TheDovic Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 So I met someone else! I've been speaking to a lot of girls since my ex dumped me, but this girl really caught my eye and in the past week we've went on two dates. I really thought I was starting to fall for her, but last night she kept bringing my ex up, and even told me a friend of hers (a guy) had met up with my ex. She let me think they had a date before telling me this guy already has a gf. She then tried to start an argument but I calmed things down. I think what I've realised is that although I like this girl, I'm not over my ex. My ex had been texting everyday, but since she spoke to this guy on Wednesday and found out I'd been dating she's stopped, and has deleted all pictures of me from FB. Her sister text two days ago at 1am saying how much her family all miss me too, which was weird. Without beating about the bush I'm not over my ex and I don't think she's over me... but I don't have the strength to keep hanging on to hope. When we're out my friends say she stares at me like a school girl with a crush, and she flirts with me constantly. Then when we stop talking or if she sees me with someone else she calls to my house unannounced. She won't stop this no matter how many times I tell her not to! I'm just confused and fed up... can't wait til this is all a memory!!! Thanks if you read this
fificremefarben Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 So I met someone else! I've been speaking to a lot of girls since my ex dumped me, but this girl really caught my eye and in the past week we've went on two dates. I really thought I was starting to fall for her, but last night she kept bringing my ex up, and even told me a friend of hers (a guy) had met up with my ex. She let me think they had a date before telling me this guy already has a gf. She then tried to start an argument but I calmed things down. I think what I've realised is that although I like this girl, I'm not over my ex. My ex had been texting everyday, but since she spoke to this guy on Wednesday and found out I'd been dating she's stopped, and has deleted all pictures of me from FB. Her sister text two days ago at 1am saying how much her family all miss me too, which was weird. Without beating about the bush I'm not over my ex and I don't think she's over me... but I don't have the strength to keep hanging on to hope. When we're out my friends say she stares at me like a school girl with a crush, and she flirts with me constantly. Then when we stop talking or if she sees me with someone else she calls to my house unannounced. She won't stop this no matter how many times I tell her not to! I'm just confused and fed up... can't wait til this is all a memory!!! Thanks if you read this I sympathise with you Do you live in quite a small town where everybody pretty much knows everybody? I suspect that your date was trying to size up how you still felt about your ex, deciding whether it was worth her while starting something up with you. Maybe she started an argument because she got a littled peeved that she could sense you still had feelings for you ex? Anyway, the reason i was asking if you live in a small town is because it's really hard to put distance between you and your ex if you live in a town where word gets around fast. Same effect if you share a tight-knit group of friends. That's what you need, though, for it all to become a memory like you say...distance. Chin up x
Mack05 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 (edited) Dude I don't want to say I told you so, but I posted these replies nearly 3 months ago on your threads.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t300603/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299987/ Now nearly 3 months later nothing has really changed. Are you going to follow my advice now? You HAVE TO go NC and you have to do it ASAP. Just be honest with her. Tell her you still love her. Tell it it hurts too much to stay in contact everyday. She needs time apart from you to figure things out. She is still very confused and until she resolves her personal issues once and for all, she will keep you both in Limbo. It's like you are on a constant 'holding pattern'. It is easy for me to say move on. I know how hard that is mate, but you HAVE TO give her space and she you. Staying in contact is hindering you both. More then you realise. Yet you don't want to let go, because you still love her. Make a promise that you will meet her in 3 months. Even arrange a time and date. Tell her that you will be doing positive things while you are both apart and that you hope you can reconnect in 3 months. Hopefully she agrees to this. What she does in those 12 weeks is out of your control. You need just to focus on you. In those 12 weeks work out harder then you ever have before, buy new clothes you know she would like on you. Read some books. Why can't you read my mind (relationship communication) and for men only (the inner workings of a woman) are the best two relationship books I have read..Keep a journal of your progress. When the day arrives, put your heart on the line. Do the things you know she loves. You may both reconcile after 3 months or you may both decide to move on. At least you will have a definite answer. I'm not saying she will be emotionally healthy in 3 months, but I can guarentee you she will have figured a lot of things out and you may be able to start up again at a slow pace. Slow is good.. You ignored my advice 3 months ago. I hope you follow through with it now. I am leaving LS for at least 6 months and this time I am sticking to it..If you need me drop me a PM (will check from time to time)..Really hope I works out for you mate..I will be rooting for you from the Algarve! If you ever fancy a round of golf pop out! Edited January 7, 2012 by Mack05
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