yzyzyz325 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Happy new yr to everyone here!!! It's been 8 months since my ex broke up with me out of the blue, and she never contacted me after the BU. The only contact we had was on her bday, I texted her and she texted back. Also, not long time ago she told our best mutual friend that she didn't want to see me if I still had feelings to her because she didnt want to give me false hope. And she had been seeing someone. So here is my question, two wks b4 the BU, I promised to my ex that I would translate an article abt a love story to her, but before I was able to finish it, she suddenly borke up with me. Now I have finished the translation, I am wondering if I shud ask our best mutual friend to give it to her since she (the friend) is going to leave this country forever. Because my ex is not so close to other mutual friends, I am afraid it's the last chance for me to give the article to her. I dont want to say anything to my ex, I will just let my friend tell her that I just want to keep my promise, that's it. Is it a good idea? Thx!
CaliBabe Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 No, don't. Go NC and keep your distance. It will look like your still pining over your ex.
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Nope. Keep your peace and stay away. Personally I would ditch the document as it means nothing at this point and it only gives you a means to reconnect.
Buttercup84 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Nope , please stay NC and get rid of it , she could do it herself.
Chi townD Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 I agree with everyone else. SHe broke it off with you. She made a choice to have yo out of her life, so that's exactly what you give her.
fificremefarben Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Don't give it to her. She made her choice. Save your translation for someone who really deserves it.
I have no title Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Dont give it to her. Im pretty sure she forgot about this promise a long time ago and the fact that you still remember it and want to keep it, will only show her that you're not over her. Keep your distance and NC.
Author yzyzyz325 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 Thanks so much guys! Can't believe no one agrees with the idea... I was thinking, by giving her the article, it would remind her of my merits or even the good memory between us. I don't want to get her back now, but at least, she would not use those ridiculous reasons ( like I don't respect my parents, I'm not hard working, I'm not confident, or even i'm racist, which are so not true!!! More are here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286968/ ) to resist me. Any thoughts, please?
BoredAgain Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 I also have to chime in on the "no" side. Rather than making her think fondly of you, it's much more likely to make her think you're desperately trying to get her back. Frankly, it doesn't matter what she thinks about you. Instead of trying to make her not "resist" you, you need to move forward with your life
geegirl Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Thanks so much guys! Can't believe no one agrees with the idea... I was thinking, by giving her the article, it would remind her of my merits or even the good memory between us. I don't want to get her back now, but at least, she would not use those ridiculous reasons ( like I don't respect my parents, I'm not hard working, I'm not confident, or even i'm racist, which are so not true!!! More are here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286968/ ) to resist me. Any thoughts, please? You should never have to remind someone of the memories you had with each other. You're either memorable or not. You don't have to redeem yourself. It doesn't matter what she thinks about you as long as you are confident and believe in who you are. If you've made changes in your life to better yourself, you don't need her validation or her approval. Keep moving forward. Please don't send the translation.
immitable Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Thanks so much guys! Can't believe no one agrees with the idea... I was thinking, by giving her the article, it would remind her of my merits or even the good memory between us. I don't want to get her back now, but at least, she would not use those ridiculous reasons ( like I don't respect my parents, I'm not hard working, I'm not confident, or even i'm racist, which are so not true!!! More are here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286968/ ) to resist me. Any thoughts, please? She painted you black not to resist you but to justify it in her own head, she knows what she did was somewhat wrong and she is trying to justify her hurting you.
Author yzyzyz325 Posted January 10, 2012 Author Posted January 10, 2012 I actually dont really mind what she would thk of me, I just dont want to be a guy who cannot keep his promise. Also, I want to apologize for the wrongs things that I did before
Chi townD Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 I actually dont really mind what she would thk of me, I just dont want to be a guy who cannot keep his promise. Also, I want to apologize for the wrongs things that I did before Yeah, well she didn't keep her promises to you....i.e. being your girlfriend. Trivial, I know. However, when she ended the relationship with you. She lost everything connected to you. For example, if you two were planning on going on this amazing and romantic cruise. You paid for it; it put you back a couple of grand. Then, a month before the trip, she breaks up with you. Are you still obligated to take her on that trip? HELL NO!!! You're not together anymore; therefore, you don't have to take her on a romantic cruise.
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