Freddys Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 She went for coffee with a girl friend and they called me numerous times, her girl friend texted me many times as well . . But i didn't answer any phone call and didn't reply to any of the text messages. Later on, many hours later, i called her, she tried to stay cool and while talking on the phone she said: "I didn't care if you would come or not, we had a great time anyway". So, what a woman means by saying that? Looks, like she tried too hard to stay cool and blur the clouds. Could the meaning be like: "I really wanted to see you!" ? ( . . and now i'm trying to hurt your ego, you jerk!)
carhill Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Read a recent thread on this topic from you and have a question: How old are you and she? If a numerically 'mature' woman was doing this, I would opine 'mind fµck'. Why not date other ladies and perhaps find one who interacts differently?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Why didn't you answer the phone or the text messages? Sounds like a little game playing on your part too no? Could have sent a quick text "Have fun, can't make it." Where you suppose to meet them or did they just call and text you while they were hanging out to invite you along?
Author Freddys Posted January 7, 2012 Author Posted January 7, 2012 @carhill, she is in her (very) late 20's. And yes, her actions and words conclude to "mind f*ck" . If you ask me why, it just happened. @Disenchantedly Yours, no, they had already planned their coffee time, and they invited me hours before and during coffee. Not answering my phone, for half a day, isn't big deal, and for sure is not a "game playing".
xpaperxcutx Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 @carhill, she is in her (very) late 20's. And yes, her actions and words conclude to "mind f*ck" . If you ask me why, it just happened. @Disenchantedly Yours, no, they had already planned their coffee time, and they invited me hours before and during coffee. Not answering my phone, for half a day, isn't big deal, and for sure is not a "game playing". She's testing you to see if you care. Why didn't you answer the phone?
dave22 Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 She's testing you to see if you care. Why didn't you answer the phone? I agree, why didn't you answer your phone? It made you look like you didn't care and so why should she act like she cares?
carhill Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 The thread I linked should be helpful. This has been going on for 'some months'.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 The thread I linked should be helpful. This has been going on for 'some months'. gAH! can't believe I got trolled.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 @Disenchantedly Yours, no, they had already planned their coffee time, and they invited me hours before and during coffee. Not answering my phone, for half a day, isn't big deal, and for sure is not a "game playing". It depends. Did you really not answer your phone because you weren't aware of a call or text? Or did you pick up your phone, see a call and text, then ignore it. You hurt her feelings. I'm not saying either way whether she had the right to be or not. She felt like you were ignoring her. Her pride was dented. If you infact did see her text and phonecall and decided not to respond, then you were ignoring her. And you were playing your own mind games. But if you honestly never saw the text or call until much later, then no, it isn't mind games on your part. However, the way you described the situation, it sounds like you knew she called and texted you inviting you out and you could have texted her back something quick about not being able to make it.
Author Freddys Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 @xpaperxcutx, So, reading this at a glance you say she was testing me, but then again, checking my previous post, you result to "mind games" and nothing to do with true interest? @Disenchantedly Yours, Sometimes, ladies should taste their own medicine. You know what i mean . . . Story, has so many levels, like all stories do. Still trying to "hit" me with indirect words & actions, she lowers my respect to her, and once respect lost, can never be (re)gained.
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