are young and they are old. I didn't find any attractive enough to continue the conversation, but I always smiled and said, "Thank you!" Guys, use this as an exercise to get comfortable approaching women in a nonthreatening manner. Have no expectations, like getting a phone number or date or anything. It's just to relieve your anxiety over talking to strange women. The more you do this the more relaxed you will get and at some point you will project an air of easy confidence. If you tend to do errands at the same places, you might spot that woman again and acknowledge her, "There's that great hat again" or similar. Don't be desperate or pushy but also be open to any response from her. Now it doesn't have to be a hat, obviously. I also have a strikingly beautiful costume jewelry necklace that I wear and I get lots of compliments from both men and women. I would stay away from anything sexual or too intimate, i.e. I like the way your dress clings to your figure. Creepy.
turt Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 How would you proceed after that? Would you take that as interest or just someone giving you a compliment?
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