chevytoys Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 My ex broke up with me in October of 2011. She is the mother of my child and the person I want to spend my life with. I was devastated when she ended things between us. She immediately started talking to other guys and even slept with one a few weeks after our break up. I am doing much better right now than I was a couple months ago. The person she hooked up with as far as I know she doesn't even talk to him anymore. I made all the classic mistakes that everyone makes in the beginning. But now I don't know what to make of the situation. When we first broke up she would not ever call me unless it was about our son. Which was fine. But now she has been calling and texting me alot more now about random stuff. I have been making positive changes in my life for myself and she may be seeing that I am taking this breakup serious and want to change for the better even if we don't get back together. I just don't know how to read this. She called the other day to see if I wanted to get lunch which I aggreed to go to and we had a great time. Sorry I am rambling about this I just need some advice on what to do. If I left something out please tell me if you need more info and I will try to answer any questions so I can get the advice I need. Thanks for your time.
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 I'm sorry that I did not see this earlier. Her actions are her actions... she is the one who needs to understand them, not you. Focus on yourself and find inner peace and you will find your happiness.
geegirl Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 You didn't mention why she ended the relationship. If you feel that you are headed in the right direction and that you would prefer to push ahead without her, then you have to distinguish boundaries between the two of you for your child's sake. If you do want to reconcile with her, I have to ask you if you will be able to trust her moving forward. Again, I do not know why she ended it with you and if for reasonable causes, then maybe you can be upfront with her as to the intent of her increased contact. If she wants to get back, you have to decide if you have faith in her when it comes to building an R. If not, then your healing comes first, and you must set your boundaries.
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