azsinglegal Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I wonder how many of the previous stories by women contained the above? dasein mentioned the brushoff, being "rejected" by somebody you don't have a chance with. It's like being upset that you didn't get a job you are obviously not qualified for. That's why I don't go after girls I consider to be 8-10's. It's just stupid and a waste of my time. But it seems that some women haven't figured that out, and are hurt when Mc.Dreamy turns her down. Frankly, he's doing her a favor, instead of simply adding her to his harem. This goes into the "things I learned over the past year" category. I seriously wasn't able to recognize that the kind of man I was looking for, wasn't looking for me. I think it's good you know this early actually...and I wish you'd quit putting yourself down for it. Makes me want to jack-slap you sometimes. I wish I knew these things in my early 30s. Now, I'm pushing 39 and just figuring crap out. Too bad I have to adjust what I'm looking for all over again...
Ariadne Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I wonder how many of the previous stories by women contained the above? Actually, the last guy I liked is 15 years older than me. When I told him that I was in love with him he responded that he was too old. I told him that I didn't care if he was 100 years old. He said, forget it! But he is so awesome that many women love him, and he goes with none.
skippercollector Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I've gotten up the nerve twice to ask a guy out. One guy said yes, the other guy said no. I didn't realize that the guy who agreed to go out with me was already seeing someone else. We attended a friend's wedding together, but he refused to go to the reception. The guy who said no avoided me for years. There have been numerous times I've tried starting a conversation with a guy. His expression says it all--either he's bored by me, or out and out repulsed.
lululucy Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 not only are they people too somedude81 aka pussyonthepedestal but they are in general more afraid when it comes to rejection. So when you are asking a girl out realize she is more afraid of the situation then you. Girls are afraid to even say no to a guy and reject them because they are so sensitive to emotions. You know, I never thought of it that way but I think you're right. Huh. I've been rejected a lot because as I've said in other threads I don't really have a problem with approaching people. The worst instance was probably in high school -- grade ten, I was head over heels in love with this grade twelve boy who acted and sang and was basically wonderful. I passed him a note via my friend one day (anonymously ) and he passed one back -- we exchanged notes for weeks before he gave me his number and said to call him and we had several long phone calls. Finally we met and he was obviously not impressed haha In retrospect, he was a total d-bag and I found out years later he'd had a girlfriend the whole time. At the time it hurt a lot though. Since then, I've been rejected a few times when asking someone to do something, though I've never told anyone unsolicited (since him) that I like them.
DirtyDancing Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Age and pics or it's not true! Andy K... 27 and no pics. Trying to remain anonymous and untraceable. You'll just have to take my word for it Point is, pretty girls get rejected too. Everyone does.
nothappyjan Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 I wonder how many of the previous stories by women contained the above? dasein mentioned the brushoff, being "rejected" by somebody you don't have a chance with. It's like being upset that you didn't get a job you are obviously not qualified for. That's why I don't go after girls I consider to be 8-10's. It's just stupid and a waste of my time. But it seems that some women haven't figured that out, and are hurt when Mc.Dreamy turns her down. Frankly, he's doing her a favor, instead of simply adding her to his harem. Every guy i've been rejected by has been a very average Joe. They would all be around 5-7's. Some had little going for them, some were a bit more successful but overall they weren't anyone you would turn around on the street for and they never had much experience with other girls either.
Wolf18 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Every guy i've been rejected by has been a very average Joe. They would all be around 5-7's. Some had little going for them, some were a bit more successful but overall they weren't anyone you would turn around on the street for and they never had much experience with other girls either. pics or it didn't happen.
nothappyjan Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Absolutely! One time I waited for a guy after class (when I was in college), we had been making eye contact for weeks. After class I asked him for coffee or something and he said no thanks and walked away. I've asked men out several times before and had them say, no. OR they say yes then I never hear from them to make plans. This is actually the MOST common way I've been rejected. They'll just disappear. The "blow off" is worse then actually being told they're not interested. Rejection isn't just limited to men. But maybe seen that way because men seem to be doing more of the approaching then women. I've been rejected online too. I've "winked" or messaged someone and never heard anything back. But I think most of those were because I was doing a few things wrong: 1) Trying to date men younger then me 2) I smoked 3) Attempting to date men out of my league (younger, hotter, athletic, etc.) My situation is very different. Any guy ive approached has been very average, if a hot guy messages I tend to ignore him more as I think he's a player. Plus ive never smoked ANYTHING in my life and i'm only 25 so the guys i were dating were from 25 to 33 age range.
nothappyjan Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 pics or it didn't happen. haha I already showed Dust pics of me earlier in the thread after his challenge. You can verify with him if you like, don't want to show too many people, considering I dont know who you are or what you could do with my pics.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Some of you guys really need to shake out of this mindset that women don't get rejected. It's such a strange mindset to have because it's to imply that you bascially don't think women experience the complete human experience like men do. Rejection is a human experience. Not a male one. Unless it's only the experience of really super hot girls you care the most about. In that case, I can't reallly work up a lot of understanding for you if your only looking to the hottest of girls as your only area of interest. And I too have been rejected for simliar reasons to what the other ladies had shared. Back in college I was really into a guy in my art class. We had gone to high school together too but never really talked then. We talked a little in college and one day I saw him a local place grabbing breakfast. I gave him my number and never heard from him. When I was 24 I went out with a 35 year old man that collected superhero action figures, was overweight and kind of geek-sheek. But he was cool, I was attracted to him and he was a great kisser. After a month or so of dating, he dumped me over instant messenger because he wanted to go out with his 35 year old neighbor. Turns out one day he came home during lunch to surprise her and found her with another man. I have sent "winks" to men online that never responded. I have flirted with men in public and never got asked out. I have gone out on dates where the man wasn't interested in going out again. These men have been varying heights, atheltic ability, weights and incomes. I went out last year with a man that after two dates, who at first seemed very into me, just vanished. He was so attentive during our communication, said he had a great time on our first date, followed up for a second date and called me a few times before we met up, said he would call..well he didn't. I have been out with my friend while a man came and flirted with her to ask her out while I was ignored. Women get rejected. And if you are a guy right now reading these stories and they make you feel good because of your own false ideals about women, then you got some work to do on yourself. It would be a little twisted to get off on other women's stories of rejection. But if you're a guy right now reading these stories and it is just making you see things differently, then remember that next time you think women have it so much easier then you.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 I have asked out few more guys who all said yes, only to drop me couple of weeks later, after making out and nearly having sex! I asked my current bf for his facebook info first, but he asked me for the phone number and then asked me out. He said he would have asked for my number even if I didn't ask for FB info.
Wolf18 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 I have asked out few more guys who all said yes, only to drop me couple of weeks later, after making out and nearly having sex! . I think men and women have a starkly different idea of what constitutes rejection. If I got that far with a woman, regardless of the end outcome, I would consider it atleast pyrrhic victory .
Dust Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 You know, I never thought of it that way but I think you're right. Huh. I've been rejected a lot because as I've said in other threads I don't really have a problem with approaching people. The worst instance was probably in high school -- grade ten, I was head over heels in love with this grade twelve boy who acted and sang and was basically wonderful. I passed him a note via my friend one day (anonymously ) and he passed one back -- we exchanged notes for weeks before he gave me his number and said to call him and we had several long phone calls. Finally we met and he was obviously not impressed haha In retrospect, he was a total d-bag and I found out years later he'd had a girlfriend the whole time. At the time it hurt a lot though. Since then, I've been rejected a few times when asking someone to do something, though I've never told anyone unsolicited (since him) that I like them. That's a sad story. Well you turned out good though! haha I already showed Dust pics of me earlier in the thread after his challenge. You can verify with him if you like, don't want to show too many people, considering I dont know who you are or what you could do with my pics. She did and she looked beautiful really! But I just went back to take another look and it seems they are gone! I should have downloaded. booo Some girls look good in pictures but not in real life... I think men and women have a starkly different idea of what constitutes rejection. If I got that far with a woman, regardless of the end outcome, I would consider it atleast pyrrhic victory . Gee you think? It's pretty obvious we're playing the mating game from different sides of the field. If you got that far with a woman it would be a victory. If a guy says I just screwed the cheerleading team he'd be a legend. If a girl says I just screwed the football team she'd be another kind of legend...
Titania22 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 This is actually not surprising. Based on your previous posts I'm assuming you're saying these to men much younger than you, that you don't know. It's understandable why you are getting rejected. But there's more to it than that. If I was on campus and a hot 21 year old with big boobs came up to me, "Hi, I'm Ashley, want to have sex with me?" I would just look at her funny and turn her down. She'd have to do or say something sexy to get me interested. The best thing she could do is show interest while in conversation and say something similar to, "I want to go to X" which lets me be the one who asks her. In other words, I'm all for obvious signs of interest but let me be the one to take charge. OK, I completely understand now. Just didn't know any better. Well actually it happened once with a 40yr old guy too (who was single), and i was in my early to mid 30's. People have there reasons. It's no big deal. Under different conditions everyone rejects sometimes and get rejected. It just happens.
Tybalt Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 But of course I've been rejected. Multiple times, mostly in school before I got weary of it and stopped pursuing. I recall my senior year of high school, being so enamoured of this guy. I hung around with him all the time and finally got him to agree to go to Prom with me - but only as a friend. I was pretty devastated at the time. Nowadays I don't tend to ask out men, so the sting and ego bust comes when they decide they "aren't feeling it" after a month or two. Eh, I will keep an open mind and an open heart. After all, if I do the work and make sure I'm the person I want to be, in time hopefully the right fit will come along. After all, it only takes one when it's right.
PlumPrincess Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 (edited) If I was on campus and a hot 21 year old with big boobs came up to me, "Hi, I'm Ashley, want to have sex with me?" I would just look at her funny and turn her down. She'd have to do or say something sexy to get me interested. The best thing she could do is show interest while in conversation and say something similar to, "I want to go to X" which lets me be the one who asks her. In other words, I'm all for obvious signs of interest but let me be the one to take charge. You of all people suddenly want to be in charge and taking the lead when it comes to initiating relationships? There's a reason why I don't take the complaints of many guys here seriously. Mostly it's about blaming someone else, preferably women. Edited January 7, 2012 by PlumPrincess
without Posted February 1, 2012 Posted February 1, 2012 I've got rejected by my friend too.I asked him out and he said no.
dizy Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Well, now that I think about it, I might have been rejected XD. I really dont know. I mean the situations are always complicated . typical scenario would be the guy does something ambiguous then when i finally get the hint like weeks later and try to respond they act (sometimes) like they have been rejected and do not feel like responding anymore. I am not sure if this is really the case or they were just not interested at the first place but now that I have read all those rejections. man I wont ask any guy out again. that just sucks so much
bac Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Sure, if they go for a wrong target. For example, I was rejected when I asked out an older man who was married.
Anela Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 (edited) What would you think if two different men, in the space of a month, deleted their online dating accounts just days after you messaged them? (Or, in your case, women?) I received responses, that I hadn't read before they deleted, but their accounts were gone by the time I had logged back in. My picture isn't that bad, but I also just messaged them on a whim, looking for potential friends. My age might have something to do with it, but the guy who I thought was the more egotistical/entitled one out of the lot, after reading their profiles, has actually seemed to be the better one of them all (so far). Edited February 6, 2012 by Anela
Recommended Posts