thebig-guy Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Hi all, i havent been on here for quite a while now, which is a good thing for me.. But i just wanted to come back on for one last post and just tell you how it feels to have moved on from a breakup and try to describe to you just how happy i am again. The goal here is to remind you that there is light at the end of the tunnel! Seriously! (In a nutshell) I had a pretty horrific breakup back in september (my birthday). Basically the love of my life left me and never explained why. This left me feeling extremely depressed for months. There was absolutely no closure. I was left questioning myself and begging at her knees to give me a chance... A little while later i found out she was cheating which was horrible news but inevitably helped me move on. (Suffering) I went through all kinds of emotions during the breakup. Sadness, anger, denial.. the list goes on.. Im not employed at the moment so i was constantly in the house on my own, I would drive to random locations and sit in silence to try and clear my head. I actually went to see a doctor at one point as It became unbearable. As the weeks passed i slowly started to climb out of this hole although i still had the odd moment where i had to go and shed a few tears. (Recovery process) Moving on from this situation was extremely hard. I Resorted to going out every weekend with alcohol and drugs... Although i realised this made me worse and actually made me more depressed. What actually healed me the most was TIME. I cant describe how effective this is. Although you may feel like time is too slow and that every minute feels like an hour. I can assure you that if you really try and use it, you will notice that days become week, weeks become months... The idea here is to think about the future, think about you as an individual, not as a couple. Try thinking about thoughts of you sleeping with other people if you need to! It helps! But i would not do what i did, date other people, it will almost certainly lead to more sadness (Out of the frying pan, into the fire) springs to mind. (how i feel now) ID say i was 99% back to normal. Ive got my physique back, im socialising alot, and im enjoying being single but ultimately, i can sit in a quiet room alone, and not have thoughts about my ex. Im not trying to preach here but all im saying is that if you are currently feeling like you want the ground to swallow you up, or your just depressed 24/7. You need to start thinking about how you will feel 2 months down the line, because you will almost certainly be happier than you are now. I cant describe how happy i feel now. Ive managed to remove this person from my life. I used to think about her every 5 minutes when she dumped me. Now shes lucky if she gets in my head once a week . Good luck people and remember, every tunnel has light at the end of it!!
stitch702 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 These are the stories I love to hear! I too had my break up a little more than 2 months ago and I slowly see myself getting myself out of my hole. Congratulations man I hope you are really doing well...and I too hope that in TIME I will be fine and ok being single. I'm not the type to date from relationship to relationship because that usually makes me feel worse as I'm always comparing both relationships, but that's just me. Rebounding may work for others but I've found that it doesn't for me at least.
ruffianheart Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I'm so happy for you, The Big-Guy. Time truly does heal. After my breakup at the beginning of August, every Monday (it happened on a Monday) was a painful reminder. Eventually, that faded away and Monday's are just like every other day. Then every weekend I would be sad and worried that my ex was out with someone else. Now the weekends come and go and I don't think about who he may be with anymore. For those in pain, it does get better. Have faith.
ken_25 Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Happy to hear things are going well, take care man.
Sentient6 Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Well done mate, good job! My God, stories like this give so much faith and courage to forget, move on and live again. Take care.
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