Mark1 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 If a girl only wants to hang out w you when alcohol is involved, does that mean she is only interested in you sexually? Basically, this is the scenario: -Drunk girl at bar all over me (2 weekends ago) -Gives me her number; tells me we should get dinner -I text her last Monday about dinner, she says, "uhh haha, just us two? I'm seeing someone right now, and I'm not sure that would go over well. I'm so sorry! " -I drop it -This week I text her some flirty/sexual things -She eats it up; asks me what Im doing this weekend -I suggest we get drinks, she says "That would be nice! I'm back in your city on X date" So, she doesn't want to hang out over dinner, but she does over drinks. She wants to just hook up, and not date? Am I reading this correctly?
carhill Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Alcoholic vampire. Up to you what you want to do with that. Dealt with that with one of my exW's friends. I don't have the stomach for that kind of stuff. Maybe you do. I would say, if you can clearly see her as 'ms right now' and have no problems ostensibly sharing her nether regions with another man, then have fun with it. Meet for drinks and what happens happens.
dasein Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Not sure about the hookup part. IMO you may be setting yourself up for a waste of time. Only one way to find out for sure. Good luck.
Author Mark1 Posted January 7, 2012 Author Posted January 7, 2012 Im wondering if her "Im seeing someone right now" was her way of saying "No, I don't want to get dinner, but I do want to hook up with you over drinks"
carhill Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 IME, it's designed to make you think you'll be getting some, er, 'attention'. You become an 'option' when she's in your city, probably one of a number. We are now serving number xxxx. Please be patient.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 That's a woman with some serious issues my friend, be careful not to get caught up into that.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Sounds like she's looking to cheat, and wants sex only.
Author Mark1 Posted January 7, 2012 Author Posted January 7, 2012 My plan is to go tot he bar with my boys, and give her a text telling her to come join. That way, she won't feel the pressure of 1-1 meet up. Good idea, or should I go for the 1-1 meet up instead?
carhill Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 If your goal is casual sex, it could go either way. One option is to do the mano a mano feint, then surprise with the group. Any fluffers in it who could rev her up for you? Vampires like the smell of blood. It's, well, 'intoxicating' IMO, off-balance would be preferable, but you can play it straight too. Up to you.
phineas Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 the crap I put up with in my 20's just to get some....... At this point in my life i'd tell her there is a consumer's beverage on the way to my house & never contact her again.
Dust Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Like other posters told you she is looking to cheat not start a new relationship. If things work out it will be a just sex thing. I wouldn't want any part of this.
Author Mark1 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 I just want to have sex with her - hopefully the feelings are mutual.
kaylan Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 ^Suit yourself OP. What goes around comes around. Just dont make a whine thread if a girl plays you in the future.
Star Gazer Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 she says, "uhh haha, just us two? I'm seeing someone right now, and I'm not sure that would go over well. I'm so sorry! " -I drop it -This week I text her some flirty/sexual things Why did you start texting her again, and with flirty/sexual things, when she turned you down previously on the grounds that she's seeing someone? Are you intentionally trying to breakup what she has going on with another guy? Just to f**k her?
Emilia Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 I just want to have sex with her - hopefully the feelings are mutual. So why start this thread instead of taking her out for a drink and see?
Author Mark1 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 Yet another one that has YET to evolve. Why am I not surprised? Evolve into what, exactly?
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