somedude81 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I want to get this over with for once and for all. Are there any women out there who have actually been rejected? First some guidelines. I consider a rejection to be a clear and obvious indication of interest in which the other person said no. Looking at a guy with a flirty expression and him not coming over to you is not a rejection; unless you could tell that he understood your intention and still choose not to approach. Even then, that's a very minor rejection. If that's the worse you got, don't bother. Also, getting dumped is not a rejection. If it has happened to you, please give some details. More is always better.
DirtyDancing Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Yes, I have been rejected. I very rarely ask men out due to this reason, because two out of the three times I have they've turned me down. Two scenarios in which I have been rejected: Some guy in college. We spent our lunch hours together and studied after each class together. He spent a lot of time flirting with me and so at the end of the semester I asked him if he wanted to go do something outside of school. He said no. Rejection. Coffee shop dude. Spent many days there studying. He'd ask me questions about school, moved some furniture around so I'd be more comfortable, knew my drink order by heart, initiated conversation. Called him at work one day and gave him my number asking if he ever wanted to get together. Never called. Rejection. Do these count? In each case I asked them out and they either said no or never responded. In my mind that's rejection!
Casablanca Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Other than women I have dated I have had two women who have asked me out and I said I wasnt interested in anything more than friends.
Author somedude81 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 Thank you DirtyDancing, both of those count. Though I'm curious as why you decided to only stop after two rejections.
ThaWholigan Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I've rejected a couple of girls before. Women do ask guys out, it's not too common but it happens more frequently than is often said. And yes, sometimes they DO indeed get rejected. I've even seen hot girls get rejected by guys before.
Author somedude81 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 I know guys reject women. Heck I've rejected a woman once. Though for this thread, I mainly want to hear from the women, instead of having a bunch of dudes post how they rejected women.
oaks Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Yes, women really do get rejected. I've rejected some both online and in person. Online it has varied between lame one-liners "hello, how are you?" through to lengthy email conversations or even a phone-call, and in person it's either been women who were clearly drunk (and I was still sober enough to be a gentleman) or at times when I wasn't single (but they didn't know that before approaching me).
oaks Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I know guys reject women. Heck I've rejected a woman once. Though for this thread, I mainly want to hear from the women, instead of having a bunch of dudes post how they rejected women. Ahh, sorry. Didn't see this until after I posted my reply. Ok, so you want to hear about it from a woman's perspective... why?
LexiB Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Does online dating count? It's happened. <<shrug>>
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I got rejected by a guy I asked out when I was a sophomore in high school. That's my only experience with rejection. But that's also my only experience with being the pursuer. Every subsequent boyfriend or date has asked me out.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Years ago, I asked out a good friend of mine. He told me that he doesn't feel the spark and flat out rejected me.
Author somedude81 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 Years ago, I asked out a good friend of mine. He told me that he doesn't feel the spark and flat out rejected me. A good friend of yours? That must have sucked.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I have by far rejected more women by your definition than I've accepted
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 A good friend of yours? That must have sucked. Yes, I was devastated at the time. We actually hang out as friends (1-1) about twice a week for 7 months. At the time I was in best shape of my life and was 24. He flirted and showed all signs of being into me. Except for asking me on a proper date. So I did and got "no spark" answer. I dropped all contact with him. I hear he is now married with a baby. Crucial thing is not to wait around after the rejection has taken place
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Please give some details I liked some guys , we hung out they said I'm pretty , funny etc then when they realized that I liked them I got the " I think you're great but .. " my boyfriend dumped me not too long ago , I gave up dating sites as the ones I liked didn't bother , I'd never approach a guy as I don't want to get rejected I'm way too insecure . I've only had one boyfriend and I'm 27 due to fear of rejection . So far only one guy felt the same about me .
carhill Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 IMO, this is worth exploring.... So, you hung out with some guys and they complimented you both about your appearance and personality (pretty and funny) and they 'realized' that you liked them and summarily rejected you with 'I think you're great but...'. OK, got that, but let's back up a bit. How exactly did they realize you liked them? I'll give an example: When I 'like' a lady, I tend to want to spend my time around her and I look for her; then, after some minor conversations, nothing deep, I ask her on a date. I figure she 'realizes' I like her when she sees me around more than what would be coincidental but the 'move' is asking her on a date. Example: 'I'd love for you to join me for dinner this Friday'. How did it go for you?
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 IMO, this is worth exploring.... So, you hung out with some guys and they complimented you both about your appearance and personality (pretty and funny) and they 'realized' that you liked them and summarily rejected you with 'I think you're great but...'. OK, got that, but let's back up a bit. How exactly did they realize you liked them? I'll give an example: When I 'like' a lady, I tend to want to spend my time around her and I look for her; then, after some minor conversations, nothing deep, I ask her on a date. I figure she 'realizes' I like her when she sees me around more than what would be coincidental but the 'move' is asking her on a date. Example: 'I'd love for you to join me for dinner this Friday'. How did it go for you? Ok this was ages ago but since I hardly date.. I was working in a cinema and liked this guy , we hung out a lot , he complimented me , took me to meet his friends and we went to see movies together . I told others that I liked him , so I am sure he knew . He walked me and my friend to the train station and asked me if I liked him . Before I could say anything he said that he just sees me as a friend . He then had a girlfriend not long after . I always get seen as the friend , not the girlfriend .
tigressA Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I experienced my fair share of rejection. I had a lot of crushes in high school and I know it sounds unheard of but I was bold enough to confess them to the guys' faces. I always got "No", and often more than that: "You're weird", "You're ugly", "You're psycho". Then these guys would have their friends come around me and pretend they did like me after all to get me to fall for it so they could laugh at me even more (thankfully I was never that gullible). You would think after all that I became a shrinking wallflower. Not so. When I had crushes in college I would tell the guy, and I would get rejected, but at least it was in a 'nicer' way. They would just say they didn't see me as more than a friend. I accepted it, moved on.
Casablanca Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Ok this was ages ago but since I hardly date.. I was working in a cinema and liked this guy , we hung out a lot , he complimented me , took me to meet his friends and we went to see movies together . I told others that I liked him , so I am sure he knew . He walked me and my friend to the train station and asked me if I liked him . Before I could say anything he said that he just sees me as a friend . He then had a girlfriend not long after . I always get seen as the friend , not the girlfriend . Hmm odd...I wonder if in this case he was "hanging out" with you and his soon gf to see who he liked the most...dunno
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 Hmm odd...I wonder if in this case he was "hanging out" with you and his soon gf to see who he liked the most...dunno It's Ok , he was a total douche now that I look back
Febreze Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I want to get this over with for once and for all. Are there any women out there who have actually been rejected? First some guidelines. I consider a rejection to be a clear and obvious indication of interest in which the other person said no. Looking at a guy with a flirty expression and him not coming over to you is not a rejection; unless you could tell that he understood your intention and still choose not to approach. Even then, that's a very minor rejection. If that's the worse you got, don't bother. Also, getting dumped is not a rejection. If it has happened to you, please give some details. More is always better. I never been rejected flat-out but when a guy does nothing but stare at me that feels like rejection especially if I made conversation 1st. This has happened quite a bit lately so something's going on with u guys
Kamille Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 (edited) I got rejected four times that I can think of. One was in first year undergrad. Somehow I had this guy's phone number. I called, asked him out, he said no. I felt devastated. Another one was a friend I had a huge crush on for something like a year. Nothing ever happened and when I finally told him I liked him he said he used to feel that way about me but that he then had the hots for someone else. The next one is why women don't ask guys out: Asked a guy out. He said yes. Said he was flattered. We went out on three dates. On the third date, things got hot and heavy. He dumped me two days after. (OUCH!) Asked a guy out. He said yes. We hung out a few times. This time nothing happened but kissing. Still, after a few dates he told me he didn't reciprocate the feelings. (Have learned, from this one, that if I ask a guy out, I have to let him initiate the next date). See... Women get rejected... Or is it just me who gets rejected a lot ? Edited January 6, 2012 by Kamille
jobaba Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I got rejected four times that I can think of. One was in first year undergrad. Somehow I had this guy's phone number. I called, asked him out, he said no. I felt devastated. Another one was a friend I had a huge crush on for something like a year. Nothing ever happened and when I finally told him I liked him he said he used to feel that way about me but that he then had the hots for someone else. The next one is why women don't ask guys out: Asked a guy out. He said yes. Said he was flattered. We went out on three dates. On the third date, things got hot and heavy. He dumped me two days after. (OUCH!) Asked a guy out. He said yes. We hung out a few times. This time nothing happened but kissing. Still, after a few dates he told me he didn't reciprocate the feelings. (Have learned, from this one, that if I ask a guy out, I have to let him initiate the next date). See... Women get rejected... Or is it just me who gets rejected a lot ? The last two don't count. Sorry. I would even hesitate to count the second one. But the first one is solid... So you have one. When I have made out with a woman before and she disses me later, I consider that a WIN!
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