cantforget Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 Ok, some will have been reading my past posts but the whole story is too long to tell again but basically my ex is ignoring me and treating me like ****. I asked if he was back with his ex and he said no. Thought that is maybe why he had thrown my attempts at friendship back in my face. He told me the reason why he is doing this is because he is trying to get on with his life and he cant do this if I am involved in it in anyway. He broke up with me so why would it be difficult for him for us to be friends, I could understand if it was the other way around as it would hurt too much etc, but surely if I can settle for "just friends" then why cant he. Originally he said he wanted to be friends and now apparently I stand in the way of him "getting on with his life" I might be stupid but this makes no sense to me, can anyone understand this and explain it to me. I would appreciate someone elses view point on the situation.
hurtingandconfused Posted June 1, 2004 Posted June 1, 2004 I don't know what he meant by "he is trying to get on with his life and he cant do this if I am involved in it in anyway." But, you have to respect his wishes. He's basically doing you a favor by disallowing a friendship. I'm sorry, but he's right you both have to get on with your lives.
Author cantforget Posted June 1, 2004 Author Posted June 1, 2004 I dont know, his words not mine. He says that we cant be friends because he is trying to get on with his life. I dont understand why this "life" cannot involve me. I agree that I have to respect his wishes though, and I am, I just would like to understand why he wants things to be like this. As I explained, he broke up with me. I am getting on with my life but just because our relationship is over I do not understand why we still cant be a part of one anothers life. I told him he has to do what he feels is right but I do not understand his reasons, maybe because he hasn't given me any. Just thought someone could attempt to feel in the gaps for me.
Author cantforget Posted June 2, 2004 Author Posted June 2, 2004 Well I finally got some answers and some closure. He says its too hard for him to be friends. He told me when we broke up that he still loved me it just wasn't working, I dont know if I am percieving the situation the way that I want to but it seems to me the reason why it is too hard to be friends is because he still has feelings there. In saying that I know he does not want to get back together and to be honest I dont know if I could now after everything that has happened but at least I now know that he doesn't hate me or anything. I thanked him for being honest and giving me closure and said perhaps one day in the future we may be able to try to be friends. I asked him if I passed him in the street or something did he want me to say hi or just go on my way and he said "of course say hi". So this is where things are for me and him at the moment and probably where they will stay for the time being but for the first time in a long time I feel at peace with the situation.
twisted Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 I'm gonna break it down 4 ya. Maybe he just wants to get on with his life. Obviously he dosnt want to be with you. Maybe you need to give him time to think, he could be going through some dumb guy thing, in otherwords his mangina is bleeding. Just back off and move on..... he'll be back. I know from experiance it is eaiser said than done. Trust me though dont call him let him call you, act like you dont give a flyin f*ck about the jerk. Men feed off that sh*t. Turn the tables cheer up
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