Buttercup84 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I have been looking at a few dating sites and noticed that nearly all men are obsessed with travel . And they plan on traveling more this year . I like to travel , but these guys seem to be obsessed with it . And why look for a relationship if you want to travel a lot ? Maybe it is just me ...
irc333 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I have been looking at a few dating sites and noticed that nearly all men are obsessed with travel . And they plan on traveling more this year . I like to travel , but these guys seem to be obsessed with it . And why look for a relationship if you want to travel a lot ? Maybe it is just me ... Oh yeah, same with the women....they even have headliners that state, "Have Passport, will travel" Some even require their future mate/date be a proud owner of a passport. That crap can get expensive. Though it's great to do it occasionally, I met this woman on a dating site in person taht does it all the time, I aske dher how often, and she says "Any chance she can get" and she has a not so glamorous profession, so obviously cannot afford it probably.
Author Buttercup84 Posted January 5, 2012 Author Posted January 5, 2012 Oh yeah, same with the women....they even have headliners that state, "Have Passport, will travel" Some even require their future mate/date be a proud owner of a passport. That crap can get expensive. Though it's great to do it occasionally, I met this woman on a dating site in person taht does it all the time, I aske dher how often, and she says "Any chance she can get" and she has a not so glamorous profession, so obviously cannot afford it probably. Wow , I just think these people are not after anything serious . I know I want to travel a bit so that is why I am not dating at the moment . Or they are into extreme sports and going out all the time . Makes me feel boring as my life is pretty , well , normal .
Emilia Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Wow , I just think these people are not after anything serious . I know I want to travel a bit so that is why I am not dating at the moment . Or they are into extreme sports and going out all the time . Makes me feel boring as my life is pretty , well , normal . No no, you are ok. They are saying what they WOULD LIKE to do with their lives, not what they are actually doing. They might have jumped out of a plane once or went on a safari for a week. Wouldn't worry about it
ascendotum Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 (edited) Its the same with women. Many make a fuss about their trips overseas and how they are planning another trip within in the year and or the following year. I take it to be a case of 'I'm living an exciting action packed life, and I expect my potential partner to live an exciting life'. As for relationships, traveling should not exclude them, unless they are planning on being away for more then a month. Maybe some are hoping to find a travel partner. Plenty list it as a hobby/pastime or have 'I love to travel' to to describe themselves. The vast majority of people would love traveling on overseas holidays, its a case of having sufficient spare funds left over from other priorities, family/business responsibilities, friends to travel with, etc. Edited January 5, 2012 by ascendotum
bean1 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I am a travel junkie. The reason people like "me" advertise it is because it is very, very frustrating to have a partner that does not like to travel. I ended up marrying one (haha) he's perfect except we do have this one difference and it's a pain in the ass. When you consider the amount of time, money, and planning around life that traveling requires, it is important to have a partner on the same page. I don't understand why you don't get why they want a relationship? They want a relationship with a woman who wants to travel with them, that seems obvious to me. You make it sound like only single people travel.
silvermercy Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I am a travel junkie. The reason people like "me" advertise it is because it is very, very frustrating to have a partner that does not like to travel. I ended up marrying one (haha) he's perfect except we do have this one difference and it's a pain in the ass. When you consider the amount of time, money, and planning around life that traveling requires, it is important to have a partner on the same page. I don't understand why you don't get why they want a relationship? They want a relationship with a woman who wants to travel with them, that seems obvious to me. You make it sound like only single people travel. Same here!! I haven't travelled that much (probably because I can't find anyone who wants to do that). But I would LOOOOOVE to be a travel junkie and find one. This is a very positive trait for me. I might actually update my profile with these words now. Great idea!! lol
zengirl Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I'm a travel junkie, and I met my husband online. He loves traveling but didn't do TONS before he met me -- but he wanted to. He's not good at planning travels or saving for them, really, but we have planned several trips for the next few years and started paying them off already. For him, my past travels and desire to continue seeing the world were (luckily) a huge bonus to our relationship and something we could share. I don't see why loving travel = wouldn't want a relationship. There are many people who are becoming more mobile today in their careers, even across country borders, and travel can be a lifestyle easily. Granted, I do live in one place most of the year now, but I couldn't commit to living here forever. That doesn't mean I'm not committed to my husband forever. We're just committed to exploring life together. It's lovely.
El Brujo Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I don't understand the whole travel fetish, and I never will. IMO these people will never appreciate Home Sweet Home... unless "home" is a seat in First Class. I don't care if you flew to Mars just to see what it's like; you'll never be able to make me jealous, because Honyockland, Outer Mongolia, B.F. Egypt, and Mars are not my home. It just shows me how shallow you are. But I learned something: never argue with a travel fetishist, because you won't win. One sane person can't win against a zillion crazy people.
irc333 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 He, Brujo, the travel junkie I was talknig to on our date, was kind of laughing how she's gotten 3 speeding tickets within a year...and was bragging about how "Well,on the AUTOBON, you can go has fast as you'd like" Not sure where she was going with that, but that was a red flag . lol I don't understand the whole travel fetish, and I never will. IMO these people will never appreciate Home Sweet Home... unless "home" is a seat in First Class. I don't care if you flew to Mars just to see what it's like; you'll never be able to make me jealous, because Honyockland, Outer Mongolia, B.F. Egypt, and Mars are not my home. It just shows me how shallow you are. But I learned something: never argue with a travel fetishist, because you won't win. One sane person can't win against a zillion crazy people.
bean1 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I don't understand the whole travel fetish, and I never will. IMO these people will never appreciate Home Sweet Home... unless "home" is a seat in First Class. I don't care if you flew to Mars just to see what it's like; you'll never be able to make me jealous, because Honyockland, Outer Mongolia, B.F. Egypt, and Mars are not my home. It just shows me how shallow you are. But I learned something: never argue with a travel fetishist, because you won't win. One sane person can't win against a zillion crazy people. And you think you don't sound just as ridiculous but at the opposite end of the spectrum?
Emilia Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 And you think you don't sound just as ridiculous but at the opposite end of the spectrum? No point arguing with him, he never leaves his house or some other similar affliction
El Brujo Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 And you think you don't sound just as ridiculous but at the opposite end of the spectrum? Hmm, let me think: NOPE!
lululucy Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I am a travel junkie. The reason people like "me" advertise it is because it is very, very frustrating to have a partner that does not like to travel. I ended up marrying one (haha) he's perfect except we do have this one difference and it's a pain in the ass. When you consider the amount of time, money, and planning around life that traveling requires, it is important to have a partner on the same page. I don't understand why you don't get why they want a relationship? They want a relationship with a woman who wants to travel with them, that seems obvious to me. You make it sound like only single people travel. Exactly! I would be incredibly unhappy if I was restricted by my boyfriend/husband from traveling. Of course, I will go by myself if he is uninterested, but I really love seeing new things with someone I love. There's something to be said for the bond created when you're both lost driving in the Lake District, trying to figure out how to drive on the other side of the road with a stick shift -- and you really get to know someone, whether you'll be able to handle serious problems together in the future. IMO these people will never appreciate Home Sweet Home... unless "home" is a seat in First Class. I completely disagree. All my travel junkie friends and myself have "home", it makes traveling that much sweeter. If you don't have somewhere to come back to, it's wandering, not traveling. Sure, there are people with wander-lust but that is way less common than travel junkies.
verhrzn Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I love traveling, but what I'm always surprised about is how so many people can afford it. I get a pretty lenient time-off schedule (12 hours a month), and my wage is pretty middle class, but traveling takes so much time and money.... It boggles my mind how people my age can just jet set off to Las Vegas or Boston for the weekend. Between hotels, plane tickets, and possibly having to take a unpaid vacation day, how do people in their mid-twenties manage to HAVE all of these travel adventures??
serial muse Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I don't really get the point of complaining about this so vehemently...isn't liking/not liking to travel just a data point that's useful in determining compatibility? What's the big deal? It takes all kinds to make a world. If you don't much like traveling and someone says s/he really does in a profile, simply don't message him/her. Problem solved. What drama.
westrock Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 It's important to find out the underlying reason why the person has a need to travel so much. What's their motivation? What do they get out of it?
oaks Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 It's important to find out the underlying reason why the person has a need to travel so much. What's their motivation? What do they get out of it? It's probably a desire (to see the world) rather than a need, unless they're running from the law.
bean1 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 It's important to find out the underlying reason why the person has a need to travel so much. What's their motivation? What do they get out of it? Why do people knit, play sports, look at birds through a binocular....? They find it fun, that's all. I like to travel, my husband doesn't. He thinks people who like to travel, like some here, have some sort of deep-rooted issue that must be fulfilled by wandering the globe - when really, I just like looking at new places, visiting landmarks, etc. There's really not much more to it than that.
carhill Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Learn how to travel cheap and build a network of friends around the world and such a pursuit becomes very do-able for the average person. With the internet, that's pretty easy. I know plenty of men and women who travel 100-250K per year just for work. Are they 'travel junkies'? Nah, they're just working and have families or partners or people they date. Ever met a single flight attendant? Do you think they don't date? There was this Aeroflot FA who lived in Paris..... I don't recall 'advertising' such interests in my OLD profile in the past, rather merely sharing that I enjoy exploring the world and its cultures. Sometimes that is electronically and sometimes in person. When I run across a 'travel junkie', it creates an opportunity for a commonality. I also get to see if they truly like to travel or if they just like talking about it
lululucy Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Why do people knit, play sports, look at birds through a binocular....? They find it fun, that's all. I like to travel, my husband doesn't. He thinks people who like to travel, like some here, have some sort of deep-rooted issue that must be fulfilled by wandering the globe - when really, I just like looking at new places, visiting landmarks, etc. There's really not much more to it than that. I always found that interesting, why people believe that there must be some issue motivating the traveling. In fact, I know two people who hate traveling (h-a-t-e) and both of them have underlying psychological issues with it. Perhaps this reasoning is projecting.
Emilia Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 True Carhil That's why I've always liked hostels. On day 1 it's like having 10 friends and a source of where to go and what to do. Often a couple of new folks to do it with. There's usually a bulletin board about rides, places to stay, borrowing camping equipment, etc. and the beer is always cheap!
Emilia Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I always found that interesting, why people believe that there must be some issue motivating the traveling. In fact, I know two people who hate traveling (h-a-t-e) and both of them have underlying psychological issues with it. Perhaps this reasoning is projecting. I only get this from people whose world is small and who don't try to expand their control zone. I never bother to try to explain just shrug my shoulders. Different strokes.
carhill Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I often barter my skillset for travel, both transport and accommodation, with friends. Also, with the internet, it's easy to manage aspects of business globally from nearly any location so one can mingle work and play quite easily. Even though I make my living doing something else, I often hand out my 'travel card' when meeting new people and invite them to contact me should they ever be curious about how I travel so cheap. This week one went to a systems designer at a DOD contractor who works on the UEV program for the military. He ended up guesting me into the club at the airport so we could continue our conversation during my layover. I learned about UEV's and global communication and he learned about cheap ways to take his family on vacation. He also happened to be a native of a place I enjoy travel to, Hawaii. To me, it's about people. There's a world full of them. Maybe I'm lousy at doing the 'one' thing but better at doing the 'many' thing. I put a solid 20+ years into the 'one' thing. That's enough. Everyone is different.
verhrzn Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I often barter my skillset for travel, both transport and accommodation, with friends. Also, with the internet, it's easy to manage aspects of business globally from nearly any location so one can mingle work and play quite easily. Even though I make my living doing something else, I often hand out my 'travel card' when meeting new people and invite them to contact me should they ever be curious about how I travel so cheap. This week one went to a systems designer at a DOD contractor who works on the UEV program for the military. He ended up guesting me into the club at the airport so we could continue our conversation during my layover. I learned about UEV's and global communication and he learned about cheap ways to take his family on vacation. He also happened to be a native of a place I enjoy travel to, Hawaii. To me, it's about people. There's a world full of them. Maybe I'm lousy at doing the 'one' thing but better at doing the 'many' thing. I put a solid 20+ years into the 'one' thing. That's enough. Everyone is different. Hmm, it seems like you can travel cheap cause you make a lot of connections through the Internet. When I lived in Japan, my fellow JETs had something similar, a travel network of people on whose floor they could crash.... But I've always been way too nervous to do it in the US. Traveling alone, to an unknown city, and connecting with essentially strangers over the Internet makes me a little.... nervous. Unless I'm misunderstanding your travel advice? Here, let's see if you're up for a challenge. I have about $400 of savings available. I would like to visit my friend out in New Haven, CT, but I can't stay with them (apartment too small.) How can I swing it?
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