lonelyheartbeat Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Hello everyone, Long story short... Met a guy on a dating site. He messaged me. We spent almost two weeks exchanging e-mails. Finally got around to talking on chat. At this point, he's been the one to emphasize that we're "friends". Although it does confuse me when he throws in that he'll share more personal stories when we meet. I've never mentioned meeting him or anything like that, especially since we live thousands of miles away. Plus, as mentioned, he's said more than once that "as a friend, I" or "we're friends, so feel free to..." Etc. Anyway, that's not what I've come here for. What's been kind of...troubling me is the way he acts on chat. I would like opinions please. And if you can, no criticism. I just want pure opinion on how others, if on my end of the chat, would regard this given you were on my end of the computer. When he talks, he puts a lot of *laughs*, smiley faces, etc. That doesn't affect me in a negative way at all. I'm always using and "lols". What kind of...weirds me out, is when we're talking about softer subjects. Puppies, or nice things. And he puts *smiles softly*, and *blushes*. Over the years, I've seen this a lot in e-mail and stuff, and yes, sometimes in chat. But he uses those last two a lot and I really feel weirded out by it. Mainly by the *smiles softly*. First time I saw that, I thought, smiles softly? So what do people think? Again, if you can, bypass comments on how I'm being ridiculous, etc. I just want to know what you all would think given you were sitting on my end of the computer and a guy (or girl) used a lot of these written-out emotions. And I do mean a lot. He uses them in almost every line he writes. Thanks. LB
Dust Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 I just got a soft errection reading about all the soft smiling this guy tells you about. I don't know what to think. Seriously just meet him if you like the way he looks in pictures and the way he talks over the phone. See how he handles himself in person. Take it from there.
FitChick Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 What is his ethnic background? Could be a cultural thing. I'm confused as to whether or not you actually want to date this guy or just want long distance chat.
Cypress25 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 If you live thousands of miles away from each other, why are you even chatting with him? It doesn't sound like you're looking for pen pals, but do you really think you'll ever get on a plane to meet this guy? Doesn't sound realistic to me.
Shaun-Dro Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 If you live thousands of miles away from each other, why are you even chatting with him? It doesn't sound like you're looking for pen pals, but do you really think you'll ever get on a plane to meet this guy? Doesn't sound realistic to me. Not to mention wasting our time.
carhill Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Set up a video chat. It'll all become clear then. Have you done much long-distance dating? Does your disability prevent travel? What are you looking for in the potentials you meet in OLD, like this man?
FitChick Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Does your disability prevent travel? Where did she say she was disabled? Long distance relationships can work out as long there is a very strong connection and you both make an effort to keep the relationship alive and see each other at reasonable intervals. Ultimately, one of you will have to move though.
carhill Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Read her profile. I check the background of every OP I respond to, to varying degrees of depth.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 The guy I'm talking to now is expressive in writing, he uses alot of ! for emphasizes but he rarely uses lol. He prefers to type out the hahahaha!. As far I know he's not gay, and we are not friends. We've also already met. So either this douche is playing games or you're willingly putting yourself in this position.
Author lonelyheartbeat Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 I think after reading the comments that I received on my post, I will never post on loveshack again. I can't believe after reading all the other posts topics that one of you had the nerve to tell me that I'm "wasting' your time? I thought this was a place to get advice. Maybe my question was a bit of a silly one, but I really wanted to know what other people thought if they were to encounter a situation such as mine. I never thought I'd get such nasty comments. All right then. I won't waste any more of your time. Goodbye, and thanks for nothing.
kaylan Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 ^Grow tougher skin, this is the internet. People are just being honest with you. Isnt that what you want?
Star Gazer Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 I just got a soft errection reading about all the soft smiling this guy tells you about. :laugh: OP: I'm curious why you're on a dating site and talking with someone who lives thousands of miles away? If you're not thinking about meeting him, why are you even talking to him?
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