Does the Guy from work Fancy me too - or do I have the signals wrong...

[Fluffsticle]

Hi Folks,

 

I am interested in a new Guy in work. Immediately I got this feeling when we met, and I think he felt the same. Or am I just imagining he did? There seemed to be something between us, and still is when we look into eachothers eyes.

 

We chatted in the first few weeks, and he seemed very interested in me, as a person if nothing else, as part of a related conversation, he asked if I am married. He seemed to be showing all the signs of being interested, asking about my hobbies etc, including declaring that he is single in front of me and a few People in work.

 

I; despite his efforts have never declaired that I am single, even though I am. I have been nice and friendly towards him, but as I'm in work, I haven't seemed overly keen. I haven never done the dating at work thing, and part of me wants to be sure how he feels before I would make anything obvious. I will make myself seem busy, and not make an effort to talk to him too often. As I don't work with him directly.

 

But in the last week we don't chat as much. In fact I am beginning to feel a little nervous/awkward around him. I think he is nervous too, especially if it is just the 2 of us, but then again I don't really know him. I get the feeling we both want to talk, but maybe we are conscious it looks obvious to everyone in work that we have interest in eachother, and so we have each reigned it in!

 

He talks a lot about himself, about his interests, what he is good at, and has even talked on several occasions about his many ex girlfriends! He is open about the type of Girl he likes.

 

The talk of his exes is making me feel insecure, because he is portraying them to be perfect looking girls, and now I am getting mixed signals like maybe he has no interest in me.

 

My question is.... why all the talking, and why the talking about his past relationships... Contrast to this he regurlarly says things like I'd like to find a nice woman, and not many Women find him interesting in a messing sympathetic way ....

 

On one hand he seems to be able to pull fab girls from all over the world, on the other girls don't like him!

 

I am worried that I am reading all the signs wrong, and that none of this means anything.

 

Can you explain what it's about? I really don't want to get wrapped up in a player... Does he sound like a player? I know I am worth far too much for that. Post big break up - I am scared of falling for someone only to get hurt!!!

 

Thank you.

[susanfollows]

I'm reading this and find it both sad and interesting at the same time! Listen if you want him you'd better ask, otherwise he's loosing interest fast. His lack of communication tells me he's thinking he found some other girl and is not really thinking you're worth it now. But he's not totally sure hence the mixed signals. I think he was interested but you waited to long, I know you want him to ask you out but some guys get asked out all the time by hotties and you gotta go after them. Good luck