irc333 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Okay, there's this female friend I have known for a long time, well, on her FB postings shes' been posting pics, and of course there's the back and forth banter between friends posting comments under her pic. WEll, I recently happened to be friend one of her attractive lady friends on FB and we'd been talking on FB lately. WE've been cracking each other up, too. Whilst getting to know each other, she would ask pre-cautionary questions about me. "What nationality are you?" and when I would answer, "Oh, lol...my ex was that nationality, you're not the controlling type, are you?" And I was like "Um, no" Basically, everytime she'd ask a question about me, as if I would make a good prospective mate, she'd try to stereotype it with an ex boyfriend or something. Fortunately, she has spoken to my female friend (which is her friend) about me, and she was able to vouche for my good character. But, do women do this often? If they have taken interest in a guy, do they always ask these pre-cautionary questions to make sure you're not like their ex?
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Personally I wouldn't want to be with someone who draws comparisons. It is not giving the new person a fair shot with a clean slate. If I found myself making comparisons to an ex I would know I wasn't healed enough to start dating.
Buttercup84 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Okay, there's this female friend I have known for a long time, well, on her FB postings shes' been posting pics, and of course there's the back and forth banter between friends posting comments under her pic. WEll, I recently happened to be friend one of her attractive lady friends on FB and we'd been talking on FB lately. WE've been cracking each other up, too. Whilst getting to know each other, she would ask pre-cautionary questions about me. "What nationality are you?" and when I would answer, "Oh, lol...my ex was that nationality, you're not the controlling type, are you?" And I was like "Um, no" Basically, everytime she'd ask a question about me, as if I would make a good prospective mate, she'd try to stereotype it with an ex boyfriend or something. Fortunately, she has spoken to my female friend (which is her friend) about me, and she was able to vouche for my good character. But, do women do this often? If they have taken interest in a guy, do they always ask these pre-cautionary questions to make sure you're not like their ex? Hmm yes . But as if someone will admit their faults ( if they know they are faults ) when they first meet someone . I am not going to ask a guy if he is controlling , emotionally abusive when we first meet . She just wants to be careful . Maybe her ex treated her bad
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