lover4721 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Basically, this was my old thread. My ex and I dated 1 year and 6 months.. etc. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t309258/ She broke up with her ex. Wanted me back but I didn't trust her. I kinda ignored her because I didn't want to get attached, then she leaves for her sisters house and maybe finds someone else.. Well she did. She is dating someone across the country. :/ She isn't sure if she loves me. Said a small part of her wants to move on, the rest wants to spend her life with me forever. We used to fight over small things. I didn't like some of her decisions. :/ Her parents made her stick to some thing she said she didn't want to do, so I told her she doesn't need to do it and stay in this activity. So I didn't support her but I'm going to. It's like for the Navy. She said she didn't want to join but I'm not sure. So what do I do? We hung out last night for like 30 minutes. we hugged a lot. We talked. She texted me immediately as she left and said she had a good time and she missed me. She went on Skype, put her status back up saying "Iloveyou. im sorry i removed this! i shouldn't have. it's the truth <3" Is she going to take advantage of me? Now she doesn't miss me.. So is she going to drag me along and date the kid she will never see? What do you think is on her mind? She said to me she didn't want to date me because she doesn't want to lose me again.. haha. If she loved me, don't you think she wouldn't be dating this new kid? I miss her. I want her back. But, I want to know what is on her mind because I don't feel like playing this game anymore. It's this new kid, or it's me and it's final. How will I ever be in a good relationship where I will always be wondering if she is cheating when she goes to see her sister?
Philosoraptor Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Make the decision for her and tell her not to bother. She is not mature enough to be in any sort of relationship based on what you're saying. You are better off healing and moving onto someone who might provide a stable future.
Author lover4721 Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 This was my EDIT but it didn't save. I'm also asking for advice.. What do I do? I don't want to be played anymore. She's dating someone else.. I told her I didn't want to hang because I wouldn't really want her liking someone she's hanging with, if we were to be dating. Do I let her go and let time decide? OR do I tell her, "Hey, I don't want to be dragged along anymore. Who are you picking to be with? Someone you were SO close together with? OR, someone you will never see?" Then if she picks me, I would be paranoid about her going to see her sister again and visiting him because I'm sure she will hang on to him if we don't work out.. :/ Ah. She did say what we had was special. She said it was more than boyfriend and girlfriend, and less than husband and wife. SO basically, that's what it felt like. We were always together everyday. Make the decision for her and tell her not to bother. She is not mature enough to be in any sort of relationship based on what you're saying. You are better off healing and moving onto someone who might provide a stable future. That's true, but it seems like she is starting to make up her mind. It seems like she is trying to make a decision.
Philosoraptor Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 You're allowing yourself to be an option. Read your old thread. You were treated poorly and she kissed someone else while you were together. This is a no brainer and you know it. Odds are she does the same things again as she does not seem to have matured. Do what is best for you right now and cut ties.
Author lover4721 Posted January 7, 2012 Author Posted January 7, 2012 She asked if we will get back together. She said she wants to. I said yeah we can try. She still has yet to breakup with her boyfriend. It seems as if I'm being dragged along..
BoredAgain Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 Yeah, it definitely does seem like you're getting strung along. If she really wanted to work things out with you, she would have dropped the new guy immediately. She sounds extremely confused about what she wants, and confused Dumpers often do quite a bit of damage. There's no doubt that she's going to end up hurting the guy she's with now, and she'll end up hurting you too if you let her.
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 She asked if we will get back together. She said she wants to. I said yeah we can try. She still has yet to breakup with her boyfriend. It seems as if I'm being dragged along.. She has not matured... do not get with someone who is seeking other options while in a relationship.
Author lover4721 Posted January 7, 2012 Author Posted January 7, 2012 Do you think she doesn't want to be alone? She doesn't want to break up with him and then date me and be left with nobody. It kinda seems like a middle school relationship..
Philosoraptor Posted January 8, 2012 Posted January 8, 2012 Do you think she doesn't want to be alone? She doesn't want to break up with him and then date me and be left with nobody. It kinda seems like a middle school relationship.. Yes, many find happiness not in themselves so they cling to relationships as it is much easier than being alone. I'd suggest staying away from this one as she is not mature enough to be in a relationship and is sure to bring you more pain.
Author lover4721 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 Nice thanks. So I'll let her go for awhile and see what happens
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