Why do women keep messing with guys they know aint no good?

[9Lives]

Im asking because when you are friend with someone who will mess with someone again who totally dogged them out....you know you have to hear about it all over again and most of the time....it ends the same old way.

 

I mean you want to be supportive to your friend but really you wish she would just leave the guy alone spend her time with someone who really wants to bring happiness into her life.

 

This guy aint gonna treat her right cause she has already showed him that she is easy and he can get it when he wants it. It so sad.

 

What do I do?

[carhill]

Is your friend supportive of you?

[Oxy Moronovich]

Why is it always on the guy though? She's consenting to being mistreated. Why is she a victim?

 

There are many women who love it when men manipulate them. They may put up a big fit as if they don't, but they secretly love it.

[9Lives]

Is your friend supportive of you?

 

Yes and no because when I come to her because I am confused or not sure what to do about a situation with a guy, she gets frustrated because she see the situation for what she thinks it is and Im not see it so clearly. That really upsets me. But she will get in the EXACT same situation and tell me about it and I will give her suppport without the frustration.

 

Like for example: my guy didnt call me for about a day and half so I was concerned because I was use to talking to him every day. I told her about it and she was like dang, it is only one day...why are you tripping!!! She made me feel worst than I did because she said some other stuff

 

wellllll!!!! this week her guy didnt call her at night like he normally does and the next day and guess what? She had a problem with it.

 

So i called it to her attention and said well Im gonna help you see your way out but just remember that when i called you because I was going thru this you treated me like crap!!!! She remember but at the time I told her, to be honest i was mad as hell at her because she had the audasity to want my empathy but didnt want to give it when I needed it. DRAMA QUEEN!!!

[carhill]

Time for a little distance.

[9Lives]

Time for a little distance.

 

I work with her so we cant be distant. It is just draining. She is going backwards. This guy would come over there....stand up in her stuff and then not call for about two weeks until he was ready to do it again.

[carhill]

Emotional distance. Not a SubZero, but put a chill on things. Since it's work, keep it business.

[FitChick]

People who let others mistreat them believe they don't deserve anything better and negative attention is better than no attention at all.

[Ruby Slippers]

People who let others mistreat them believe they don't deserve anything better and negative attention is better than no attention at all.

And more than anyone, those people need the support and encouragement of their friends.

 

If you can be supportive and caring toward her without letting her pull you down, great. If not, I agree that a little distance is in order.